https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 10:02:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786971 Thu, 16 May 2013 14:26:20 +0000 lovehoneybee 786971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If cool is defined as popular than yes...and no, lol. I won't care if he doesn't have a billion friends and isn't voted prom king, but I don't want him to be a social outcast, either. I want him to be smart, to be able to laugh at himself, and to have at least a few really good friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786953 Thu, 16 May 2013 14:23:23 +0000 LovelyPlum 786953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If cool means "following the crowd" or conforming for the sake of conforming, then no way. I want our LOs to be comfortable being themselves. My mom was always much more concerned with developing our self confidence than whether or not we fit in. It has served me well in more ways than I can count!</p> <p>I'm pretty sure our LOs will not stand much of a chance at being cool, though...DH and I are huge nerds. Oh well ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786760 Thu, 16 May 2013 13:59:33 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 786760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My only concern is that my girls are their authentic selves and that they are kind to others. Cool or uncool doesn't matter to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786510 Thu, 16 May 2013 13:22:56 +0000 DigAPony 786510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want my kids to be happy and confident in themselves so that they find their own niche and group of friends and don't feel pressured to be "cool." This is a lofty goal, and one I didn't achieve until I was older, but that's what I hope for.</p> <p>When I was in middle school and high school, the "cool" kids were mostly terrible snobs, so in that sense, no, I won't care if my kids are "uncool"! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786456 Thu, 16 May 2013 13:09:51 +0000 Meridian 786456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: That is awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786297 Thu, 16 May 2013 12:34:08 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 786297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: @googly-eyes: @Mrs. Pen: Exactly what you ladies are saying. I want my son to be a good person (kind, compassionate, and honest) *and* I want him to comfortable being that person. Although, with the way teenagers treat each other, sometimes I think both those things are a tall order!</p> <p>But, also, please Universe don't make him the most popular kid. That kid is either A) a jerk or B) under tons of peer pressure to be a jerk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786287 Thu, 16 May 2013 12:30:56 +0000 .twist. 786287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't need them to be the most popular ever. I just want them to have friends. </p> <p>Our eldest is a bit of (ok, hugely so) an outcast. My heart seriously breaks for him. There was a cubs event where you could bring a friend and he just said "what friends? I don't have any". When we drop him off to school he stand in the line up by himself while the other kids play. </p> <p>I don't wish this on any child and certainly wish that my step son had at least one good friend to be with during and after school. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786271 Thu, 16 May 2013 12:26:42 +0000 teamjse 786271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope LO is the good mix of DH, he was cool and really smart. Even though he did get tease in middle school for having a big head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786207 Thu, 16 May 2013 12:08:20 +0000 SugarplumsMom 786207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't care if she's uncool, I think it's better than trying to be cool. But so far, she seems so social ... not sure where she gets that from, but I'm guessing I won't have to worry too much. I'm hoping she's not so into popularity. </p> <p>I'm hoping she's nerdy enough about something that interests her and eventually doesn't care too much about what others think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786127 Thu, 16 May 2013 11:45:30 +0000 Smurfette 786127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as she is happy and has friends wont matter to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-786008 Thu, 16 May 2013 11:15:45 +0000 Mrs. Pen 786008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want my children to be happy, compassionate and unafraid to love. I wish them to be hard-working, honest, loyal and friendly. I hope they stand firm in what they believe, are courageous and not afraid to stand up for themselves. I hope that they are kind and respectful, thoughtful and devoted.