https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Jul 2026 04:46:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648751 Wed, 21 May 2014 09:14:20 +0000 meredithNYC 1648751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds totally normal! Although I'm sure hearing that doesn't make things any easier in the moment.</p> <p>When my LO was around 8 weeks old I just tried to establish the bedtime routine (bath, milk, very dim lights and cuddles). Then I read up on sleep training and started working on it at around 12-14 weeks. I was very lucky in that my LO took to it pretty well without crying much. One thing that I personally think was a game changer is the dream feed.</p> <p>Try not to stress as it's way too early to have made any lasting impact :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648739 Wed, 21 May 2014 09:12:17 +0000 gilmoregirl 1648739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have this angst all the time (and mine is six weeks old) but reading The Happiest Baby on the Block was really helpful and the blog Troublesome Tots. Too soon for bad habits! It's all survival.</p> <p>My kid's also up three times before falling asleep for good and his naps are generally crap (although, improving recently but he was never a sleepy newborn so I've been working on it for a month now). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648730 Wed, 21 May 2014 09:09:12 +0000 Madison43 1648730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We rocked our daughter to sleep for nighttime and naps until was at least 4 months old .... at some point, she let us know she was ready to be done with the the rocking (lots of squirming, etc....) and we stopped. Now at 7 months, she goes to sleep fine on her own, so I promise you are not ruining him! That said, I remember panicking at that age because I was convinced if I didn't have her on a sleep schedule/falling asleep on her own before I went back to work the world would end, so I completely understand how you're feeling. He'll get there eventually, just do whatever you need to do now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648710 Wed, 21 May 2014 09:01:35 +0000 Shimmer 1648710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey mama, hugs and breathe. You haven't ruined baby nor have you started bad sleep habits. Come join us on the Wait It Out thread. It'll give you some peace of mind. :) you're doing a great job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648643 Wed, 21 May 2014 08:36:10 +0000 avivoca 1648643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At that age, we were doing whatever it took to get sleep. She started her own routine around 3 months, and while bedtime can be a chore now, it's much better than it was at 9 weeks.</p> <p>ETA: I still nurse/rock to sleep now. I don't consider it a bad habit since she will go to sleep other ways, this is just what we do at bedtime (diaper, PJ's, Nurse, Story (sometimes), Song, Rock). If it's not working, we turn the lights on and play for 15 minutes before trying again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648630 Wed, 21 May 2014 08:31:02 +0000 BeatlesFan629 1648630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone else. If he's sleeping, do whatever it takes to make it stay that way! lol </p> <p>We rocked DD to sleep until she was 7 months old. I knew I wasn't supposed to (and never planned to for so long), but it worked and she slept through the night so who was I to change that?! then she started waking up throughout the night just wanting to be held, or rocked. I felt the same as you - we ruined her sleep forever and we'd be rocking her until she was 10! I felt we waited to long to sleep train. Well, we tried it anyway and it took her 2 days to learn to fall asleep on her own. So trust me- at 9 weeks, you're FINE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648542 Wed, 21 May 2014 07:52:51 +0000 Bookish 1648542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Continue to do whatever it takes at that age :) You're doing great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648538 Wed, 21 May 2014 07:50:53 +0000 septca 1648538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>IT IS WAY TOO EARLY FOR YOU TO HAVE RUINED SLEEP. Seriously. I feel so strongly that I needed all caps. My 16 mo DD is a *fantastic* sleeper, but if you had asked me when she was your son's age, I would have said that I was never going to sleep again. For the first 6 months or so, you need to follow your baby's cues and remind yourself that a little extra snuggling/rocking/holding is *GOOD* for you baby at this age. You can worry about sleep training and introducing a schedule in a few months. For now, enjoy your newborn. :heart: </p> <p>(Just to give you some context, if you had written the same post but said that your son was 9.5 months old, I would have very different advice.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648528 Wed, 21 May 2014 07:46:45 +0000 Smurfette 1648528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You haven't ruined him at all!!! He is still so little. At this point do whatever you can to get him to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648525 Wed, 21 May 2014 07:45:44 +0000 bpcmarj 1648525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO slept on me for most of her naps until almost a year old, and putting her to bed was an up and down ordeal until we sleep trained at 11 months. She would also go to sleep and wake up screaming an hour later and we had to start the nighttime thing all over again. It can get overwhelming when you are in it, but it doesn't mean it will be like that forever. My LO sleep trained at 11.5 months and started sleeping through the night by 12 months (with the only interruptions to that for teething and sickness). My thought was, she will not be a baby forever and I won't be holding her while she sleeps forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648523 Wed, 21 May 2014 07:42:09 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1648523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't