https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 06:53:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1115821 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 05:56:43 +0000 illumina 1115821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: hey lady. I do hope things have got better with L, but incase they haven't I found this link when researching. We are having slightly similar issues with S. Just the first couple of case studies are really useful about sleep cycles- I haven't read the rest.</p> <p><a href="http://www.babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=85500.0" rel="nofollow">http://www.babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=85500.0</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1109543 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 08:49:42 +0000 Foodnerd81 1109543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: sorry you are still dealing with this! Why won't they just sleep??</p> <p>When I'm getting really frustrated I try to remind myself how frustrated I feel when I can't fall asleep, and I'm an adult who understands. So it must be frustrating for them too. I really try to think of that to give me patience when I'm trying to rock her down to sleep for the third time in an hour ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1109265 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 03:12:17 +0000 .twist. 1109265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skibobrown: we do a bit of co-sleeping out of pure desperation. However, it really isn't a good fit for us, as it kicks DH out of bed. He can't sleep with how noisy L is. </p> <p>@illumina: haha, forcing yourself awake is no way to spend your nights!! </p> <p>@StbHisMrs: it's really not for us either. I really hope this passes soon. </p> <p>Tonight I've managed to get him down asleep. He'll sleep 5 minutes and then wake up. How do I keep him asleep? Little dude needs to cut this out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1109262 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 02:51:45 +0000 StbHisMrs 1109262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: This started 3 days ago for us, and it's brutal. Charlie will be 7 weeks on Saturday, I guess it could be another wonder week, they can come 1-2 weeks early or late according to the book. I've had her sound asleep about 6 times since 9:30, it's now 12:30. I fell asleep for an hour with her on my chest, my neck hurts so bad now, co-sleeping is not for us!</p> <p>* ETA I just realized it's 1, not 12:30. 6 is going to come fast! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1106784 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 05:48:13 +0000 illumina 1106784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: No advice I'm afraid but we're going through the same thing at the moment and have been wondering why S will fall asleep in either of our arms but about a minute after placing her in the moses basket she wakes up and starts crying. I'm sure she's not hungry because I offer her boob and she takes like one suck and pops off. This morning I brought her into bed with us- though like @skibobrown: said, I'm still pretty reluctant to try co-sleeping at this stage, so for a couple of hours I had a sleeping S on one side of me and a sleeping Dh on the other and forced myself to stay awake!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1106686 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 23:10:07 +0000 skibobrown 1106686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is the kind of stuff that made me give up and give co-sleeping a try. I had sworn I'd never do it... until I found out that we all slept better that way on occasions when DD wouldn't go to sleep on her own. Luckily she didn't become too addicted to co-sleeping, so we got her back in her own bed with a pretty easy gradual transition. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1106636 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 22:04:37 +0000 .twist. 1106636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyG: aha yep! It happens to me too. </p> <p>@Cherrybee: he's definitely been a little fussier and hungrier than usual, but I feel like he just came out of his 5 week one and it might be a little too early for the 8 week one?? I have no idea. I'm having such a hard time figuring it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1106069 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 15:29:41 +0000 Cherrybee 1106069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: If his due-date age is around 7 weeks it could be the 8 week wonder week? Is he fussier than usual? Hungrier or less appitite? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1105983 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 14:58:19 +0000 JennyG 1105983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I hear ya on being short. I can't tell you how many times I've tried to put J down only get his blanket stuck between me and the crib and as a result unswaddled him. He usually wakes up and we start over. The joys of being vertically challenged. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1105595 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 12:49:56 +0000 .twist. 1105595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skipper2010: yep, I have a fan going and his sleep sheep. My next step is to drive the car up to his window and just let it idle to vibrate that side of the house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1105579 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 12:45:17 +0000 skipper2010 1105579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Have you tried white noise? We have a sound machine and the sound of rain usually does the trick after a few minutes (as long as he's drowsy). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1105006 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 10:21:09 +0000 .twist. 1105006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: well, I tried waiting a little longer last night and only got moderate success... He stayed asleep when I put him in the crib and then woke up 2 minutes later... Lol</p> <p>@MrsLilybugg: @JennyG: we definitely try these things. I've even tried gently rocking him right in the crib. My problem is I'm pretty short and I can't get him into the crib (even on its highest setting) without bumping the edge... Haha so I'm pretty shaky getting him in. DH is much better but he has to work in the morning and I don't like waking him up. </p> <p>@Bookish: I hope so. :/ this is brutal! </p> <p>@Kemma: I do the gradual lie down, but my shortness makes that a little hard. I will definitely try heating up his bed and lying him on his side! Thank you.</p> <p>@SugarplumsMom: @scg00387: thanks ladies, I totally wrote this on my iPad hahaha it's been a lifesaver! </p> <p>@Foodnerd81: I'm definitely going to start doing this. The only reason I have been changing his diaper still is because we are battling thrush and he has a bad diaper rash. :( </p> <p>@edelweiss: I think you're right. We just need to be more patient with getting him back to sleep. Haha unfortunately for me. </p> <p>@yellowbird: he is 10 weeks, but he was a premie so only developing at a 7ish week baby? I really have no idea if that plays into it. I'm pretty confused by how that works! And yea. If we try to put him down drowsy I'd say we have a 20% success rate, the other 80% is screaming. Haha</p> <p>@Smurfette: I think I definitely have to hold him a bit longer. I can't wait to start sleep training. Hahaha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104531 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 07:36:41 +0000 Smurfette 1104531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree no diaper change unless it feels super full or you know he poop. </p> <p>I would have to hold R for a good 20 mins after she fell asleep before I could put her down. Then I would put her in the crib and lay my hand on her chest for a couple minutes before I would walk out. </p> <p>Hang in there! It is tough. Things only got better for us once we sleep trained. