https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Jul 2026 20:55:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1876383 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 04:12:48 +0000 FaithFertility 1876383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry slightly daily!!! I think it is just that mothers worry! What makes me feel better is talking to her and when she is kicking I just take in every kick and thank God!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1876371 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 01:51:01 +0000 Cherrybee 1876371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: Aaw. :heart: </p> <p>Today I am mostly worrying about being late for work and having not washed any jeans for her!! Haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875689 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:24:09 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1875689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you see my last post you'll see that I'm no stranger to worry. And it happens with my son as well. I'm not excessive but I'm probably a bit over the norm. What helps me is to ask myself how much I can do about the current situation if anything. Then I do what I can and the rest I have to try to let go and let god as some say. I'm not religious but I'm spiritual so god might be god, the universe or a hunk of cheese but in the end it's about accepting what I can't change and trying to have faith and enjoy the moment. Big hugs to you. It's not easy being a neurotic about these things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875673 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:16:51 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1875673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: :happy: </p> [attach=3657/14/ncf45t.600x363.photo-40.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875664 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:11:37 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1875664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I shared this with my husband. You so brilliantly wrote it and I appreciate it so much. I'm going to print it and put it on my wall!! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875651 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 13:04:16 +0000 HLK208 1875651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: totally! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875646 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 12:59:48 +0000 Mrs tartan 1875646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I allowed myself to worry until 24 weeks. That was my magic week when I knew s/he could survive. Honestly since 30 odd weeks I've been able to poke my bump and feel baby respond back so since then Ive been fine as should have a worry it takes about 10 seconds for me to get reassurance.</p> <p>A friend of mine lost her baby 5 days before her due date, she hasn't felt baby move but didn't want to seem a pain to the doctors so she waited 24 hours...I will not wait longer than 10 minutes if I truly feel something's not right, I don't care who this annoys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875633 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 12:47:05 +0000 Raindrop 1875633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: :heart: :)</p> <p>@CatchAFallingStar: *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875627 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 12:44:44 +0000 LovelyPlum 1875627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsvdv: yes to this! Funny how it seems safer in the place where they are not! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875540 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 11:50:43 +0000 Mamasig 1875540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, because I knew someone it happened to when she was full term. I tried not to dwell on it but it was in the back of my mind. As others have said, the worry doesn't go away. It just changes to a different kind of worry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875530 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 11:42:37 +0000 lilteacherbee 1875530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I agree with @yoursilverlining:. I had a m/c at 9 weeks, so the next pregnancy, I was a mess. I felt a little better once I got past the first trimester, but then when I got past viability, I was terrified again. I felt like if I lost the baby at that point, it would be so much worse. I honestly didn't feel relief until I heard him cry. And then, new worries appeared. He's 10 months now and there's something new to worry about every day. </p> <p>I tried to remind myself that worrying would not change the outcome and to try to live in the moment. So very hard, but it helped me be less anxious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875516 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 11:31:02 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1875516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: of course.. I'm sorry to ask </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875512 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 11:30:36 +0000 yoursilverlining 1875512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with everyone that said the worry never goes away; it only adapts to whatever stage you are in. </p> <p>I don’t know how many times I’ve heard people say how they thought they could stop worrying after 12 weeks; but personally, my worry went the other way. I was much more worried from viability until week 32+; since to me personally, it seemed like the stakes were so much higher at that point, even if the % of miscarriage risk was lower. </p> <p>While I was pregnant (and now) I work at not letting the worry take over. Frankly, it’s out of your control and the added stress doesn’t help anyone. It was helpful, though also frustrating, to remind myself of that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875511 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 11:29:38 +0000 Dandelion 1875511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: yeah...but I don't want to get into it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875506 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 11:27:08 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1875506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: So sorry to hear that it happened to you. Do you know what caused