https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 13:42:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2414064 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 13:47:58 +0000 Trailmix 2414064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't go out for basically every reason you listed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2414001 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 12:59:24 +0000 BeachMama 2414001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I chose that I'm tired and Other - my parents live 10 min away but they already watch DS 2x week so I usually feel bad about asking them. Plus, when they do babysit they usually just keep the kids at their house and DS still wakes up 1-2x nightly so I feel bad about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413879 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 11:28:04 +0000 NavyRN2012 2413879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have no family anywhere close to us, and I am waaaay too paranoid about leaving them with someone who isn't family. My daughter is pretty difficult and I just don't trust someone who doesn't know and love her to not lose their temper with her. I figure they're only this little for such a short time that we will be able to date one day soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413825 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 10:56:22 +0000 LovelyPlum 2413825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money. It rarely seems worth the cost of a sitter plus dinner/activity, etc. We stress about the cost more than we relax together. But we do love to do family dates, where we all go out to eat, when the budget is there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413820 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 10:50:17 +0000 Happygal 2413820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A combo, the first driving factor being that we're homebodies and pretty content at home. </p> <p>But for awhile, my daughter would wake and the only thing that would settle her would be to nurse. Then there's the cost--we're trying to be frugal since we just bought a house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413778 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 10:22:45 +0000 Chillybear 2413778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pre-baby most of our weekend dates consisted of going out to dinner (nowhere fancy- a bar or chain restaurant) or maybe the movies. Occasionally we'd go to a concert or party. </p> <p>Post baby if we want to go out to a restaurant most of our favorites easily accommodate bringing LO with us, or we feed her and put her to bed a little early and order in take out and watch a movie. If something comes up, like a movie we really want to see in the theater, my mom and dad love to babysit but it means doing those things near their house (about an hour away). My inlaws rarely offer to babysit (they live 5 min away) and we always have to ask well in advance. </p> <p>I try to plan a couple over nights a year but man do those get expensive. I got tickets to a concert in philly for hubs christmas gift and we decided to get a hotel room that night. If i added it up it will probably cost us about $300 that night between dinner, hotel, and tickets. But luckily my mom will have LO for the night </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413750 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 10:04:20 +0000 californiadreams 2413750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i voted that babysitter cost too much, hard to find someone i trust, and we are tired. currently we have one babysitter (a former nanny) and she is not always available. I have not yet ventured into finding someone who only does occasional babysitting. i like using our former nannies because we already got to know and trust them. they are expensive though!</p> <p>and we are usually too tired, so it would be a lot to go out every week or every other week. once every couple of months or so is nice. and we tend to do a date night when my mom visits. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413710 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 09:37:07 +0000 looch 2413710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have family that can sit for us, but my husband feels guilty if we use them too much on the weekends. My son is also at the age where he really wants to spend time with us (if I ask him what he wants to do, he says stay with us), so I really think the right poll category for us would be guilt, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413660 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 08:42:55 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 2413660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now we have a 6 week old who is EBF and I am pumping occasionally to stock up for when I go back to work so that just gets complicated. Our toddler is fine going with family who are luckily always chomping at the bit to get her. Also, DH likes to stay home most of the time. It's like pulling teeth to go out to dinner and actually eat out vs bring it home. We would love to go out more but life just gets in the way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413653 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 08:38:59 +0000 tinyperson 2413653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have any babysitters in the area, unless my parents are in town (but when they are, it's usually for something specific, like a family birthday or other function so there's really no opportunity to go out). Our daughter (3) also gets up early, so I don't like to be out late, and she doesn't do well with someone else putting her to bed (other than ourselves or grandma), so the window for getting out and doing something in the evenings is small, and I don't like missing out on playtime with her on weekends. </p> <p>Thankfully, when we visit my parents, we can get out for dinner or lunch or a movie, and also, DH works 5 minutes from home and I work from home quite often, so we do lunch dates or grocery dates together during the week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413608 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 07:45:31 +0000 Littlebit7 2413608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyann: this. Mine works so late during the week (and has work social obligations also) the last thing he wants to do is go outing the weekends. I don't mind; when he's home it's nice to stay in and cook. (Assuming baby is asleep) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413601 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 07:29:42 +0000 JoJoGirl 2413601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money. Babysitters around here charge like $13/hr. We get dinner. We're now out like $150 for the evening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413595 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 07:01:13 +0000 blackbird 2413595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lately, I work a lot of weekend nights. