https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 11 Jun 2026 14:35:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-30468 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 14:06:46 +0000 daniellemybelle 30468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katdevargas: "I do want to be a SAHM, but I can totally understand why a woman would want/need to have a career as well &amp; there is no judgement from me for whatever choice a mom makes. wouldn't it be a boring place if we all wanted the same things?"</p> <p>My thoughts exactly. I am not 100% sure what I want, but I can definitely see both sides of the coin, and its silly to me to assume that all women would want it one way or the other. I would never make that assumption about anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-30230 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 11:07:35 +0000 chopsuey 30230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and sometimes I feel the itch to go back to work too. I just can't imagine sending her to daycare of having someone else raise her.<br /> All mommies are wired differently though and you really need to do what's best for you. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-30193 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 10:19:46 +0000 katdevargas 30193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do want to be a SAHM, but I can totally understand why a woman would want/need to have a career as well &amp; there is no judgement from me for whatever choice a mom makes. wouldn't it be a boring place if we all wanted the same things? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-30144 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 09:30:15 +0000 ecogirl 30144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sbjmorgan I always thought I would want to go back to work and I wouldn't have apologized for it. You are a woman and an individual as well as being a mother. You have your own goals, desires and needs as a person that need to be fulfilled so I say go ahead and work and don't feel guilty. If your soul needs that then you'll be an even more complete mommy! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-30135 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 09:18:54 +0000 Rubies 30135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always thought I COULD be a SAHM mom but in reality, no way. No way at all. I'm on mat leave for 1 year (I live in Canada) and LO is now 4 months old and already I feel the itch to go back to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-30134 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 09:14:45 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 30134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could NOT be a SAHM... NOT. And was looking forward to getting back to work , so you aren't alone. (I was home for 1 year and wanted him to start daycare at 6 months because I needed the breather. ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29910 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:17:33 +0000 plantains 29910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm definitely coming back to work after the baby. I didn't grow up in an SAHM culture so to be honest, I don't really relate to that and I think I would feel pretty weird if I stayed home. I will have mat leave for 6 months, and then back to work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29768 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 12:20:50 +0000 Rescuemom10 29768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sbjmorgan- I imagine so. That how I feel but didnt feel "right" sounding so certain since I have not been put in that situation yet. lol Very work driven I just cant imagine not working. Totally OK with that not changing! ; ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29629 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 09:45:27 +0000 brownie 29629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is no problem wanting to work and parent. Many people do it. I do it out of necessity though I would love to be a SAHM. This may be because of issues with my job. I also know women who need that time away in order to be a better mother. That is who they are. I don't think there is anything wrong either way. As they say, the grass is always greener on the other side. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29594 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 06:46:46 +0000 pelikila 29594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: THIS! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29590 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 03:08:37 +0000 looch 29590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree about the part time work options. My company says that they support them, but in reality, it's the manager that has to be on board, and without them, it's not going to work. I also think that the longer you stay out of work the harder it is to go back...I find it difficult to stay current in my field at the moment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29540 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 21:13:41 +0000 Maysprout 29540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish there was more part-time work. I'd be much more into going back to work if there was good part-time work in my field, </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29537 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 21:03:52 +0000 Green Thumb 29537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was ready to go back after 3 weeks. My boss told me I was crazy and told me to stay out for at least 6, but I was itching for adult interaction. I love my LO, but I cherish my time away from her at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29527 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 20:53:58 +0000 sbjmorgan 29527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom10: Plenty of people told me it was "different" after the baby. It wasn't. I'm just wired as the kind of person who needs to work, and if you are too, that's not going to change. </p> <p>I was on bedrest from 20 weeks of pregnancy and so I've been home doing nothing since then. That's 7 months. I just feel like I'm drowning in boredom. I am so glad that so many of you share the same mindset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29427 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 17:06:41 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 29427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mommacommaphd: I'm a little jealous of my partner too... but I still know that I couldn't do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29425 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 16:59:33 +0000 mommacommaphd 29425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a case of the grass is always greener. I'm super jealous of my husband getting to stay at home with our daughter. I feel guilty about being away from her and missing her milestones.</p> <p>However, I'm relatively certain that I would miss the fulfillment that my professional career gives me- and maybe go a little crazy being with her 24/7. