https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 03:42:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2235652 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 23:41:29 +0000 Sophs Mama 2235652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: And then WOMP WOMP, I see you're having a girl! Congratulations. They're the best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2235650 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 23:40:13 +0000 Sophs Mama 2235650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: We have two daughters. It is amazing. But, it took me a little while to get here.</p> <p>When I was pregnant with #2 I was told TWICE that we were having a boy. I was so excited! A girl and a boy! We can be done having babies!</p> <p>And then, at a super long and detailed ultrasound to rule out complications, I was told flat out, no chance that it's a boy.</p> <p>I cried. A lot. And then I felt awful about crying. It took me a month or so to feel excited about having another girl. And when she was born I made sure they checked to see if she WAS a girl. And then I felt awful again for hoping she might turn out to be a boy after all.</p> <p>But now? 8 months later? I watch my two girls play together, and the older one is so proud to say "this my sister!". I can tell already they'll be best friends.</p> <p>So yeah, gender disappointment is real, and it sucks, and you feel awful about it, but in the end? You'll be so happy with your two boys you won't even remember hoping for a girl. :happy: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2235637 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 23:21:15 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2235637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: oops! I'm so behind! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2235634 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 23:13:07 +0000 birdofafeather 2235634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-a-loooong-tradition" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-a-loooong-tradition</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2235630 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 22:48:28 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2235630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: so did you find out?!?!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2235628 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 22:47:10 +0000 LilSprinkles 2235628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even though my gut told me boy, I really wanted a girl for my first. When I found out it was boy , I was really upset (sobbed in the bathroom after the appointment). I got over it pretty quickly, and LOVE the fact that I have a son.!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2235234 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 14:54:10 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2235234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: I never wanted a girl - I just felt I could relate better to boys. Both pregnancies, it took me about 2 months to get over my gender disappointment. But here I am - a mom to *two* girls and zero boys. I'm finally ok with it. And yes, I still get twinges of jealousy when I see boy moms, but I love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2235198 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 14:44:41 +0000 MrsMccarthy 2235198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You never know what can happen! I was beyond convinced I was having another boy and I didn't. That said with so much pressure stacked up I feel for you. When I think of you with a little girl I get excited for you but when I think of you with another boy I get so excited for little E and then excited for you again! Honestly I see such beauty in both. Can't wait to hear either way and I am very excited at the prospect of both outcomes! It's okay to mourn if you don't get your girl too. You might even mourn no brother for E. It can be weird to let go of any idea in your head. Remember this is a whole new person with a new personality, their own look and laugh. This is w special new individual that you are bringing into the world and the sex won't change that. Can't wait to hear. Hope baby shows the goods!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234921 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 12:09:15 +0000 Raindrop 2234921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone with two boys that wanted one of each. I was pretty disappointed when I found out I was having another boy. </p> <p>At the time we didn't think it was a big deal because we were probably going to have a third. Then stuff happened during the birth and now it's probably going to be our last and I think that's when it hit me the hardest...<br /> 1) not having another kid and 2) never having a girl.</p> <p>I will say now that my second son is almost 6 months old. I love having another boy! :) I'm sure I would have loved having a girl too but my love for my second son has grown my heart quite a bit and I really don't feel sad at all for not having a girl anymore.</p> <p>There is still a chance for us to have a daughter (miracles or adoption) but I think my family feels pretty complete with 2 boys. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234912 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 12:05:29 +0000 MRSJX3 2234912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: If this helps at all, I would have sworn I was having a boy and I had a little girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234903 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 11:59:05 +0000 clover 2234903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: Thats because little boys are beyond awesome! I'm sad not to get another one but at least I can keep telling him how he is my favorite boy in the world :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234892 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 11:53:18 +0000 Ms. RV 2234892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I originally had hoped for a girl. My sister has a girl that will only be one grade higher than mine and in the same schools. You'd have thought I would've been excited to find out it was a girl, only I was suddenly having gender disappointment over it being a girl! 14 weeks later, I still have those moments where I consider the what-ifs of having a boy instead of a girl.