https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 25 Oct 2026 18:11:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139791 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:21:54 +0000 JoJoGirl 1139791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: *Sigh* I guess. I've learned that from my friend with twins... she was the exact same first-time mom to both of them with the same lack of knowledge and had one amazing sleeper and one crap sleeper. As my boss says, "it's all in their noggin'... you have less influence than you'd like to believe". :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139751 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:13:57 +0000 MsLipGloss 1139751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: Yeah yeah yeah . . . I know a couple of people who genuinely have good sleepers. One of the great things about these ladies though is that they realize that they just got lucky! And truly, being a new parent is just so stinkin' hard that I am glad to know that not everyone struggles in the sleep department. I know there are tons of things I take for granted about my LO which may subject another parent to constant stress and worry. It all evens out . . . ! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139732 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:09:18 +0000 JoJoGirl 1139732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Teehee. Okay fair enough about bragging, not cool. But I can say there are tons of moms in my month board alone whose kids are sleeping 12 hrs straight! I swear! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139725 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:08:17 +0000 JoJoGirl 1139725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: For the love of god. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139724 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:08:12 +0000 MsLipGloss 1139724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I look at it this way . . . the people who share their experience are probably not exaggerating (or it was just so long ago that they really don't remember accurately, or they have several children, and it all blurs together because, well, you know, the cumulative effect of pregnancy and long-term sleep deprivation), but the ones who bring it up so that they can *brag* (especially when they know you are having trouble) are the usual suspects in my book. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139702 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:02:52 +0000 looch 1139702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read a stat that about 2/3 of parents exxagerate sleep claims! So I don't believe anything anyone says on the topic by default, unless it is bad, lol.</p> <p>I have a crap sleeper as well, he's nearly 3 and I haven't STTN myself since, oh, October of 2010? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139694 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:01:15 +0000 JoJoGirl 1139694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: You. Are. Hilarious.</p> <p>And there are tons of people who aren't exaggerating! Some babies are just good sleepers... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139690 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 09:00:21 +0000 JoJoGirl 1139690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Amazing how the rage surfaces when you hear about other people sleeping, huh? I hate that. But share it. </p> <p>I already talked to a sleep specialist for a hefty fee. I've watched all the Isis webinars. I've read Troublesome Tots frontward and backward. I even left a message for our ped yesterday trying to get her blessing to night wean our 10%tile for weight nugget. I don't think there is anything else I can do. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139679 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:58:43 +0000 MsLipGloss 1139679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I swear that almost everyone who talks about their LO STTN is exaggerating, grossly exaggerating, or flat out lying, because they think if it isn't happening then they must be doing it wrong. What an asshat - seriously?! Comments like those make me better understand how a phrase like "c*nt punt" could have (d)evolved into existence. BUT. Karma. My friend Karma has a steel-trap memory and a wicked sense of justice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139659 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:54:21 +0000 Boheme 1139659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: Hugs, hugs, hugs. We had a crap night again last night (surprise!) and I saw every hour on the clock I think. And then someone on my due date group that moved to Facebook bragged about how her LO sleeps through the night perfectly and had the balls to tag me 'Sorry Grizz! Tee hee! I wouldn't trade you!' Throat punch. </p> <p>I guess if nothing else it makes me feel better to know I'm not the only one :( We called a sleep specialist because we're at the end of our rope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139574 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:22:14 +0000 JoJoGirl 1139574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: YES to pride and self-imposed mommy guilt. And stubborness. And hope that MAYBE TONIGHT SHE'LL STTN. And an LC who put the fear of god in me about NEVER SKIPPING A CHANCE TO EXPRESS OR ELSE. That has been what's stopped me up until now (and I think DH won't be happy about me asking him to trade nights, but guess we'll see). I just can't deal anymore, martyr-mom be damned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139571 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:21:54 +0000 MsLipGloss 1139571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I still hear phantom cries! And yeah, after a point, it it almost too much work to put yourself back to sleep again only to be jolted from sleep (or almost sleep) by either real or imagined cries. Some days I would just get up to spare myself the physical rubber banding that occurred from all of the wakeups. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139562 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:18:57 +0000 MsLipGloss 1139562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: Yeah, I did every.single.wakeup because I was BFing. It was because of my stupid pride and self-imposed mommy guilt that I wouldn't let go of it. I think that sounds like a great idea (trading nights)! </p> <p>I will never take sleeping for granted again. I hope you get some relief soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139556 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:17:16 +0000 JoJoGirl 1139556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: That was me last night! I slept from 8:30-12:15 pretty well. Then was a little restless from 12:45-3. After that it was a wash, I kept *dreaming* about LO crying so woke up every 20 mins checking the monitor. I saw 4am, 4:30am, 4:45am, and she got up at 5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139555 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:16:17 +0000 MsLipGloss 1139555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: When you're dealing with your level of sleep deprivation, I think anything you can do to give yourself some breathing room should be considered! People who have not experienced it really don't understand . . . it's not just a wakeup or two . . . it becomes a state of being. There are days when I don't think I ever really went to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139553 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:15:32 +0000 JoJoGirl 1139553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Honestly I feel like just trading off nights with DH will be a huge relief. I need to talk to him about it. Was hoping to make it to 6 months without supplementing but I