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29421 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 16:54:50 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 29421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're definitely not alone. For me, staying at home all day is 1000 times harder than working. And when I work outside the home, I'm refreshed and refocused when I'm with my son. Some of us are wired to need something beyond motherhood to be a better mother, and there's nothing wrong with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29398 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 16:16:45 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 29398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went back to work at 4 months. I wish I had had an extra 2 months, but I wouldn't have made it longer than that. With #2, I'm not even taking a maternity leave... I've got too much to do at work. I'll just make sure I'm working from home any time I'm not on service. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29356 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:24:41 +0000 mrsjazz 29356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going back to work after my maternity leave. Even though my current position is not something I want to stay in forever, I need to make money because we can't live on only my husband's salary and honestly, even if he made enough for us to live more than comfortably, I'd still work (although I'd probably be working for less money at my dream non-profit job). I think it's just the way I was raised by my single mother, she taught me that having my own money is really important. I've had a job ever since it was legal for me to work: since age 14. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29352 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:17:14 +0000 mediagirl 29352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am going to work after the baby arrives. I have to. We looked into our options of me staying home and thought we might be able to scrape by for a year or so if I wanted to. Then my husband got his updated health insurance information. On his salary, we can't afford our house payment, saving for emergencies (and for car maintenance), saving for retirement and $660/mo for health insurance (not including co-pays or prescriptions) for the three of us. It sucks. </p> <p>I don't like working but I know things happen for a reason. I would probably be one of those Mom's that goes batty at home!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29350 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:15:20 +0000 Rescuemom10 29350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dont have a child of my own yet, but like others have said I have EVERY intention of going back to work. My career is very important to me and even after being out of work for a few months I went crazy, I know its dif then when you have children, but I am just a "worker/career" sort of gal. My mother said it best that seems to "fit" this example. She owned her own bussiness, she worked very hard but always claimed that it was not the quantity but the quality of time spent with your children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29347 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:12:22 +0000 Andrea 29347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I think about the education component a lot, too. I think it's hard when on one hand you're told to get a great education and you can do all the things that a man can do. But then hey, this is the end of the line because you just had a child. That doesn't make much sense to me so I fully support women returning back to work if they wish and are able to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29340 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:07:33 +0000 Lozza 29340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a better mother and overall happier and more pleasant person working outside the home. No question about that at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29328 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 14:56:51 +0000 sbjmorgan 29328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>THANK GOD! Seriously, I was starting to feel inadequate at the other board that I visit. I am so glad this place exists. </p> <p>Over there, it's just kind of assumed that everyone wants to be a SAHM. It kind of made me wonder if I was doing something wrong, but I guess it takes all kinds. Maybe I'm just still too naive or worried as a FTM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29323 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 14:54:42 +0000 looch 29323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: I agree with you about the childcare component. If I had my mother close by, I'd have been back at work 100% for sure. I invested a lot in my education and worked for a long time, it was hard to give it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29321 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 14:52:50 +0000 heffalump 29321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a sahm also, and for the most part I love it. But I totally get where you're coming from, and you have to do what's best for you and the baby. If you're miserable at home, then that's not going to be good for anyone. We have to find a balance in our lives and if working helps you achieve that, of course you should do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29314 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 14:48:07 +0000 Andrea 29314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could not wait to get back to work and didn't feel particularly guilty about it because I knew that I was so much happier working. Plus, I knew I had good child care for my daughter. I think that is key, though. If you don't have good child care available, then it is a lot harder to return to work and then I would probably be a SAHM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29310 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 14:45:34 +0000 mrsjyw 29310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I'm with you. I have every intention of going back to work. DH and I cannot go without my income and I will be a better mom by being a working mom. Even my 1 day work from home days drive me stir crazy... I need the adult interaction to be a happy mom in the future. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29306 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 14:42:59 +0000 looch 29306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear you! I am a SAHM not by choice, but because of a not so nice manager and an impossible time finding day care that wasn't in the opposite direction of going to work.<br /> At the end of the day, a happy mom is the key to a happy family, so I totally support working moms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-after-baby#post-29302 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 14:40:57 +0000 Adira 29302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a baby yet, so I can't say this for definite, but I have <i>every</i> intention of going back to work after having a child. I've worked way too hard on my career to just give it up. Plus I think I'd be starved for adult interaction if I was home with the baby all day. I think you're perfectly normal. </p>