worry!! You haven't ruined him! He's still so little- honestly, at this point, use whatever works to get him to sleep. I wouldn't worry about sleep training for at least another few months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648434 Wed, 21 May 2014 06:33:12 +0000 hilsy85 1648434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He is still SO LITTLE! I would really not worry about it yet--focus on enjoying the newborn snuggles. The time may come when you need to work on getting him into a sleep routine/do some sleep training, but that time is definitely not at 10 weeks. I wouldn't stress about it--you certainly haven't ruined him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648413 Wed, 21 May 2014 06:16:34 +0000 Weagle 1648413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You definitely haven't ruined him. FWIW, we nursed/bottle fed to sleep LO's entire first year. We did nap train around 9 months, so by the time we kicked the bottle she was totally used to going to sleep by herself. In our house, 9 weeks was way too early for her to do drowsy but awake. I see sleep like another developmental milestone except it's on a really loosy-goosey timeline. Different kids are ready at different times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648389 Wed, 21 May 2014 05:34:23 +0000 singingbee 1648389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ScarletBegonia: at that age we were doing whatever to get her asleep. We did reach a point where we decided something had o happen. She was cutting her first teeth and we were on vacation and she had to sleep with some part of her body touching mine. We came home, waited a week, and moved her to her own room and started to sleep train---not hardcore, but more than we had ever done. Within a week she was sleeping through the night and truly enjoys being there. I think if we had tried it any earlier it might not have worked, so for us, whenever we did it was good for our baby. She goes down for naps and bedtime by herself. We have the occasionally bad night--like this week when she is cutting four teeth at once--but for the most part, when we did it, it was great. She was just over 6 months old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648385 Wed, 21 May 2014 05:30:40 +0000 Charm54 1648385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You haven't ruined your baby! Sometimes it can get overwhelming seeing everything online telling you to sleep train by X weeks.</p> <p>I watched a webinar from Isis once that said to not even attempt training (this was a webinar on naps) until 5.5 months. For my Dd, she needed to be rocked and fed to sleep. I worried about it, but she STTN and it worked for our family. She started giving me signals around 7.5 months that she didn't want to be rocked/fed to sleep anymore so we started training. It took one bad night (35 min of crying) and then the next day she started falling asleep on her own for all naps and bedtime. It was much less painful than I anticipated...I think because she was ready.</p> <p>Anyway, moral of the story.... I thought I had screwed her up by rocking/feeding her to sleep but I didn't. She learned when she was ready. Some days I'm actually a bit sad because rocking her to sleep was one of my favourite parts of the day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648381 Wed, 21 May 2014 05:25:31 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1648381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, I feel like i needed to hear that :)</p> <p>He does sleep well at night, and it seems like he's on his way to sleeping through the night - at the moment he goes 8 or 9 til 4-ish, which is obviously amazing for me! </p> <p>I think i just have a hard time having perspective when its bedtime and I'm heading upstairs for the 4th time to put him back down... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648380 Wed, 21 May 2014 05:18:01 +0000 ktdid23 1648380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first 3 months of life are commonly referred to as the "4th Trimester". Newborns are still adjusting to life on the outside and need to have their needs attended to almost immediately (or as soon as humanly possible!), as they are still bonding to their parents and need to feel safe and secure. </p> <p>Long story short - there's no way to "spoil" a newborn :-) Some nights, the only way my newborn daughter would sleep at all was me sitting up in bed and her laying on me. She's now a happy, well adjusted 3.5 year old who sleeps 8p-7a every night, in her own bed :-) </p> <p>On another note, we never formally "sleep trained" but by 12 weeks, my daughter was sleeping through the night in her crib. It was just something she learned to do on her own as she got a bit "older". Enjoy those newborn snuggles while you can!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried#post-1648374 Wed, 21 May 2014 05:07:00 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1648374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm worried that my husband and I have set up bad habits with my son (in fact, I know we have...) - he's only 9 1/2 weeks old, but I have this hopeless feeling that we've ruined him and his sleep forever (can you tell its bedtime and I'm being overly dramatic!?)</p> <p>He was a super sleepy newborn, so there was never really an opportunity to train him to go down drowsy but awake. Basically as soon as he fed, he fell asleep for the first month. After that, we got in the habit of rocking him to sleep. He always went down pretty easily, though as he's getting older its getting harder. At bedtime he's usually up and down 2, 3 or 4 times before he falls asleep for good, and his crying escalates very quickly once it starts. Naps are bad too, and I usually end up letting him sleep on me so he gets some sleep. </p> <p>Everything I've read tells me its too early to sleep train, but I'm worried that the longer we stay in this routine the harder it will be once we actually do have to sleep train (and I have no doubt that we will have to, at some point!).</p> <p>Can anyone offer any insight? Advice? </p>