https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 11 Jun 2026 15:30:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-mom-need-some-reassurance#post-1528801 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 09:05:32 +0000 doodlepoodle 1528801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: I'd rather be SAHM as well, which tends to make the WOHM guilt compound and fester. J is often not ready to leave either and he's almost 2. I'm so sorry you have this awful guilt and that it's hard on you. I wish I could do more than relate. I have no advice, just hugs and commiseration. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-mom-need-some-reassurance#post-1528681 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 08:33:10 +0000 looch 1528681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A SAHM of a single child, yeah, they can let their children sleep as needed, but at some point, there are times even then, you've got to get them up, like for a doctor's appointment.</p> <p>We have to wake our son up as well in the mornings. Do I feel guilty? Totally, especially since it takes him a good half hour to fully wake up and not be Oscar the Grouch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-mom-need-some-reassurance#post-1523988 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 17:58:52 +0000 Andrea 1523988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can assure you that babies of SAHMs need to be woken up, too, if that makes you feel any better. DD1 has school drop off/pick up, activities, play dates etc and I always had to wake DD2 up/delay naps in the early days. Things are a bit better now, but her nap is running into school pick up time again so I have to wake her up. But I know where you're coming from and this isn't meant to compare. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-mom-need-some-reassurance#post-1523904 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 17:20:36 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1523904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Thanks. :heart:<br /> I think deep down I just want to be a SAHM. "Soon..." I keep telling myself.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-mom-need-some-reassurance#post-1523825 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 16:48:05 +0000 winniebee 1523825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: I did have guilt when I worked b/c T did not nap as long at daycare....but then I realized that there were so many benefits to me working that I couldn't feel guilty about it. You're doing just fine :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-mom-need-some-reassurance#post-1523817 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 16:46:25 +0000 anewme 1523817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, ((hugs)). </p> <p>I'm sure most of us share in your guilt.<br /> I did the working mom thing for almost 2 years until we had our second child and we decided that I would take time off and be a SAHM.</p> <p>There are some noticeable differences between the 2, but neither is better or much worse than the other. My son has always been a terrible napper and sleeper in general I don't think me being at home has helped. You're doing the best you can, don't beat yourself up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-mom-need-some-reassurance#post-1523784 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 16:33:57 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1523784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: we go through bouts of crappy naps too. I swear every week she changes! It just stinks every time we have to leave, it's the middle of her nap. I feel bad for her, that's all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-mom-need-some-reassurance#post-1523780 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 16:32:08 +0000 winniebee 1523780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: I had a 5.5 month maternity leave and from 4-5.5 months T only would nap 30 minutes at a time :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/working-mom-need-some-reassurance#post-1523763 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 16:28:14 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1523763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am having a serious moment of mom guilt/pity party over here and I need some reassurance.</p> <p>I'm feeling extremely guilty about how my having to work affects LO's schedule. I went back to work at 5 weeks, so she really hasn't had a semblance of a schedule her entire life.</p> <p>I leave for work before DH does. When he leaves, he has to wake LO up from her nap to get her to the sitter on time. She usually hasn't been napping for long at this point. This tends to throw off her feeding schedule a bit, too. Then, when I get off work and pick her up from the sitter's, I have to wake her up from her evening nap.</p> <p>I feel like SAHMs get to let their babies sleep as long as they please, which (in my mind) makes for happier babies and a less stressful environment. I feel guilty and all-around crappy for the fact she has to constantly get woken up in order for me to keep up my work schedule. She is only four months old.</p> <p>If you WOH FT, does/did it affect your young infant's schedule? Do you have guilt about it? Any tips? </p>