https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 17:49:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898414 Thu, 03 Oct 2019 09:10:31 +0000 graceandjoy 2898414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: The 2 nights I spent at the hospital ALONE after DD2 arrived was totally the "best" hahaha. Of course I missed my 1st born as I had never been away from her overnight. Even DD2 wasn't in the room with me b/c she was in NICU. Even with recovering from giving birth, pumping around the clock for milk to come in, it totally felt like vacation! Now I'm kinda looking forward to giving birth to #3, haha. </p> <p>@jennlin821: In all seriousness, I replied yesterday to just commiserate and make sure you know that you are not alone in this. I know for myself, the feeling is so hard to articulate or even pinpoint. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898398 Thu, 03 Oct 2019 02:31:38 +0000 Dynamite 2898398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I lost my job b/c I have a shitty credit score. My DH is getting bounced checks from his work. Sexism is also making things difficult for me right now. Basically I have 99 problems and capitalism and the patriarchy are all of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898339 Wed, 02 Oct 2019 10:32:47 +0000 graceandjoy 2898339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear you, totally feel that way sometimes too. Big hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898331 Wed, 02 Oct 2019 08:32:49 +0000 Anagram 2898331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: =( Hope you can find a way to make some changes so you get the support you need!</p> <p>I sometimes feel like that, too....but I've had a string of never ending health issues the past 2 years, and my husband has always stepped up when I really need it (and when he can't do everything I need, I fly my mom out to help me/help him/take the kids). I just had surgery 3 weeks ago, and my husband slept in the kids' room for 2.5 weeks so I wouldn't be disturbed at night/early morning ever, and my mom came and did everything else. So I didn't lift a finger to cook or do childcare or anything for at least 4-5 days, and then another week of totally being off duty for overnights/early mornings. Everyone should have that kind of support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898326 Wed, 02 Oct 2019 08:12:42 +0000 wrkbrk 2898326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: That is GENIUS!!! I mean let’s be honest you were recovering from major surgery. But it sounds so nice! Hahahahaha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898316 Wed, 02 Oct 2019 05:52:24 +0000 SweetiePie 2898316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: @wrkbrk: have you guys seen Bad Moms? There’s a scene where one mom says she fantasizes about getting into a car accident but not a really bad one just one where she needs to be hospitalized for a few days so she can lay in bed and be waited on (the actual line is way funnier). It made me literally laugh out loud because it’s so awful but so true. When I had my 2nd baby I literally treated it like a spa. I had a RCS so I knew I’d be there a few days. I didn’t BF (for various reasons) so at night I kept him in the nursery and even sometimes during the day so I could shower or nap or whatever. I read books and packed face masks. Packed cute pajamas and a robe and slippers. Didn’t miss a single meal and ate every bite while it was still hot. None of which I did the first time. But the 2nd time? I was like “this is such a break!!!!” And I knew it would all end when I got home so I MILKED IT. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898309 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 20:58:38 +0000 wrkbrk 2898309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: Exactly this. Even just a hug would be nice..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898308 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 20:58:09 +0000 wrkbrk 2898308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: I’ve had this same thought but TBH things would just be the same - with a cold. Work doesn’t GAF and my young son still needs things and my wife has her stuff......blah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898307 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 20:57:15 +0000 wrkbrk 2898307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel exactly the same way. :( I take it that it’s pretty common. My spouse certainly does her share of the house stuff and parenting but I don’t feel like anyone is taking care of my emotions and mental wellness - unless you count my therapist, and I pay her. 😂😩 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898297 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 17:47:41 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2898297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I wish I could catch a really bad cold just so I can be pampered for a few days! (Although, let’s face it, I still wouldn’t be pampered!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898282 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 13:27:09 +0000 pachamama 2898282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same. So so so many days I yearn for when I had such few responsibilities and no one's life literally depended on me. Sometimes I just want to run away. 😟 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898274 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 12:20:30 +0000 LadyDi 2898274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! Some days sure are harder than others. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898267 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 11:53:03 +0000 psw27 2898267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel exactly the same way. When will anyone care about me? :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898260 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 11:23:42 +0000 jennlin821 2898260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: @bhbee: @Baby Boy Mom:<br /> Thank you!</p> <p>I just needed to vent, its been a very very trying couple of days. I got to work and couldn't function so I wrote the post. I will probably write a more specific post with questions, I just don't have the time to write a book right now :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898255 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 10:23:38 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2898255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear you! I think so many moms feel this way! Let us know if there is anything specific we can help you brainstorm solutions for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898237 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 09:29:01 +0000 bhbee 2898237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear you loud and clear. I wish it wasn’t this way for so many :bummed: hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898232 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 08:59:15 +0000 Ajsmommy 2898232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs!!!</p> <p>I was just thinking last night during my run that I deserve so much more... from a LOT of aspects in my life and I am wondering why I am not getting what I deserve. Maybe I have let my standards slip....??? </p> <p>It's not fair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-it-my-responsibility#post-2898228 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 08:46:43 +0000 jennlin821 2898228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Why is it my responsibility to hold everyone else up?<br /> Why is it my responsibility to come up with the plan the fix everything?<br /> to plan everything?<br /> to support everyone? </p> <p>Who is holding me, who is planning for me, who is coaching me?</p> <p>I'm tired of being the lightening rod. </p>