https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 18:55:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-52358 Sat, 14 Jan 2012 00:21:10 +0000 tequiero21 52358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>eek. i guess so? my parents never talked to me. except to say "don't have sex until you get married".... maybe i'll talk to the girl and hubby will talk to the boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-52253 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 18:48:19 +0000 cupcakemama 52253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes it will be awkward but why would I not discuss sex with my kids?? It's part of my role as a parent to prepare them for life and one of those things includes sex, why you need to be careful and why it's important to take it seriously. I want LO to be a responsible, caring adult and that includes relations with the opposite sex. I am gobsmacked that parents would think otherwise than to have the talk. Nothing could go wrong with an ignorant, hormonal teenager... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-52148 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 15:42:19 +0000 prettylizy 52148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is a nurse, so she actually got out an old anatomy textbook and sat down with my sister and I when we were 4 and 6 and started talking about the differences between a boy and a girl. I never remember having one specific 'talk' because it was always just matter of fact discussions with us both from that age and it just progressed as we got older. Looking back, it was brilliant, because there was never an earth shattering moment where I was told all the nitty gritty details and felt awkward about it. It was just par for the course, I was always incredibly well informed and because she never acted like it was a big deal, we never treated it like it was a big deal. I remember kids coming to school after having the sex talk with their parents and thinking they had a dirty secret to share, but I was never impressed. It was more like "duh, doesn't everyone know that?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-52144 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 15:34:31 +0000 JessicaMcB 52144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was raised by a single mother (had me at 26, my sister at 30). The only discussions regarding sex in our household were, "If you ever get pregnant, don't you dare ever come home." and "God, I slept with sooooo many guys back in the day...", past that I was expected to figure it out myself. My poor sister (who is admittedly a bit slow) eventually got it spelled out for her by a friend at FIFTEEN! Needless to say she was mortified. Meanwhile, I was extremely promiscuous from 16 until I met my husband. I had a friend in highschool actually ask me once "Don't you feel like a slut sometimes?", and all I could think was that, 'Yeah well, my mom did the same thing, why would she tell me all about the guys she slept with if it wasn't okay?'. Eventually I came to the realization it was not okay,and I've always been kind of disgusted by my mom's lack of parenting in that area.</p> <p>We plan to have an open dialogue about sex from a pretty early age. Obviously when they're young the conversation would be centered more on anatomical differences and functionality, etc. </p> <p>But I think it's important to leave those lines of communication open sooner rather than later so that rather than have one long awkward conversation that comes out of left-field, its a series that build on each other throughout their entire life. I also feel like if you as a parent are more comfortable with a series of dialogues over time, your child will be more likely to come to you about it if need be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-52114 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 14:39:56 +0000 Mrs.KMM 52114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely. I think parents who don't take the time to have those conversations (however awkward they may be) do a real disservice to their kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-52110 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 14:32:55 +0000 sorrycharlie 52110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes, my mom got pregnant with me at 17 so she was always very upfront with me. she would rather know I was doing it but safely, on the pill and with condoms, than trying to do it behind her back and end up with an STI or an unplanned pregnancy.</p> <p>sure enough, when I was almost 17 I wanted to, and asked her to take me to the dr. she did - and no unplanned babes or STIs 7 years later :)</p> <p>I want my kids to know all of their options, and know that they have my support no matter what happens. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-52060 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 13:26:26 +0000 Rescuemom10 52060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will. My paretns did not really talk to me about it. But it is def scary how young kids are developing and how young you hear of children engaging in sexual activity. Yikes it is scary! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-52052 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 13:12:12 +0000 looch 52052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, because I don't want there to be an instance where my son feels as though he can't come to us if he needs more information. I saw an excellent program yesterday about how sex works, it's a great way to begin the discussion, so I have to figure out how to record it from our DVR to a CD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51688 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 00:18:32 +0000 BSB 51688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I think it's a good idea to talk to them about it. I hope I'm close enough to them that they will understand my concerns. My parents did not have the talk with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51685 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 00:15:05 +0000 Maysprout 51685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I don't want her to be surprised about stuff, so hopefully we'll find age appropriate ways to talk. I don't want it to be some big mystery that she thinks I'm embarrassed to discuss with her. But at the same time I want to encourage waiting also. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51587 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 22:26:50 +0000 yoursilverlining 51587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, for sure! We started sex ed in late elementary school (age appropriate stuff), and I remember my mom having "the talk" with me around maybe 10? I want it to be an open subject and not something they are embarrassed about or feel shamed about. Want to make sure I get the word out to always protect themselves and their partner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51575 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 22:17:55 +0000 mrsjazz 51575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will. I think it's important. My mom told us the basics of how things work when my sister and I were 8 &amp; 7 because she was pregnant and we wanted to know how the babies got in her belly. The next talk was when we were teenagers, she talked more in-depth about safe sex, condoms, and birth control. She was also very strict and a teen mom, so I waited on sex because she scared me out of wanting to do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51562 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 22:05:58 +0000 cyndistar3 51562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes, I definitely will. No one ever talked to me about sex and a combination of that and some various factors of my general upbringing on my moms part lead me to be a very curious person and I ended up getting pregnant very young... I know theres no blaming others but I feel like if she would have educated me about sex and all the other good stuff as much as I was exposed to it through the media I might have made different decisions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51536 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:56:11 +0000 Boogs 51536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For sure, I want to hopefully have great, open communication and I want them to be very well-educated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51513 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:46:24 +0000 Andrea 51513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I suppose. My mom gave me the sex talk. I think I was 10 and I was so grossed out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51509 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:45:22 +0000 heffalump 51509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will. My parents didn't talk to me about it and I was very responsible about it. But I don't want to just assume my lo will be like me, so we'll have that super awkward discussion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51508 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:44:53 +0000 chopsuey 51508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Hey. My parents used the same technique on us! I didn't date until I was 19! Seriously though. Kids these days are so lame. They get money from their parents to go on dates. Heck no. No dating until you make money! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51504 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:40:48 +0000 mrbee 51504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: There's a much more effective technique that my parents used on me: a combination of poverty and stress so that your kids don't date until well into college. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51502 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:38:21 +0000 chopsuey 51502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: It'll be regular sex ed but I'll be advocating abstinence. I used to teach it at a pregnancy resource center.. it's pretty gruesome and eye opening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51500 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:36:30 +0000 mrbee 51500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I thought abstinence based sex ed was proven not to work that well? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51498 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:35:29 +0000 chopsuey 51498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! Will definitely be teaching them abstinence based sex ed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex#post-51494 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:33:21 +0000 Mrs. Bee 51494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't want my precious babies to ever have sex until they're much older, but I definitely want them to be educated on making the right decisions.</p> <p>Of course my parents never ever talked to me about sex! These days kids hit puberty so much earlier, I'm not sure what age I should start talking to them.... maybe 11 before they start middle school? Ack that's scary!</p> <p>Will you talk to your kids about sex? </p>