https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Jul 2026 13:42:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-627685 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 22:24:24 +0000 JamieLee 627685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I took off early from work for our appointment (Thursday) where we found out there was no heartbeat, so I didn't go back that day. They were able to get me in for the d&amp;c the next day (Friday) so I didn't go in that day either. Then I took Monday off because I was running a fever. I went back Tuesday, and it was awful because everyone kept asking what happened. I didn't want to talk about it with these people I had only worked with for six months... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625960 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:00:15 +0000 SweetMamaM 625960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh hun I missed this! I am so sorry this happened to you hun :( no advice, just hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625742 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 20:29:45 +0000 anonysquire 625742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks. It was really hard. I took off the day of the dc but went back the next day. Really big mistake. I truly am sorry and am thinking of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625718 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 20:22:20 +0000 blackbird 625718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thinking of you today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625695 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 20:14:53 +0000 MrsStormy 625695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Praying for you today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625501 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 18:51:23 +0000 pastemoo 625501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss!<br /> I didn't take off work because it happened during my first week on a new job--and 2 weeks later I passed out in the office and cracked my head on the floor--probably should have taken a day off after that. I cried during my commute and was distant while working. It got better over time.<br /> Hugs. If you need time off, take it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625481 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 18:39:52 +0000 singingbee 625481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You've been on my mind today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625470 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 18:34:23 +0000 Dandelion 625470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625468 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 18:33:29 +0000 Ash 625468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thinking of you today!!! Xoxox </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625378 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 17:46:07 +0000 Charm54 625378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd I'm thinking about you today too. I hope you have a restful weekend and DH spoils you rotten. Lots of hugs and prayers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625299 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 17:21:43 +0000 MrsH 625299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: thinking about you today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-625010 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 15:50:43 +0000 futuremama 625010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: hope everything went well today. Take it easy this weekend. We are all thinking of you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-624780 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:49:57 +0000 mrsmenow 624780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only was able take a couple of days off. I have a fairly busy job so my mind had something else to focus on. For me it was almost better to be back. I hadn't told many people yet, so I didn't have a lot of questions and didn't have to talk if I didn't feel like it.</p> <p>Take the time you need though. Everyone is different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-624744 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:39:59 +0000 2PeasinaPod 624744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I had my D&amp;C on a Friday as well, and I went back on Monday. It was so hard b/c on my floor, there were about 10 pregnant women (no lie). I just tried to keep my head down, do my job and get out of there as fast as I could. I knew people knew something was wrong, but I just kept to myself.</p> <p>Wishing you all the best today. I know it's so hard, but your healing can start now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-624675 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:21:29 +0000 Mrs Checkers 624675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry for your loss.</p> <p>Of course what you're feeling is completely normal. I had a difficult time being productive after the miscarriage, probably for a couple weeks. And I think it would be appropriate to ask for time off if you have the vacation days to spare.</p> <p>Thinking of you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-624508 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 13:47:29 +0000 MrsCastro 624508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: just want to let you know i was thinking about you this morning... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-617437 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 12:25:54 +0000 MK0180 617437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an ectopic and the day after surgery I took off from work which was a Friday. I went back in on Monday for a few hours and everyday after that I gradually worked to a full day by the end of the week. I was very open to my boss about how I was feeling. It was hard to deal with everyday life the first couple weeks. I was so angry. I would just shut my door and just try to stay focused. Some people around me knew what had happened and so it helped when I was feeling particularly down or not myself and they would know to leave me alone which is what I preferred (I'm not a people person either). It may depend on your work environment and boss but if she/he is understanding then I think working from home for a bit is justifiable. Hugs to you and your husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614574 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:36:15 +0000 MrsH 614574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @winniebee to some extent it helped to be busy and working. I shut my door and wasn't social and if I wanted to cry or leave early or work from home, then I did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614542 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:31:51 +0000 winniebee 614542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry for your loss : (</p> <p>I just worked. When I was alone or at home I cried more. I barely got anything done at work but being around others was a distraction. I told my secretary so she would know to run interfernece. That said, I didn't have a D&amp;C so probably would have taken some time off to recover from that had I needed one.