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104524 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 07:32:10 +0000 yellowbird 1104524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How many weeks is he? I cant remember! I def suggest no diaper change unless #2 is involved. </p> <p>This never worked for my lo, but what about trying to put him down drowsy but awake. If he fusses you could pat and shush him? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104479 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 07:02:07 +0000 edelweiss 1104479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>like the others have said, i think going without a diaper change is a good idea if there's no poop!</p> <p>when my LO started to not fall asleep after a night feeding, i honestly was at a loss. i went back and nursed him a couple of times the first few nights, but eventually i just put him back in the crib and left him alone. he usually fussed for about 15-20 minutes before going back to sleep (and if he didn't, i would keep going back and try to nurse him to sleep). 15-20 minutes feels like a long time at night, though, so i understand if this is not an appealing option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104468 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 06:53:01 +0000 Bookish 1104468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: @sslm: Ah, I missed where she said there was a diaper change involved. I agree with y'all, If he's not poopin, skip the diaper change and that won't wake him up nearly as much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104466 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 06:51:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 1104466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh and we leave it dark the whole time. I turn the dinner all the way down so I can just see that her eyes are open or closed pretty much. But I'm guessing you are already doing that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104459 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 06:46:18 +0000 sslm 1104459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: was going to suggest the same! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104455 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 06:42:32 +0000 Foodnerd81 1104455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you try not changing the diaper? I don't unswaddle or diaper change in the middle of the night- she almost always only pees during the night. It helps Keep her half asleep for the whole thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104446 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 06:17:07 +0000 immabeetoo 1104446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto to what @SugarplumsMom said! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104441 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 05:52:09 +0000 swedishfish 1104441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: putting the mobile on for R has helped her fall asleep. I stay with her for the entire first time and then put it on again and leave quietly. </p> <p>My DH's grandfather made her fall asleep last week by stroking her nose for a few minutes. It worked for DH as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104426 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 04:39:31 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1104426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, I remember those days! This was the reason why I got an iPad! I wish I had advice for you, but I do know that it'll pass. He's probably just going through a developmental phase. I hope sorts itself out soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104421 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 04:11:40 +0000 Kemma 1104421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you try putting him in bed feet first and gradually lying him down? Warming up his bed with a hot water bottle or wheatbag? Lie him on his side then roll him on to his back?</p> <p>Hang in there Mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104420 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 03:58:15 +0000 Bookish 1104420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( I sick at getting LO back to sleep...so I have no advice, unfortunately, just sympathy. Maybe it's a growth spurt? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104418 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 03:04:03 +0000 JennyG 1104418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When you put him down, does he start crying? J started doing this. I try leaving him in there, but staying in the nursery ( like I am right now) and waiting to see if he'll go back to sleep. Most times, I have to retuck his arms into his deafen and replace a pacifier, but he usually goes back to sleep on his own. I know that's not much help if he's fussing a lot when you put him down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104416 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 02:24:39 +0000 MrsLilybugg 1104416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When you put him down maybe you can leave one hand on his back (so he'd be laying on top of it) and the other on his belly for a few minutes. To kind of "trick" him into thinking he's still bring held. Then slowly pull your bottom hand out and after that ( if he's not already awake :( ......) lift your hand that was on his tummy slowly. Maybe you already do this but sometimes that's what I have to do. I hope you got some sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104414 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 02:08:52 +0000 Grace 1104414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How long has he been asleep in your arms? Babies go into a much deeper sleep at 20 min, so if it's been that long, you could try again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104396 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 01:28:17 +0000 .twist. 1104396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>L used to be fine to put down in his crib after each night feeding and he would go back to sleep fine. It might've taken a bit of coaxing but he would eventually stay down. </p> <p>The last week has been brutal. He absolutely refuses to go to sleep in his crib after his initial put down. He sleeps from about 9pm for ~3 hours and then is up for a feeding. I change his diaper, nurse him to sleep and then ever so gently put him in his crib.</p> <p>He instantly wake up. No matter how many times I bounce, rock him to sleep, or how careful I am to put him down, the instant his butt or head or both hit the bed, he's awake. Last night hew was awake from 1am - 3am. Right now he's asleep in my arms in the rocker because I gave up trying to put him down.</p> <p>I'm starting to lose my mind! What do/can I do? This mama needs sleep!! :sad: </p>