https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 09:52:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have/page/2#post-1420899 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 14:38:03 +0000 Springtime 1420899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We will probably be done at 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have/page/2#post-1420891 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 14:36:17 +0000 rachiecakes 1420891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think any more and I'd have to stay home. Full time daycare for one is almost $2400/month! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have/page/2#post-1420866 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 14:30:33 +0000 megjay18 1420866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we have a nearly 15 month old son now. we have always said that we'll have two, but if it's another boy we'll entertain the idea of having a third child just to see if we could also get a girl. i'm convinced we'll end up with a second son and then twin boys, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have/page/2#post-1367373 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 14:19:51 +0000 LuLu Mom 1367373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are on the fence between 2 &amp; 3, we won't decide until after #2 comes if we want to jump into #3 (which would happen like a year after #2 becuase I want to be done before I hit 32.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have/page/2#post-1367372 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 14:19:48 +0000 swedishfish 1367372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We will probably stick with 2 and through unless the need for 3 is biting at us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have/page/2#post-1367366 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 14:18:11 +0000 blackbird 1367366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want 3, but our max is 4. We won't be having #3 until #1 is in school, though. 2 in daycare is the max we can comfortably afford. Otherwise we'll have to get an au pair or something. No way in hell am I going to stay home!!!</p> <p>Daycare is CHEAP compared to a nanny here. The nearest center (that we like!) is $130/week for age 2 and up. So, obviously that's a big factor! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have/page/2#post-1367296 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 14:05:37 +0000 jedeve 1367296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I want 3, but I think at that point I won't work until some are in school!</p> <p>ETA: DH thinks we can only afford 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have/page/2#post-1367182 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:46:53 +0000 Corduroy 1367182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We want two but if I wanted three the cost wouldn't stop me. </p> <p>It might cost more than I make to pay for 3 in daycare but I would still ride it out for a year or so until the oldest was in public school. In my industry you take a BIG pay cut if you have to find a new job after being a SAHM. I would just ride it out for a year or two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have/page/2#post-1367138 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:38:08 +0000 prettylizy 1367138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're done with 2. Cost of daycare, cost of living, bigger car, more extracurricular activities.... all of this makes me sure that after 2 I'm for sure done. With 2 in daycare my take home will almost entirely be gone, but in 4 years when they're both in school full time, we'll be better off that I have kept active in my field and haven't given up my professional license. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have/page/2#post-1367131 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:36:35 +0000 lilyann 1367131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as DS (baby #1) is in school before baby #3 comes, then we will still plan on having 3. Three daycare payments would be double our mortgage and we are in a lower cost state (we are very lucky to "only" pay $825 a month for 1 in daycare). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1367128 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:36:02 +0000 yellowbird 1367128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think three is our max. Mostly due to the fact thinking of 4 kids gives me anxiety! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1367120 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:32:36 +0000 Mae 1367120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we'll probably have 2. If we were going strictly on what we COULD do I guess maybe 3? We could swing that if we spaced them out enough that #1 was in kindergarden when #3 was born and went into daycare. Plus we have a 4 bedroom house and I wouldn't want anyone sharing so that would sort of be the max. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1367095 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:27:36 +0000 looch 1367095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We could afford to have more children, but we're one and done largely because we're older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1367078 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:24:53 +0000 BKCaribBaby 1367078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: Oh no!!! That's sounds awful. :( Think positive happy thoughts for a future little Miss/Mr. Jazz! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1367040 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:14:04 +0000 Mrs. Taco 1367040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: Yeah I think like @littlek: the age plays a huge role!</p> <p>At the HS I work at, teachers can bring their children to the school daycare (the juniors/seniors along with the teachers, watch the children) once they are potty trained for a very small fee. We will be waiting until R can join this before #2. I think. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1367002 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:04:53 +0000 AmandaB8 1367002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We want 3 or 4. We can afford 2 in daycare right now, but we're also just starting our careers. Hopefully by the time we're ready for #2 or #3 we'll have had some promotions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366980 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:00:25 +0000 littlek 1366980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: It depends on the age, a nanny is definitely cheaper for 2 infants than daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366962 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:57:54 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1366962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Taco: not to threadjack but for future reference, is having a nanny sometimes just cheaper than putting 2 or more kids in daycare? I wonder this all the time. As a future school social worker, 2 kids in daycare is my salary too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366948 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:55:44 +0000 Mrs. Taco 1366948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always thought 3 but we've talked 2 or even just stopping with R because daycare is outrageous. As a teacher, 2 in FT daycare is basically my salary. </p> <p>I tell my dad/stepmom I'm not having any more kids until they move here so my stepmom can watch them. And I'm only half joking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366914 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:51:41 +0000 lilteacherbee 1366914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3. We're lucky to have lots of family nearby and DH will likely be advancing in his career in the next few years. Otherwise, we would probably stop at 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366911 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:51:12 +0000 mediagirl 1366911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: also, it's SUCH a hard topic because there are so many factors to take into account! You noted some above and we have lots more to consider, as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366899 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:49:41 +0000 mediagirl 1366899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: LOL I just wanted to be specific. As always, if money wasn't an option, babies would be plentiful. :) Why would you be afraid to offend anyone? :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366891 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:48:19 +0000 regberadaisy 1366891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: I think 3. I think three we can comfortably still be able to do everything we want to for our family.</p> <p>Personally, I don't count college tuition as a factor in deciding how many kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366887 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:47:52 +0000 Smurfette 1366887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We want 2. Granted I am going to have work just pay day care instead of me, but in the long run it is still better for me to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366876 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:46:22 +0000 autumnlove 1366876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 is the max. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366873 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:44:16 +0000 dolphin 1366873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>for now its two! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366869 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:42:38 +0000 Boheme 1366869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366866 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:42:16 +0000 littlek 1366866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: yay, TTC sucks... :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366864 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:41:50 +0000 littlek 1366864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I wasn't sure the best way to word my question.. i didn't want to offend anyone </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wohmwahm-what-is-the-most-of-kids-you-want-to-have#post-1366847 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 12:38:02 +0000 bhbee 1366847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I put three because we talk about three sometimes. but two is more realistic financially, in the long term. I think daycare would be ok because you can space them so #1 is in kindergarten by the time #3 enters daycare, but that doesn't help with all the vacations and activities and such. we don't live near any of our family and flying 5 people anywhere would be insane (even 3 is tough to swallow as we pass the 2-year lap child mark) </p>