https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 14:54:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working/page/2#post-1487386 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:27:50 +0000 Bookish 1487386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I'd still thankfully make more than 3 daycare payments, and the added benefit of my cheap insurance + free Master's degree would make it worth it. I would, however, have to sell my house because we wouldn't be able to afford a mortgage! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working/page/2#post-1487377 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:23:46 +0000 blackbird 1487377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh a third option is an au pair. A friend from college has 3 under 3....a singleton and a set of twins. She's a SAHM and they hired an au pair. </p> <p>When your back's against the wall, sometimes you have to look at less common solutions and I would probably consider this one very, very heavily, and put her in the basement in a nice room with a bathroom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working/page/2#post-1487364 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:17:23 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 1487364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably. I'm a teacher and a tutor, and make very little money as it is. I would certainly be paying more for childcare than I make in that scenario! As it is we're trying to figure out what an appropriate work-childcare balance might be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working/page/2#post-1487354 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:13:49 +0000 MsLipGloss 1487354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: I just don't see me being able to come close to meeting my requirement. And with DH traveling so much more, solo parenting 3 during the week . . . *oy* </p> <p>I wonder what it would really take for me to *allow* myself to walk away . . . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working/page/2#post-1487345 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:08:10 +0000 littlek 1487345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: That would be our real issue too. We would probably put B in daycare part time and get a nanny for the twins. But I would really worry about how I would handle 3 children plus my billable hour goals. Which I already SUCK at meeting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working/page/2#post-1487338 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:06:24 +0000 googly-eyes 1487338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope not since I'm just about to start ft again. I'd have to look for a cheaper, probably in home daycare though...just to break even.</p> <p>Realistically there's a good chance we would stay in the city/area dh works in and I'd stay at home..we'd be better off financially and probably still send dd to half day preschool at 2-3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working/page/2#post-1487329 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:03:07 +0000 MsLipGloss 1487329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We would come out fine on the financial end, even with 3 in daycare (at $1,600 per head!). What I don't know is whether my career would survive with all of the absences and (further) reduced working capacity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working/page/2#post-1487270 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 15:40:30 +0000 blackbird 1487270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. We would still come out ahead financially, though, and there are too many other benefits to discount. Plus, maintaining my sanity is a big one :silly: I would go batshit crazy with 3 at home. Plus pulling E out of daycare suddenly? No way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working/page/2#post-1487263 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 15:38:29 +0000 Cherrybee 1487263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We couldn't afford for me to stay home - I earn the most and we need my FT wages to pay the mortgage. I guess DH would have to quit work and be a SAHD. FT nursery fees for 2 kids is more than he earns, never mind 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1487237 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 15:31:26 +0000 mrsjyw 1487237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I'd work at home full-time tho instead of the 2-3 days that Im doing now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1487232 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 15:30:43 +0000 birdofafeather 1487232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm a WAHM running my own business so i would have to streamline and probably take an extended leave. and then get a nanny! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486764 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 13:08:03 +0000 ShootingStar 1486764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: That's what I was trying to say :). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486722 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:58:34 +0000 meganmp 1486722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I had another one right now (I already have twins, so it would still be three under 3), I wouldn't stop working. We have a nanny, currently, which is currently cheaper than two in daycare, and would certainly be cheaper than three in daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486683 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:48:43 +0000 PurplePeony 1486683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd keep working for the same reasons @ShootingStar: and @yoursilverlining: mentioned. We'd definitely hire a nanny rather than do daycare, though. I make only slightly less than DH and while we could make it on one salary, we really need both to live the lifestyle we want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486671 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:42:50 +0000 Trailmix 1486671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have twins and I work part-time (about 25 hours a week). We have a nanny bc it's cheaper than daycare in NYC but it's stupid bc we pay her more than my annual salary. So basically we would save more money if I SAH but I don't want to and I'm hoping long-term, it will be a good decision to have kept working! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486663 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:39:37 +0000 Anagram 1486663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ummm...with three young kids in this town--not only would I have to stop working, but we would have to move to a cheaper area, too.</p> <p>With twins, we'd have to move back to Texas or maybe Atlanta--somewhere south (cheaper!) where my husband has connections and can get a job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486657 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:37:28 +0000 Crystal 1486657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would keep working.... but it would really depend on daycare. I think I have a cheaper plan worked out for future LOs, but I am not sure how it would double/triple with twins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486638 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:32:09 +0000 ValentineMommy 1486638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We wouldn't have a choice. I'm the breadwinner so I'd have to keep working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486616 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:27:50 +0000 NeekieRose 1486616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we would have to hire a nanny. as that would be cheaper than 3 in daycare. But like others have said, I don't think I would stop working due to the long term earning implications. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486582 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:20:47 +0000 matador84 1486582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd have to...4 in daycare is too much $! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486559 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:15:28 +0000 MamaMoose 1486559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would take an extended maternity leave, then hire a nanny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486550 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:13:23 +0000 looch 1486550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: yup, agreed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486526 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:08:08 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1486526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so. We have a nanny for L, so we'd keep her and pay her a little extra, but not double. L will be in preschool a couple days a week soon. It would be tight, but I think it would make more sense financially if I worked. Plus, I have lots of time off as a teacher and we don't have to pay for childcare during those weeks/months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486523 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:07:39 +0000 gingerbebe 1486523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would stay home. Not only from a childcare standpoint, but I don't know if I could deal with the pregnancy. I am pregnant with one now and its SO. HARD. working full time as an attorney while carrying this tiny person that DH feels terrible for me every day. I will still work after the baby is born because we have a goal of paying off our student loans in an accelerated way, but if we had twins, I'd definitely quit my job. If we absolutely needed the money from my job, I think we'd consider something drastic, like getting a huge house and moving my parents in with us and have them take care of our kids full time (which they would gladly do). But I don't see working and putting twins in daycare full-time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486507 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:02:21 +0000 Smurfette 1486507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well my whole check would then go to day care but I am 99% sure I am not cut out to be a SAHM. So we would look into a nanny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486493 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 11:59:51 +0000 autumnlove 1486493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: A college friend of mine still works FT with 4 year old twins, 2 year old and a 7 month old. But she has a nanny for the younger two and the twins are in preschool! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486492 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 11:59:50 +0000 MrsH 1486492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, DH might have to though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486485 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 11:58:52 +0000 yoursilverlining 1486485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’d keep working. Even though it would be almost $2800/month in daycare, it makes better financial sense to keep working than to leave the workforce and try to reenter it in a few years. Even if you don’t clear much more than the daycare costs in net pay, you also need to factor in years of loss in benefits, retirement matching contributions, seniority, experience, pay increases, etc. The longterm financial implications are just too important for me to quit working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486479 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 11:57:06 +0000 BKCaribBaby 1486479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Possibly. We have one already, but the thought of three small kids without any local family help and a DH with a demanding job would perhaps push me to stop working for a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohm-if-you-were-pregnant-with-twins-would-you-stop-working#post-1486478 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 11:56:55 +0000 twodoghouse 1486478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're having twins and I'll be leaving my job when they arrive. I've always wanted to SAH, but finding out it was twins really sealed the deal.</p> <p>Edited to add that my husband makes about 4x what I make and we have always lived entirely off of his salary. (Mine just went to savings/fun stuff) So it just didn't make sense for me to keep working with our financial situation. </p>