</p> <p>I guess the point I'm trying to make is that for me, I didn't really realize what my preference was.. or that maybe I didn't have one like I thought. It took a day or two to let it sink in but I think anyone, whether they get the gender they wanted or not, still has what-ifs for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234872 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 11:38:29 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2234872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: I'm sorry you're under so much pressure! Being a mom of 1 boy is a lot of fun for me. I love seeing how much he adores DH. I found out #2 was another boy and I cried out of excitement. I felt like I really wanted to be a mom of boys...I was a tomboy growing up and I have two nieces who I love so much and can get my girl fix through. Every once in a while, I think ahead to the future and realize I'll never get to do mother/daughter things, but I quickly get over them. I don't have a great relationship with my mom, and I was really afraid to mess up a mother/daughter relationship if I had a girl. I know that sounds silly, but it's always been a real fear of mine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234824 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 11:10:24 +0000 wrkbrk 2234824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: Agreed. When I see some of the issues on tv, etc., that young pre-teen girls have to deal with I am thankful we are having a boy (we are one and done also)!!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234799 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 10:56:03 +0000 Portboston 2234799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH wanted a girl and I guess deep down, I did as well. Welp, we're having a boy! It took us a couple days to move past it (we're likely a one and done family) but eventually I was able to get excited about a boy! It helped me by focusing on all the negative girl things I won't have to deal with like crazy hormones and attitudes (and ignoring the negative boy things I WILL have to deal with!!!) :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234783 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 10:40:49 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2234783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice but I felt some pressure to have a boy. (Lo1 is a girl.) My family said they'd be happy either way but they were ecstatic that were having a boy and we knew they would be. It's tough when everyone else has these expectations let alone the fact that you might want the experience of having one of each too. Sending hugs your way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234721 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:51:31 +0000 LuLu Mom 2234721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH struggled with gender disappointment for awhile after our second DD was announced, it hurt my feelings because I wanted him to get over it quicker. He tried to cover it up but it was obvious. Now that she's here obviously he's over it but I told him if/when we try for a third he has to be 100% with 3 girls or I'm not doing it. I do not want to have a third for the sole fact of "trying for a boy" like everyone says. </p> <p>I'm okay with having all girls, honestly I would be a little "what the heck do I do" with a boy, but either way I would like a 3rd. (this makes me laugh because if you look back at any of my post 4+ months ago I was 100% DONE having kids when I was pregnant with DD2!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234710 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:40:53 +0000 BandDmommy 2234710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sera_87: my DH is one of three boys and my MIL is crazy about wanting a girl. She wanted to keep trying but FIL put his foot down. She is cray cray with my daughter and posts all these FB pics of my DD without permission calling it her girl. I had to block her from my IG and FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234705 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:38:02 +0000 yellowbird 2234705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will say it took me a long time to get over gender disappointment with my second pregnancy. I just really wanted dd to have a sister because I never had one. I don't know why it was so important to me. It literally took my whole pregnancy to get over it, but now that he's here, he is so perfect and special to me. I am still a little sad dd doesn't have a sister but I wouldn't change my ds for anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234703 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:35:59 +0000 BandDmommy 2234703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@clover: lol same here. We are seriously considering being done at 2 and the idea of never having another little boy makes me sad.