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Hellobee Boards Topic: "Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly" https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 03:18:26 +0000 Dandelion on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly/page/2#post-1992738 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 09:18:11 +0000 Dandelion 1992738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I got ku with M just 3 months after losing S, and he came right on cue. Probably wasn't the best idea for my hormones, but I have no regrets. :) cascademom on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly/page/2#post-1992732 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 09:12:08 +0000 cascademom 1992732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We'll have a nearly three year age gap between kids. It's what made sense for our family. I felt recovered enough physically and emotionally to get pregnant again. I worried about too big of an age gap too. singingbee on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly/page/2#post-1992706 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 08:13:29 +0000 singingbee 1992706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Torchwood: our loss wasn't as late--only 20 weeks, but we had to wait just 2 cycles. It took is 6 more, but our lo is a year old and just fine. I ended up having a section with her, even though I delivered our first. So now we are waiting for our next one. Snowdrop on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992681 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 06:07:10 +0000 Snowdrop 1992681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MrsMccarthy: exactly, it is just a risk factor amongst lots of other things sandy on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992572 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 22:03:00 +0000 sandy 1992572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @LAZB: :heart: I'm so happy for you :heart: @MrsMccarthy: thank you :heart: MrsMccarthy on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992550 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 21:24:49 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1992550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @sandy: I concieved this pregnancy at 37. Thinking of you my dear. Xo I think these things are good to keep in mind but its also nota given that you will have issues, just a higher chance. Bao on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992545 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 21:19:57 +0000 Bao 1992545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My girls are 19 months apart and I was never advised to wait any length of time. My second was born just a few days earlier but was bigger than her sister. GrapeCrush on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992542 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 21:15:16 +0000 GrapeCrush 1992542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mine are 15 months apart, and my on didn't seem to blink an eye. He said at 6 months pp I should be healed and have no issues, and this after the first was a csection. I didn't go into labor with either baby, and our daughter is perfectly fine My mom had my brother 12 months after me and my other brother 17 months after him. I was the only one that she didn't go to term with(4 weeks early), and both my brothers were late. Neither of them have issues. LAZB on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992517 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 20:36:14 +0000 LAZB 1992517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @sandy: that's exactly why I wouldn't change my decision to ttc so soon. matador84 on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992503 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 20:18:38 +0000 matador84 1992503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My doctor has never brought up waiting to TTC before. I had my children 17 months apart. I don't think I would have another so close to my youngest because of my extremely precipitous birth. I do think in my case if I had another and did not space the next one out further that it would be a more premature delivery with possible complications. anonysquire on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992501 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 20:14:11 +0000 anonysquire 1992501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was cleared by my midwives and an ob. I felt better than before I was prego and still feel great. Baby seems great. No regrets! BandDmommy on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992396 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 17:42:43 +0000 BandDmommy 1992396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had my first LO at 34 weeks and waited 18 months as OB suggested. I still had DD at 37 weeks and they only thing that kept her in there that long was progesterone. Considering I already struggle staying pregnant regardless of how long inbetween pregnancies, a bigger concern for me is age, I'm 36. JCCovi on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992392 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 17:35:34 +0000 JCCovi 1992392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My doctor told me the party line is to wait a year, but she knew I wanted them closer and said with my age (25) and the fact that my first pregnancy and delivery was complication free that I should have no problems. They'll be 17 months apart. pui on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992313 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 16:32:00 +0000 pui 1992313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Interesting. I originally wanted to start TTC #2 at around 14 months or so... But right now we're already NTNP. I doubt I'll be getting pregnant anytime soon considering the issues I had conceiving DD. I probably won't get pregnant until I wean, I doubt I'll get AF before that. autumnlove on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992307 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 16:29:04 +0000 autumnlove 1992307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @NorCalWayfarer: you must be in CC. :-) Snowdrop on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992296 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 16:22:36 +0000 Snowdrop 1992296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I thought the bit about prematurity was common knowledge... erinpye on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992267 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 16:03:08 +0000 erinpye 1992267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My OB recommended 18 months. I wanted them closer and waited 13. If I were going to have more than 2, I might have heeded the advice a little more. meredithNYC on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992255 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 15:53:38 +0000 meredithNYC 1992255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @sandy: @Torchwood: You both make a very good point. It's quite different, I would think, in the case of a loss. sandy on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992241 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 15:46:23 +0000 sandy 1992241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Torchwood: like you my situation is very different. I had my LO2 at 37 weeks but she only lived 13 hours. I'm going to be 36 in a few months. Of course I'll listen to what the doctors say it would be really hard for me to wait 18 more months to try and have another baby BandDmommy on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992232 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 15:44:28 +0000 BandDmommy 1992232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My OB told me it was best to wait 6 months to 1 year. Andrea on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992126 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 14:50:21 +0000 Andrea 1992126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I guess it makes sense since your body goes through so much so fast. Yes, it was more common to have lots of babies close together in the past, but the mortality rate was higher, too? Just a guess! NorCalWayfarer on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992124 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 14:50:16 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 1992124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My OB told me to wait at least 6 months (after c-section). Interestingly, the county I live in has PSA posters in the office where we pick up birth certificates encouraging mothers to wait at least 2 years before having another child --"Just us for 2 years" is the slogan. Bear with me as I nerd out a bit: I remember in college reading a study about birth spacing and nursing frequency in the !Kung tribe of hunter-gathers. The frequent nursing (something like every 15 minutes) was one of the reasons researchers thought there was such a long spacing between births (something like 3 years). I thought it was really interesting. Of course there is a lot of variation among cultures of their birth spacing. This example just stuck with me over the many many years since college ;-) Mrs. Lemon-Lime on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992102 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 14:45:09 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1992102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Heck yeah this type of info would guide my decision on when to have a second baby! My grandmother had her first three kids within four years, besides my mom (the oldest) the rest were screw ups. Lol JennyPenny on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992093 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 14:43:27 +0000 JennyPenny 1992093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I read this (<a href="http://www.thealphaparent.com/2012/07/what-no-one-tells-you-about-child.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.thealphaparent.com/2012/07/what-no-one-tells-you-about-child.html</a>) a while back and thought it was really interesting. It highlights many of the medical and non-medical things that affect different age gaps. But the summary I got from it was that it does take some time to replenish stores and heal. Realistically though "an increased chance of X" is probably just slight enough to be significant and doesn't impact most people. But it's an interesting read for sure! Mamasig on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1992076 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 14:33:23 +0000 Mamasig 1992076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My 1st two are 20 months apart and I really like that age gap. My second did come earlier at 37+5 because of low fluid. The doctor told me to wait at least 6 months to try again. That would give my body time to heal from the c section. For me, I can't wait forever because of my age. I didn't have any trouble getting pregnant but I know I am now 36 and my years of fertility are decreasing. Torchwood on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1991994 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 13:59:25 +0000 Torchwood 1991994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wonder if our situation is different at all since I only went to 33 weeks last time. They just told us to wait at least 3 cycles after AF came back. And this was from a MFM specialist. Interesting. But hey, I'm terrified of needing an induction, so maybe it'll work out that I'm less likely to go past term and need one for that. lilteacherbee on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1991984 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 13:54:03 +0000 lilteacherbee 1991984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We were told to wait at least a year because I had a c-section. I ended up getting pregnant right around LO's first birthday (first cycle NTNP) and they'll be about 21 months apart. .twist. on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1991980 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 13:52:00 +0000 .twist. 1991980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My body didn't make it with the first baby to full term and my doctors stressed that I wait at least a year to try for another. My body definitely needed time to heal. We're still on the fence about #2 but we're already past the 12 month mark. I think it varies by person but it is definitely something people should consider. meredithNYC on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1991971 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 13:48:01 +0000 meredithNYC 1991971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, I think it's best to give your body time to heal. Greentea on ""Women risk premature birth if they have second child too quickly"" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/women-risk-premature-birth-if-they-have-second-child-too-quickly#post-1991968 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 13:47:01 +0000 Greentea 1991968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Anagram: yes! It did actually. My OB office tells everyone to wait at least 12 months.