https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 18:05:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-36812 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 08:42:23 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 36812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>TTCings plays a big role with the mind. And the mind plays a big role in getting pregnant. I know we tried for 6 months with no luck. The moment we decided to stop and wait until next year I got pregnant. </p> <p>I know people hate hearing it... but the TTCing process and the over thinking it really affects your chances of getting pregnant (for those who don't have fertility issues) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-36769 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 06:02:11 +0000 jaguar 36769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It really is a kick in the guts. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-35183 Fri, 16 Dec 2011 11:16:17 +0000 ALittleP 35183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>TTC was VERY difficult for us. I got pregnant about 4 months after going off the pill. Then, shortly after, I had a miscarriage. For 9 long months after the miscarriage, we tried before getting pregnant again in November. We were about to start an IVF cycle - I'm 36 and my DH is 43...I don't have advice to help make it easier but just know it is worth the wait! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-35048 Fri, 16 Dec 2011 00:44:19 +0000 Kemma 35048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been trying for eight months now (I'm in the TWW of cycle nine) but I have to say watching one of my best girlfriends going through IVF has been a sobering and grounding experience.</p> <p>Although I'm frustrated that we're not pregnant yet I know that it could be much, much worse (we have no known fertility issues) and I also know that even if we have fertility issues there is light at the end of the tunnel as my friend is 18 weeks pregnant with her IVF baby!!</p> <p>It's funny though because when we started out I would plan ahead in case we got pregnant (what about Christmas? what about a dress for that wedding in nine months?) whereas now I try not to think about it and just get on with life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34651 Thu, 15 Dec 2011 11:45:18 +0000 carrieknitscake 34651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KRunRun: Me too. Catholic school really did a number on my head about conceiving and sex. I thought it was like when a guy looked at a girl, "Boom, pregnant!" I think I made it worse by going to two Catholic universities as well. I definitely didn't want a Mrs. degree or a baby before I graduated. Now as an adult and fully understanding the human reproductive system, I learned that it's a lot hard to conceive than I thought as a kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34648 Thu, 15 Dec 2011 11:42:23 +0000 carrieknitscake 34648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard because you want it so bad. It's also not as easy as picking out a ring, a venue, etc. Planning a wedding was way easier than planning a life and TTC. </p> <p>With TTC, you're at the mercy of statistics, your body, his body, and everything else. It's tough when AF arrives and makes you feel like a failure when in fact, you're completely normal. For some couples, they can get pregnant easily. For others, it takes some time. Seeing all of those BFPs on this board and the other board can hurt too even if you don't know them in person because it's what you want and dream about. It's difficult when you see others with beautiful bouncing babies when you want it so bad. If it was easy, they wouldn't call it "Trying to Conceive." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34639 Thu, 15 Dec 2011 11:32:39 +0000 KRunRun 34639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo - Exactly! I have so many years of Catholic School indoctrination that getting pregnant was the one way to ruin my life! I thought it would take only one or two tries to actually happen. Not so much... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34616 Thu, 15 Dec 2011 11:09:40 +0000 TheFixIts 34616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is an unbelievable emotional kick in the pants. The highs of hope each month is such a rush, and the let-down is so disappointing. UGH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34446 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 22:06:27 +0000 hilsy85 34446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: So true!! After all those horror stories about getting pregnant accidently, who would have thought it would take so much effort once we're actually trying? :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34286 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 19:49:22 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 34286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard because you spend so much of your life ensuring that you don't get knocked up. So when you're finally there and ready for it, you expect it to happen quickly. And when it doesn't, it really is disconcerting. Especially because we have so little control over it. My mantra became "be proactive, but don't obsess." It helped sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34212 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 17:26:07 +0000 tequiero21 34212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>sigh. brings back memories. it's definitely discouraging, especially when you've been trying for 3-4 years and specialists state that there isn't an apparent problem with either of us. for us, we kept positive because we had a game plan. if we didn't get pregnant by a certain time, we'd see a specialist and see from there. that really helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34156 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 16:46:46 +0000 Mrsbells 34156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a guy friend , i am friends with his wife too, they have been trying to have a baby for atleast 3.5 years now... Its very discouraging to hear them talk about their journey and struggle. It sometimes makes me question the whole "order" of life. I actually felt guilty when I got pregnant so easily and they have been trying to hard for so long. its just one of those things that comes to different people at different times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34153 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 16:43:27 +0000 hellobeeboston 34153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>your post could be me exactly! I usually feel most disappointed the day AF shows up, then I think about how I'll make the next month work better (hopefully)... I'm trying not to stress too much, but it's hard, I, too, am doubting my body. I figured I'd get pregnant right away, but that's not happening for me either. My husband is also great at keeping me optimistic, I usually treat myself to wine or sushi, and gear up for the next try. I figure it will happen when it's right.... my life seems to be playing out that way, it must not be our time..</p> <p>keep positive! it will happen... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34126 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 16:21:04 +0000 leelee 34126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>TTC is definitely an emotional journey. When we were TTC we always made plans for just in case we got a BFN. So while it was still depressing we always had something to look forward to that we wouldn't be able to do if I were pregnant. During the time we were TTC we ended up doing a mud run marathon, went wine tasting, Vegas, and white water rafting.</p> <p>Goodluck! I hope u get ur BFP soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-is-ttc-so-hard#post-34099 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 15:52:34 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 34099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>AF came yesterday, along with the inevitable disappointment. It really got me thinking. I used to think that once I decided to have a baby that I would get pregnant within a couple months. That hasn't been the case. I think TTC is hard for me emotionally because it has made me doubt myself. It makes me wonder if something is wrong with my body. I don't have these thoughts constantly because my husband is good at keeping me optimistic.</p> <p>Was/Is TTC hard on you emotionally? How do you stay positive? </p>