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234700 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:34:13 +0000 clover 2234700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always wanted at least one of each but early on in this pregnancy DH and I went from 2-3 kids to definitely 2 and through. Like @BandDmommy, I convinced myself I was having a second boy to get used to the idea of never having a daughter (even some of the somewhat more objective findings like lower HCG levels pointed to boy for me). I'm embarrassed to admit I was actually a little ridiculous about it (crying when I saw mothers with their daughters etc.) After 3 scans they're still saying girl for me so you never know. Now I've had to get used to the idea of only having 1 boy which makes me sad as well. I'm sure whichever you are carrying will complete your family and heart perfectly. Every mom I know with only boys is referred to as the queen of the castle and seems to be very much adored by her boys. No denying little boys love their mamas. I think its completely normal to take time to adjust and mourn what will never be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234690 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:27:37 +0000 Mrs D 2234690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worried a ton about DH having gender disappointment when LO#1 was a DD...I even told him it was ok to be sad...even "mourn" a little that you arent getting your son. I told him after 2 weeks he needed to just get over it and be happy the LO was healthy.</p> <p>I know he was bummed when it turned out she was a she - but he said he was surprised how much the "healthy" outweighed the gender.</p> <p>I think the most important part is to be honest with your self and not feel bad for having whatever feelings you do have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234688 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:24:45 +0000 lovehoneybee 2234688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: My SILs are the worst about it (and my mom and stepmother)...they just want to buy girly things (my SIL both have 2 boys each!). My MIL is kind of like..."eh, it would be such a huge culture shock to have a girl in the family, I wouldn't know what to do with her!" So there's that at least... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234683 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:21:50 +0000 wrkbrk 2234683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: I think it's so terrible when family lets you know they are "really really hoping" for one sex over the other. Who needs to know that?! Like you can control it! DW and I were worried before we found out that we would have no idea what to do with a boy. But when they called and I rushed out to pick up a blue onesie to commemorate, I couldnt have been happier. So, I think if you do feel disappointment it will be very short lived! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234678 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:18:27 +0000 lovehoneybee 2234678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sera_87: Haha my MIL has 3 boys, and I swear she still looks haunted by it! (especially since the middle one was a TERROR until he was an adult!) But they're all really close, and close to her, now. </p> <p>Thanks everyone! I'm trying to pep myself up to hear "boy!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234671 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:12:15 +0000 sera_87 2234671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always said I will legit cry if this one isn't a girl. It's our last so that means no girl ever. </p> <p>But then I see the two boys I already have &amp; how much they love each other and the strong bond they already have and I know it'll be ok. </p> <p>But seriously, 3 boys? Dear lord have mercy. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234663 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 09:04:14 +0000 Adira 2234663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always wanted a girl, but I just knew when I was pregnant for #2 that he was going to be another boy, and I was right. The disappointment was fleeting though and I'm thrilled to have two boys and not have to deal with some of the issues girls go through. Plus I'm soooooo excited to be raising brothers and get to see that dynamic. I hope they have a life-long friendship! </p> <p>But I won't lie - sometimes I'll see a mother and daughter or read about things you only share with your daughter, and I get momentarily sad. But I love my boys and wouldn't change a thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234656 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 08:57:14 +0000 BandDmommy 2234656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was afraid of gender disappointment so I convinced myself it was a boy eventhough in my heart I thought it was a girl. I have no real advice but thinking about you. You have an adorable little boy that will love a little brother or sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234644 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 08:49:24 +0000 littlebug 2234644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: I'm right there with you. While having a boy would be financially better for us (we already have tons of clothing for a boy), I have always wanted a girl. This baby is #11 grandkid for my mom and step-dad. First one was a girl, and she turns 15 next month. All the rest have been boys. Same with my ILs - grandkid #4, 1st one was a girl and she turns 15 this fall. This will likely be the last grandkid on both sides. Would be kind of nice to "bookend" both sets with another girl! </p> <p>I feel torn, but I think in my heart of hearts I really want a girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-gender-disappointment#post-2234637 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 08:43:40 +0000 mrsjyw 2234637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know that I had personal gender disappointment as I had a strong feeling LO2 was a boy, but I did get sad with DH because I felt like I was letting people down (ie MIL who was really, really hoping for a girl). Anyway, it was momentary and I can't wait to see the bond between my two boys! I think while one of each is perfection (especially as parents to be able to experience both genders), numerous people have told me how special same-sex sibling relationships are! :) Plus I have 3 boys to spoil me for life! :P </p>