https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 11 Jun 2026 04:28:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1197370 Tue, 05 Nov 2013 13:58:13 +0000 MrsStar 1197370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're at 13 months of this parenting thing and this STILL happens regularly urgh. It seems dh just gets frustrated and annoyed instead of thinking of a solution to help E. Glad your night/morning was better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1196881 Tue, 05 Nov 2013 10:39:23 +0000 BlueWolverine 1196881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update: in an interesting twist of fate, a friend of mine put this post up on facebook: <a href="http://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/02/marriage-isnt-for-you/" rel="nofollow">http://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/02/marriage-isnt-for-you/</a> </p> <p>I read it, started crying and shared it. DH read it. I think we both go a good reminder yesterday of what our marriage is supposed to be. No tension at home last night. Working together. Was great.</p> <p>Also probably helped that baby slept in to 8:15am today. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1196694 Tue, 05 Nov 2013 09:29:42 +0000 Boheme 1196694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: @Mrs. Jump Rope: @BlueWolverine: ARGH! That exact, word for word, conversation happens at my house on a nightly basis! Now my husband has started throwing in "Well he'll never learn if you don't put him down and let him cry it out." ARGHHHHHHHH. </p> <p>I have no advice since I'm in the exact same boat. But you have my commiseration! Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1196627 Tue, 05 Nov 2013 09:09:07 +0000 mrs. wagon 1196627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueWolverine: @Mrs. Jump Rope: lol... we need to have a meeting of the Obvious Police </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1195334 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 15:12:27 +0000 cascademom 1195334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I agree most with what you've said in relation to this problem. We've had early mornings like that where we played with him being super tired until he went back to sleep for a few more hours before going to daycare. It's happened a few times especially before we sleep trained. Add to it, my DH stays up late to keep an eye on LO while I sleep. It's been that way since LO arrived, so I sleep during the night while he gets the early/late morning. So, two people in varying sleep states with a tired baby is so much fun (sarcasm). I guess after dealing with it a couple of times, I'm used to playing with LO until he's tired, then back to sleep. Also, he hasn't been rocked to sleep in a long time. He gets a few snuggles before bed, but no rocking to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1195327 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 15:11:06 +0000 edelweiss 1195327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>sleep interruption and early wakeups are HARD. mornings are hard enough with just 2 adults, dealing with a baby's sleep issues on top of it are bound to trigger some frustration. i agree with @googly-eyes: that he sounds like he was annoyed and wanted everyone to feel it as well. </p> <p>is he usually pretty understanding about sleep issues? was this an exception?</p> <p>during maternity leave, i was getting pretty frustrated and would take it personally when LO was having problems sleeping (i wouldn't go in there and wake LO up, but it was hard). yeah, i know, not very rational. my husband would keep saying "poor guy, he's having such a hard time falling asleep." it would kind of check my annoyance because here i was getting annoyed and my husband was being all empathetic and sensitive. now we both say that when LO fusses/cries when we know he's tired--the mantra of "poor guy" helps us remember that it's not something LO is doing on purpose, and that he's crying because he wants to be sleeping but just can't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1195303 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 14:59:21 +0000 Foodnerd81 1195303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We also have a crap sleeper, and I have to admit I totally understand where you are both coming from. To give his perspective, I KNOW she's a baby. I know she isn't doing this on purpose and needs help to sleep. But sometimes I'm get so tired and frustrated that I literally just pick her up and say, ok, fine, you win. You want us all to be tired? Fine. It's not logical nor my finest moments as a mom, but it's hard. So I imagine that's how he was feeling. And sometimes I do need to give us all a break to settle down before trying again. </p> <p>That said, sometimes Dh can be really dumb about things like that, especially with leaving lights on in my face and whatnot. We absolutely get very snappy these days, me more than him. Well get through it though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1195116 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 14:01:36 +0000 scotchbonnet 1195116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueWolverine: Ugh this happens in our house a lot too. It is so frustrating. Except i cant talk to him because he thinks he knows everything. I feel your frustration. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1194941 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 13:02:29 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1194941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: exact conversation in our home! Word for word. