https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 23:20:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-my-kid-such-a-jerk#post-1950648 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 12:31:51 +0000 KT326 1950648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kid was the bully at daycare. Still is sometimes but he is slowly growing out of it. Just keep doing what you are doing, remove him from the situation if possible. DS had to be shadowed a few times at daycare because he was pushing the smaller kids. When he was moved up to the next class and could start communicating more he got a lot better about being nice. At 2.5 he still has his moments but they are getting fewer and fewer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-my-kid-such-a-jerk#post-1950632 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 12:24:57 +0000 .twist. 1950632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ra: I agree that continuing to do what you're doing and he will most likely grow out of it. But it does suck when you're in the thick of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-my-kid-such-a-jerk#post-1950626 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 12:22:32 +0000 mrbee 1950626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ra: At that age, we only had luck with natural consequences... if we removed our kids from a situation immediately after an aggressive action, they would usually get what was happening fairly quickly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-my-kid-such-a-jerk#post-1950624 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 12:21:47 +0000 swurlygurl 1950624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ra: I think kids eventually grow out of it as long as parents continue trying - you can tell the kids who have parents that don't care :( Lots and lots of public exposure, I guess. Or, you could be a bully back... haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-my-kid-such-a-jerk#post-1950619 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 12:19:37 +0000 Ra 1950619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: Ugh. Yeah, I feel like he needs a taste of his own medicine! We are one-and-done which makes reinforcing manners that much harder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-my-kid-such-a-jerk#post-1950600 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 12:11:55 +0000 swurlygurl 1950600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>L is tiny and is such a bully! There's a toddler her same age at daycare who is so much bigger than she is and she constantly bullies him :(<br /> I teach manners as best I can, but I think until she has a sibling to constantly contend with (and I can be in charge of managing her interactions with other kids, unlike daycare) she won't get much better :( Baby sis is almost 3 months, so L is about to get some much needed life lessons! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-my-kid-such-a-jerk#post-1950588 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 12:07:22 +0000 Ra 1950588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe! I don't really know any older kids. One of my friends has a son who is 3 months older. Max is awesome about taking turns and would be a good influence. The problem is, he is super laid back and just lets B walk all over him. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-my-kid-such-a-jerk#post-1950583 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 12:04:12 +0000 .twist. 1950583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you think he's ready to be with some bigger kids? Maybe he needs to be around some older kids to see how they interact and play and have some of them reinforce with him that the toy they are playing with is theirs? </p> <p>I'm just throwing stuff out there, honestly, I'm not sure what I would do either because it sounds like you're doing everything I would think to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-my-kid-such-a-jerk#post-1950581 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 12:02:04 +0000 Ra 1950581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong.</p> <p>I love B to death. He is the cutest, most lovable little dude ever. He's also a total jerk. </p> <p>I've been noticing that he is the bully at preschool (one day ones program--I'm there), My Gym, and when I nanny/have play dates. B snatches toys from other kids, immediately wants what everyone else has, plows down other kids to get what/where he wants, etc. he's really big for his age and uses his size to physically push and knock kids out of his way. It's so embarrassing!</p> <p>At first I thought it was normal behavior for his age (17 months) but none of the other kids in his classes are like this. I reinforce taking turns, make him give toys back when he snatches, and use lots of positive reinforcement. I don't know what else I can do. </p> <p>Please help me prevent my kid from being the class bully! </p>