cannot do this. I'm actually getting used to pumping at work so can continue that as long as my job gets done, but right now, i need to prioritize sleep over everything :-/ I'm not a good mom or a good wife or a good employee to anyone at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139549 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:13:30 +0000 MsLipGloss 1139549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: There were days I felt like I physically couldn't move, and then other days where I was just sort of in a haze. My supply suffered when I went back to work, so it didn't take long for me to need to start supplementing with formula. After a few months (right around 8 months), I started to drop pumping sessions and by 11 months I had stopped pumping at work. Honestly, I wish I had stopped sooner. It was really just too much, and it was such a huge relief to get at least that off my plate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139543 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:10:46 +0000 JoJoGirl 1139543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: GAH. You are KIDDING. I feel like my body is shutting down.. I'm seriously ready to just call it quits on BFing in the name of my physical, mental and emotional health. This is so not sustainable. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation/page/2#post-1139540 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 08:08:27 +0000 MsLipGloss 1139540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I just wanted to say I am so sorry you are going through this. My LO had horrible reflux, and for the first 9 months--yep, 9 months--I averaged 7 wakeups a night (the span was 6-10, but 7 was the average). Every night. And our days started between 4:30 and 5:00. Every day. It was super super hard . . . I honestly don't know how I made it (while working full time as an attorney).</p> <p>ETA: I drank a ton of diet coke . . . I am pretty sure I have picked a few of my organs! . . . and didn't stress about losing the baby weight or how many loads of laundry I was behind on (if DH and I had clean underwear, I called it a win). I just tried to streamline as much as possible and let some things go (like meal planning/dieting and working out). I even cut back on work as much as possible, and started not worrying about wearing a low pony to work every day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1139491 Wed, 09 Oct 2013 07:38:40 +0000 JoJoGirl 1139491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: Yep that's how i feel. and LO Is getting worse and worse - last night she was up at 12:15, 3, and 5 for the day. She would NOT go back down without eating each time. I'm at the end of my rope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1139125 Tue, 08 Oct 2013 20:06:01 +0000 cmomma17 1139125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ZombieBullfrogHoller: at this point I'm really not functioning at all. :( I was pretty useless at work, I kept forgetting what I was doing. I take a thermos of coffee to work and it was gone by 10 am. Three more days and I finally get a day off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1139121 Tue, 08 Oct 2013 20:02:55 +0000 Adira 1139121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ZombieBullfrogHoller: A dream feed is where you literally feed your baby in his sleep. You don't talk to him, or put the lights on. Mine is technically NOT a dream feed because Xander does wake up a little bit, but he's so sleepy during it and falls right back to sleep after, so I still call it a dream feed. You don't change their diaper or even burp them. Just pick them up, feed them, put them back down! Though it doesn't always work with all babies - some babies will always wake up and then can't fall back to sleep, so it might not be worth it. For us, it's the only way to get Xander to sleep until 5:00/5:30 a.m., which is when I'm ready to feed him before work. Otherwise he was waking up around 3:00 a.m.! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1139090 Tue, 08 Oct 2013 19:49:47 +0000 ZombieBullfrogHoller 1139090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: Oh...my...god. 26 days?? How are you functioning?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1139088 Tue, 08 Oct 2013 19:48:16 +0000 ZombieBullfrogHoller 1139088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope you find something that works! Sorry I don't have any advice, my LO is 8 weeks and I'm mainly skimming to prepare myself for that time period. My guy is basically on your guy's schedule, waking up at 2am and 5am for feedings and I have to be in at work for 7am. I've only been back for one week and I feel like a zombie, so I can only imagine how it is for you at 6 weeks back!</p> <p>@Adira: What is a dream feeding? o.O </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1139069 Tue, 08 Oct 2013 19:37:08 +0000 cmomma17 1139069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: wow. I feel your pain. Except I am right at the six month mark. I am so sleep deprived at this point that I can see the impact on my brain. I forget words for example, forget simple things like where things go in the kitchen and have started making mistakes at work. Coffee makes no impact at this point.<br /> I am also working 26 consecutive days with no day off (today is day 23) which is slowly killing me.<br /> Hopefully I will read some good tips in this thread. I'd nap if you could, try to convince LO to start sleeping in later, and I'm going to try to drop a night feeding.<br /> I hope you get some rest soon!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1136197 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 13:38:17 +0000 yellowbird 1136197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: It's hard to remember, but I had an oversuppy and would wake up engorged even when I nursed her. I stopped getting so engorged when I let DH help out, but I still could pump enought to cover her daycare bottles just not have any extra. So maybe my supply just evened with her demand? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1136177 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 13:35:32 +0000 Boheme 1136177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: He started sleeping 4.5-6 hours a night around 2.5 months old. Then at nearly 3 months it all fell apart, and his max is 3 hours now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1136081 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 13:10:15 +0000 mamimami 1136081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Cosleeping... and coffee! The funny thing is my first kid was a much "better" sleeper and I thought I was so sleep deprived! Now I have a girl who sleeps horribly but she sleeps with us (sidecar) and eats multiple like 3-4 times a night, and I feel OK. Not great, but OK. So I'm not sure if it's the cosleeping, that I just am used to it by now or that I know it won't last forever.... Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1136064 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 13:07:05 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1136064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't read through everyone's replies, but I know that the only way I got through it was taking a nap on my lunch breaks. Also, it sounds contrary to what you would think, but working out in the mornings helped to give me some energy to last me all day. </p> <p>Oh, and coffee - lots of coffee ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/woh-ebf-moms-whose-los-dont-sttn-whew-how-do-you-deal-with-the-sleep-deprivation#post-1136017 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 12:55:00 +0000 brownie 1136017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: it gets better I promise. It just takes time. At about 18 months is when I wanted another one. It isn't in the cards for us but it doesn't change that I wanted one. </p>