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1194931 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 12:59:33 +0000 BlueWolverine 1194931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: @mrs. wagon: Right? I just want to make a little sign that says "She's a baby" and flash it at him every time he treats her like a creature that can be reasoned with. I won't even have to say anything - just hold up the sign. It's good to hear I'm not alone.</p> <p>@googly-eyes: I think that was part of his thought process. He did the same thing last week, but it was much later and, again, she went back to sleep about an hour after he got her up. He just didn't want to rock her for the hour, I guess. I need to try to see it that way so I don't kill him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1194920 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 12:57:00 +0000 BlueWolverine 1194920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I think waiting instead of storming home during lunch (which was my initial idea) is a good idea. I may see if he brings it up. He has to know I was pissed. Otherwise, I may let a few days go by. We're usually really good at communicating and haven't really had a hard time of it until recently. Her first three-five months we did great. Not so much anymore. I used to think that we were going to be lucky and skip over that whole "baby puts stress on marriage" phase, but I was so wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1194852 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 12:37:37 +0000 immabeetoo 1194852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueWolverine: :( I would be really frustrated and angry too. Sorry your day started out this way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1194827 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 12:32:35 +0000 googly-eyes 1194827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be annoyed because it sounds like he was annoyed that he had to get up and was making it so everyone paid for it, but there have been certain mornings where I just let dd get up early too depending what time it is... So I can kind of understand where he's coming from. I feel like sometimes it's just not worth fighting for that last hour or so (not to say this was the case with your daughter this morning.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1194811 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 12:27:33 +0000 mrs. wagon 1194811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This happens a LOT in our house:</p> <p>Him: She needs to learn<br /> Me: SHE'S A BABY</p> <p>So yes, I know how you feel, and yes, it would anger me :T Nothing ever comes out right (or is heard right) first thing in the morning at our house. So much snippiness and snappiness. Ever since Wagon Jr. was born... almost 4 years ago. So yeah.. I know how you feel :T </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1194802 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 12:25:39 +0000 Adira 1194802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gahhh!!!! My husband can be like this too!!!! He just does not GET IT! He thinks that if a baby is tired, they'll just sleep, and if they aren't asleep, then they aren't tired! He also thinks all of Xander's cries mean "I'm hungry" even if I literally just fed him a couple minutes ago! Some people can be so dense sometimes!</p> <p>Hubs will also be really IN YOUR FACE to Xander when he wakes up in the middle of the night crying (or when he's crying because he's having trouble falling asleep). Hubs will turn on the lights and be all "Hey buddy, what's wrong??" in a loud voice! I'm like "OMG, STFU!!!! He's TIRED!!! Why are you making it even HARDER for him to fall asleep????"</p> <p>I have no advice! Maybe try to talk to him about it tonight. I know I can't talk to Hubs about this kind of stuff immediately when it happens because I'm mad and he's not receptive, so it's better to talk about it later. Try to explain to him that babies aren't like adults and sometimes they need help falling back to sleep (or to sleep in the first place) and that trying "spite" her really isn't going to accomplish anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-anger-you#post-1194776 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 12:15:42 +0000 BlueWolverine 1194776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Baby A's sleep has been crap lately. However, in the past few days, she has done much better. One wake up. However, today, she woke up at 5:30am, nursed, and would only sleep on me. I put her down in her crib, she settled for a minute, then began loud fussing. By the time the fussing began, I was back in bed. Previously, DH had come in and kind of stared at me while I held her and then went back to bed. ? So, at 6:30, he gets up and I assume he's going to go rock her (she doesn't usually get up until 8 or so) but instead he turns on the light and decides he's getting her up for the day. Oh, and he leaves our door open, so the light is shining right on my face. There is no chance he's trying to let me sleep. He then takes her in the living room and plops her down so he can go feed the cats, who are whining for breakfast. All I hear is the screech when she's put down because she's TIRED and needs to go to sleep. So I go out there and cuddle her. </p> <p>DH's logic works like this: "Baby, you won't go back to sleep unless we hold you, so I'm getting you up for the day. You want to be awake? Fine, be awake." He's like an effing two year old. She's NINE MONTHS old. So, of course, I end up rocking her back to sleep and being late for work. He offered, but she cried when I gave her to him. Of course, genius, you're the "Time to get up!" guy.</p> <p>I don't even know how to talk to him right now. What the hell is wrong with him? She's a BABY. She's not trying to piss you off by not sleeping. Yes, we need to figure her sleep out, but come on, man.</p> <p>I love him, but I need to figure out a way to talk to him. </p>