</p> <p>Those things matter. If as a result they are popular/cool - that's an amazing opportunity for them to set a good example... but if those things make them uncool- then absolutely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785988 Thu, 16 May 2013 11:12:05 +0000 Bookish 785988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uncool is fine by me, as long as she has confidence and is happy! I was definitely an uncool kid, and while I had friends, the bullying could be pretty vicious. I hope I can raise LO to feel more confident in who she is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785945 Thu, 16 May 2013 11:05:47 +0000 MrsBrewer 785945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't matter either way! As long as they are happy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785937 Thu, 16 May 2013 11:03:26 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 785937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*no LO's yet* but I would hope if/when I have a LO that he/she would be like me. I wasn't in the popular clique but I also wasn't picked on. So, somewhere in the middle I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785923 Thu, 16 May 2013 11:00:57 +0000 googly-eyes 785923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd rather her be a good person than be cool. In the long run it'll do her more good, I think.</p> <p>But I'd be lying if I said I would be ok with her being the least cool kid in the room. I'd feel terrible; I want her to be well balanced and happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785900 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:57:54 +0000 StbHisMrs 785900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>C is not part of the cool kids, he has been bullied and called a nerd. It doesn't seem to phase him, he embraces his nerdiness. He is also the class clown, full of energy and gers along with mostly everyone. He is absolutely his Fathers son. I wasn't popular, or unpopular, stuck in the middle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785724 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:20:58 +0000 swurlygurl 785724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Haha, that is hilarious! I especially loved the part about her remembering that she cut her grapes for her :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785720 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:20:28 +0000 swurlygurl 785720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was 'uncool' in school, but not bully material, and that's kind of what I want for my daughter. It kept me out of trouble, and helped me appreciate everyone. NOT saying that cool kids are necessarily bad, but from my viewpoint they had a lot more pressure to deal with.</p> <p>If I could have it both ways, I'd want her to be cool/popular but still a great kid that made all the right choices.</p> <p>If I had to choose one, I'd choose uncool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785705 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:17:05 +0000 shopaholic 785705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: that is awesome!</p> <p>@Mrs. Bee: it would be impossible for Charlie not to be cool! He's already one of the coolest kids I've ever seen! ;)</p> <p>I wouldn't care so long as they are not too awkward and don't get bullied. But these days, it seems everyone celebrates their individual quirks and even being uncool is really cool! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785704 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:16:55 +0000 heffalump 785704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I were both band geeks..... being cool just doesn't run in our family. Of course it was hard to be uncool in high school..... but now I've learned to appreciate my quirks so hopefully she will too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785702 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:16:45 +0000 mrs. wagon 785702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was extremely uncool and painfully shy when I moved to a new town in 3rd grade. This was really traumatic for me! I had a horrible middle school and high school experience because of it. My town was very sports-centric and I was forbidden to play any sports so that didn't help matters. </p> <p>If my kids are as shy and introverted as I was, I'd try and let them do whatever they wanted to get involved with other kids. </p> <p>I'd love it if my kids were the same as Wagon Sr. and I were-- brainy, so in the "it's cool to study and get good grades" group. (but I was too shy to really involve myself with those kids as well.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785663 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:07:24 +0000 runsyellowlites 785663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>G is rides the line of being cool &amp; uncool depending on the situation. The kids in the neighborhood love to come ask him to play BUT if they're trying to get into trouble G quickly becomes uncool. I don't have a preference any way, just that he's confident in himself regardless of social status.</p> <p>Tbh I knew lot of "popular" kids that still dealt with bullying (mainly comments made about their family circumstance if things weren't well or the details of their relationship, much like we see with celebrities).. Unless your the one that can ruin anothers reputation, I don't think anyone is immune to being bullied. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785636 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:01:10 +0000 Anagram 785636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope she has an awkward phase, just long enough to keep the boys away until she is older (like um...maybe college? lol), just like in Tina Fey's awesome prayer for her daughter:</p> <p>First, Lord: No tattoos. May neither Chinese symbol for truth nor Winnie-the-Pooh holding the FSU logo stain her tender haunches.</p> <p>May she be Beautiful but not Damaged, for it’s the Damage that draws the creepy soccer coach’s eye, not the the Beauty.</p> <p>When the Crystal Meth is offered, May she remember the parents who cut her grapes in half And stick with Beer.</p> <p>Guide her, protect her When crossing the street, stepping onto boats, swimming in the ocean, swimming in pools, walking near pools, standing on the nearby subway platform, crossing 86th Street, stepping off of boats, using mall restrooms, getting on and off escalators, driving on country roads while arguing, leaning on large windows, walking in parking lots, riding Ferris wheels, roller-coasters, log flumes, or anything called “Hell Drop,” “Tower of Torture,” or “The Death Spiral Rock N’ Zero G Roll featuring Aerosmith,” and standing on any kind of balcony ever, anywhere, at any age.</p> <p>Lead her away from Acting but not all the way to Finance. Something where she can make her own hours but still feel intellectually fulfilled and get outside sometimes And not have to wear high heels. What would that be, Lord? Architecture? Midwifery? Golf course design? I’m asking You because if I knew, I’d be doing it, Youdammit.</p> <p>May she play the Drums to the fiery rhythm of her Own Heart with the sinewy strength of her Own Arms, so she need Not Lie With Drummers.</p> <p>Grant her a Rough Patch from twelve to seventeen. </p> <p>Let her draw horses and be interested in Barbies for much too long, For Childhood is short — a Tiger Flower blooming Magenta for one day – And Adulthood is long and Dry-Humping in Cars will wait.</p> <p>O Lord, break the Internet forever, That she may be spared the misspelled invective of her peers And the online marketing campaign for Rape Hostel V: Girls Just Wanna Get Stabbed.</p> <p>And when she one day turns on me and calls me a Bitch in front of Hollister, Give me the strength, Lord, to yank her directly into a cab in front of her friends,</p> <p>For I will not have that Shit. I will not have it.</p> <p>And should she choose to be a Mother one day, be my eyes, Lord, That I may see her, lying on a blanket on the floor at 4:50 a.m., all-at-once exhausted, bored, and in love with the little creature whose poop is leaking up its back.</p> <p>“My mother did this for me once,” she will realize as she cleans feces off her baby’s neck. “My mother did this for me.” And the delayed gratitude will wash over her as it does each generation and she will make a Mental note to call me. And she will forget.</p> <p>But I’ll know, because I peeped it with Your God eyes.</p> <p>Amen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785589 Thu, 16 May 2013 09:48:51 +0000 Alivoo01 785589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Ditto! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785429 Thu, 16 May 2013 09:17:34 +0000 JerricaBenton 785429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would care if she cared. It's important to me that she has friends and is able to make friends and get along with different types of people. If I felt she was very shy or a loner I would try to help her branch out. If she has good friends and is happy and confident, I'll be happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785425 Thu, 16 May 2013 09:17:10 +0000 MrsRoo 785425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely don't want her to be so uncool that she has a hard time with making friends or being bullied. But DH and I frequently talk about our hope that she has my bookwormish, slightly nerdy personality vs his very outgoing, life of the party personality. I got in much less trouble when I was younger ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785422 Thu, 16 May 2013 09:14:48 +0000 regberadaisy 785422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: agreed!</p> <p>I don't care about them being cool or popular. I just want them to have a good friend network! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785415 Thu, 16 May 2013 09:13:28 +0000 lomom 785415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: I was the same way, certainly not the teenager responsible for any lost sleep!</p> <p>I hope LO is happy. If that's being cool, being studious, whatever makes him happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785412 Thu, 16 May 2013 09:12:53 +0000 littlek 785412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, neither DH or I were popular in school. Honestly, we never even thought about it since we were so busy with sports. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-care-if-your-lo-is-uncool#post-785410 Thu, 16 May 2013 09:12:33 +0000 PrincessBaby 785410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't care- studious/nerdy would be fine! But if my DD's personality at 5 months stays the same, we are in trouble! She loves being the center of attention and the life of the party! She is super active, super social, and the biggest ham for attention (strangers) and for the camera. I think she is going to be a total busybody handful. </p>