it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875497 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 11:21:23 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1875497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: This made me cry... In a good way. Thank you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875419 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 10:21:22 +0000 LAZB 1875419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely worry about that. Especially after losing my son, now I know of so many more things that can go wrong during pregnancy and after birth. I am going to be paranoid forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875361 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 09:39:18 +0000 fairy 1875361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always worried! My mom lost a baby during childbirth so I worried about that too.. and then worried about every horrible thing that could happen to her as a newborn, etc. It has gotten easier but of course mommas are always gonna worry. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875349 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 09:32:31 +0000 misstatas 1875349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just got used to worrying. Although I am that mom who brings her kid to the doctor for everything- the first month or two I swear we were there once a week, and we have probably gone once a month since then. I figure my deductible is paid so I'm taking advantage of it :) </p> <p>But I know some people suffer from severe anxiety when pregnant or post pregnant anxiety. If you feel like it is more than the normal level of concern, talk to your doctor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875233 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 08:03:44 +0000 blackbird 1875233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're going to worry about your children until the day you die. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875230 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 08:02:31 +0000 pui 1875230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I worried the whole pregnancy, including up to when I was pushing. I only really felt relief when I held my daughter in my arms for the first time. </p> <p>Now though I still routinely lay my hand on her belly to check that she's still breathing. I guess I'll never really stop worrying about her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875229 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 08:01:42 +0000 charmed 1875229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember talking to my mom when I was just 6-7 weeks pregnant, and mentioning how worried I was that something would go wrong. I asked her "when were you able to stop worrying" and she said "Never, I still worry about you all the time".</p> <p>So like @Cherrybee: aptly said, it's a totally normal (but scary) part of being a mom :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875190 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 07:19:44 +0000 catomd00 1875190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You never stop worrying, even once baby arrives safely. It just goes with the territory of being a parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875188 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 07:12:04 +0000 Adira 1875188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: Ugh, I was actually thinking of you when I posted that and how you were in that 1%. :( I can only hope that now that you've been through that with S, both D and M are going to live long healthy lives! &lt;3</p> <p>It sucks with the statistics are against us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875185 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 07:09:16 +0000 Dandelion 1875185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It HAS happened to me (at 39 weeks) and I worried til the end with M. I also worry beyond pregnancy. D is 7 and I still worry about him.</p> <p>@Adira: Yeah, I tried the statistics. My bff lost her baby at 10 weeks and was due around the same time as S. I thought "surely, we can't both lose our babies!" Ha. But, it worked with M. The chances of it happening twice are so low, I would be more apt to win the lottery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875177 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 06:58:38 +0000 Boheme 1875177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: This exactly :heart: </p> <p>I did worry, probably to an irrational level. My mom had both a stillbirth and a baby who died at 11 days old. In my head I KNOW one was a genetic thing, and one was a freak thing that there was a .001 percent chance of happening to me, but I still let it drive me wild with anxiety. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875163 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 06:40:31 +0000 Adira 1875163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry, but try to let statistics comfort me. I think there's only a 1% chance of them dying in the womb after 20 weeks, so I try to let that comfort me.</p> <p>I'm still paranoid though and do things not to jinx myself. When I gave birth to Xander, I refused to bring the car seat into the hospital until he was born, just in case I didn't have a baby to bring home...</p> <p>@Cherrybee: Well said! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875159 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 06:31:45 +0000 sweetooth 1875159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! The worry never fades away completely. But maybe stay away from podcasts like that until your little one is in your arms :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875157 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 06:26:16 +0000 mrsvdv 1875157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was pregnant, I wanted him out so I could see him and make sure he was fine. Then he was born and I wanted him back inside because I knew he had been safe there! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worry-1#post-1875129 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 05:12:07 +0000 Mae 1875129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: +1</p> <p>I worried until 24 weeks then felt ok until 37 weeks. Once I was that far along and knew she'd be perfectly fine to be born I got super nervous and just wanted her OUT where I could keep eyes on her. It was a rough last month ( she was born at 41+2) </p>