</p> <p>There's no right answer. You just need to do what gets you through the day. Big hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614537 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:30:59 +0000 mlm2934 614537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know how all you ladies hold it together so well for working. It seems like most people just get back in the grind and that helps them. All I want is to be alone - but I'm not much of a people person anyways.</p> <p>I keep telling DH that I wish I was in a movie. Whenever something bad happens in the movies, the main character heads off to some little town and stays in a beach house for 3 weeks and somehow their job and everyone else is ok with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614536 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:30:18 +0000 LittleGBee 614536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was nannying at the time of my miscarriage. I took an entire two weeks off and the families I worked for were extremely understanding. Is your immediate boss someone you can confide in? It would probably help to have some support at work so that you can arrange to work from home and it won't look like you're taking advantage of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614531 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:29:40 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 614531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was hard. I actually MC at work &amp; wasnt able to leave work that day. I cryed everytime I went to the bathroom for at least two weeks &amp; just about everyone talked babies with me that week too. It was so hard. I think that only thing that helped was diving into a new project and time.</p> <p>Im so sorry for your loss. Today was a hard day for meas well. Know that your not alone &amp; that you are in my thoughts today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614517 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:26:52 +0000 blackbird 614517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely work from home for a couple days. It sucks, you feel like shit, the cramping blows....I know I took some heavy duty painkillers for mine and just felt like i was in a fog. I also bled all the way through my pants a few times and onto the couch. It's physically unpleasant to be at work, so definitely remote in. It's hard to be nice and pleasant to people. </p> <p>Stay home and take care of yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614494 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:21:54 +0000 Weagle 614494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was hard. Luckily, I was very good friends with some very supportive coworkers who covered for me when I needed to get away. Staying busy helped too. I searched out tasks to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614476 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:19:26 +0000 T.H.O.U. 614476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have someone that you are close to at work that you would feel comfortable telling and talking to? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614475 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:18:34 +0000 googly-eyes 614475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Edited because I just found your other post and you requested no sorries. Didn't see that one before. Just wanted to say that if I were your coworkers I'd understand wanting to work from home a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614460 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:16:21 +0000 Ash 614460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was spotting and knew a m/c was going to happen but didn't know when, I was a wreck. I was working in OB at the time and being around moms and babies was so hard on my heart. I ended up talking to my boss and she let me go home (she also sent me home with a teeny ring we give our our stillborn babies). I miscarried a couple days later so I called off work the day after it happened... mainly because of the physical pain but also because I wasn't emotionally stable to be at work. She seemed understanding. I'd definitely talk to your boss... they're more understanding than we think. *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614456 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:15:41 +0000 Sweet T 614456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any advice. I just wanted to tell you that I'm so sorry for your loss! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614454 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:15:05 +0000 singingbee 614454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I delivered early Thursday morning and we met with the funeral home Friday morning. I had to go up to school Friday because my kids were doing a performance they had worked so hard on. It meant so much to them that I snuck in the back to watch them. Of course, I cried whenever anyone would hug me and talk to me and some of the kids were so touched that I was there, they cried. </p> <p>I went back to work on Monday and it sucked big time. I hated it. I didn't want to be there, but I also didn't want to be at home. We had things still out. I had just washed a load of baby clothes. Things like that. I basically just tried to make it hour by hour. I would think that I made it through that 30 minutes, I can make it through the next. It started to get a bit easier for me, but it took several months before I felt like I was doing all right. If anyone would ask how I was doing, I would just answer for that moment. If that moment was good, then I was doing good. That's the only way I could handle it. </p> <p>I hate that you are going through this. Take time if you need it. There is no right or wrong time limit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/work-after-miscarriage#post-614440 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 14:13:29 +0000 MrsH 614440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I wouldn't worry. It is there for a reason so you may as well use it especially if you think it will up your productivity not being around others. How could a boss think that logic was bad?</p> <p>Agreed that if you think you want to tell your boss that doing so may ease your worries. </p>