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413578 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 04:23:18 +0000 lamariniere 2413578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a tie between not having a reliable babysitter and wanting the date to be worth the cost of hiring the sitter/going out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413570 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 02:13:31 +0000 CRGmama 2413570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I chose other. We get out a decent amount but it's usually for something specific like someone's birthday, a party, group get-together etc, so it's almost always with other friends. Combine that with asking our parents to fill in for little babysitting things here and there I feel bad asking for more time. And then I don't want to pay a babysitter (even though we have one I trust). We are definitely due for a one on one date night, though. And I'm hoping that now that the holidays are over our social calendar will mellow out a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413553 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 00:20:37 +0000 PurplePeony 2413553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mainly because we don't plan ahead enough. For the most part, things we can do on the spur of the moment are things I don't particularly enjoy, like seeing movies in the theater. If we're going to pay for a sitter. I at least want to have fun on the date. I wouldn't mind going to see plays or concerts more often, but then the costs really add up. I guess we need to put more effort into finding fun date ideas, but I'm tired. Plus, DD doesn't like being put to bed by other people, so our choices are either to risk a meltdown and hope it will be okay or wait until she's in bed to leave, by which time I'm usually cranky and tired myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413523 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 23:05:49 +0000 sleepybear 2413523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, all of the above...we don't live near family (and move a lot, so once I find someone who I'd be okay with baby sitting either we move or they do). Then there's the added cost of a baby sitter, the fact that I'd be stressed about LO the whole time, we'd have to plan ahead, and I just like snuggling on the couch in my jammies... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413506 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 22:42:44 +0000 Andrea 2413506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Combo of not wanting to pay money for a sitter and we just like spending time at home together. We usually go out if our parents visit, which is just once a year each, but that is fine for us. Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413437 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 21:11:59 +0000 Madison43 2413437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mom guilt. I already feel guilty enough about the time they spend with their nanny during the work week that I can't imagine having them spend more time with her so we can go out. not super healthy, I know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more/page/2#post-2413394 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:45:43 +0000 wheres_c 2413394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Lol I feel the SAME way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more#post-2413391 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:44:43 +0000 rachiecakes 2413391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We work opposite schedules (I work days, he works nights and weekends) so the time we get to spend together we like to spend as a family. You know, so our son remembers he has two parents that live together :silly:</p> <p>ETA and we don't have family or a regular sitter available if the opportunity comes up last minute. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more#post-2413371 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:22:43 +0000 Me3 2413371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have crazy anxiety about leaving my kids with non family members. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more#post-2413365 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:13:05 +0000 lady baltimore 2413365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are homebodies, for the most part. LO is only 5 weeks old, but her grandparents have already expressed their willingness/eagerness to watch her if we suddenly decide we'd rather go out to dinner than order Chinese. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more#post-2413351 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 19:54:50 +0000 catgirl 2413351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely a combination of factors. DH works a bizarre schedule, we don't live near family, DH is still not really comfortable leaving her with a non family babysitter, even if I could convince DH to use a stranger he would freak at the cost, and honestly we just enjoy spending time with DD. </p> <p>We set aside a night or two each week where we don't just zone out with netflix and try to have a date at home. This time in life is short and we do the best we can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more#post-2413284 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 19:01:19 +0000 yellowbird 2413284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have no babysitter! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more#post-2413279 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:57:49 +0000 regberadaisy 2413279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is a combo of we didn't want to leave LO with anyone but family, to babysitters cost too much and we couldn't find anyone we host. But after 3.5 years we are ready to start using their daycare teachers for dates. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more#post-2413268 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:43:56 +0000 Lilbear 2413268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our DD was being treated for a hereditary seizure disorder for 2 years (started at 6 months old) so we had a long while where we didn't feel comfortable leaving her with a non-grandparent. Once her meds &amp; situation was better under control, we opened an account with care.com (about a year ago) and found some great babysitters. We started going on dates once a month and it was awesome. </p> <p>Now we are expecting LO#2 in March, so we will probably hunker down and stop going out (aside from grandparent babysitters) until LO2 is a little bit older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more#post-2413257 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:36:07 +0000 birdofafeather 2413257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Babysitter cost and finding one as we're not nearby family. When we do visit, they're usually watching the kid so I can work or see my GFs. We have been trying to do day dates when the oldest is at preschool when he's off work. I don't feel comfortable leaving my 2 month old with anyone but my mom at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more#post-2413235 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:21:49 +0000 HabesBabe 2413235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKoala: @ElbieKay: LOL, you guys summed it up perfectly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-dont-you-and-your-so-go-out-more#post-2413234 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:21:43 +0000 youboots 2413234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Other- she's easy to take out and is only 10 months so we don't prefer to be away from her. We have plenty of grandma care on both sides. We've done things without her about 1x a month. </p>