https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 20:22:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118685 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 16:13:19 +0000 Torchwood 2118685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would absolutely bother me, but I'm one who struggles with plans being changed. And I'd be annoyed about all the extra effort being wasted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118671 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 16:03:56 +0000 Modern Daisy 2118671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it was rude of them, just like it is rude for any dinner guest to cancel or even invite an extra guest at the last minute. You planned, shopped, cooked and prepared based on their original commitment. If they were my friends, i would let it slide and go with the flow, but mark them as unreliable and next time either insist we meet at their house or only offer to order pizza, no shopping or cooking.</p> <p>This actually kind of happened to me recently too and I did exactly what I advised above. I had planned a big playdate with two of my girlfriends, one has two girls who are older than my son. I had gone out and bought age appropriate toys and food, spent a lot of time and $ preparing. She cancelled after the playdate had already started claiming her girls were being too difficult. I totally let it slide but i politely declined to host the next play date. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118663 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 15:58:03 +0000 blackbird 2118663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's inconsiderate FOR SURE. And yes, it'd bother me because last minute changes generally bug me. I'd give them a one-time pass, if it happened again, I'd stop making plans! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118622 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 15:24:30 +0000 birdofafeather 2118622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be annoyed just because entertaining my kids and friends is different than kids playing with each other while we hang. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118594 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 14:56:35 +0000 sunny 2118594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO would be so disappointed so I would be annoyed on her behalf. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118545 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 14:24:36 +0000 lamariniere 2118545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: same here, if we had talked up a dinner playdate and then the kid didn't show up, DS would have been heartbroken about it. </p> <p>Are you sure it was understood that it was a kid-friendly and welcome dinner? Maybe they didn't catch the point? If it was definitely understood, yeah, I would be annoyed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118541 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 14:14:54 +0000 Freckles 2118541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: I think you are entitled to your feelings of annoyance - I'd be disappointed for my kid than anything . Also, If they're going to get a child free night, I'd have wanted to coordinate that - not often you can get two sets of parents without the kids together! </p> <p>Another thing - if my kid has all of these allergens, I would rather bring my own meal for him/her than burden the host to make all of these modifications. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118507 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:45:54 +0000 mrbee 2118507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: We usually don't tell the kids when our flakier friends schedule a meetup! Honestly thinking about it some more, we should probably just stop making plans with them at all! Too much thinking involved... on the weekend, I prefer not to think that hard ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118502 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:44:09 +0000 Mae 2118502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep I'd be annoyed. Mostly about the fact that they let me go to the extra work of making food for their kid and then their kid didn't show (without a good reason like illness), but probably more about the fact that they stayed until midnight totally f'ing up our night. Like... they should know better. But then again I'm also pretty blunt so I would have (and um... have every single time we've had people over when bedtime rolls around) said "Well it's LO's bedtime so I/we need to go do that. It takes about 45 minutes and you're welcome to hang out and watch tv so we can continue hanging after we're done, but if you'd rather just go that's fine too. Up to you!" :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118501 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:44:00 +0000 Ajsmommy 2118501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To answer your question, it would annoy me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118496 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:41:44 +0000 wonderstruck 2118496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: I don't mean what you said to them, that was totally reasonable! Just the comments about how they couldn't have been having a bad day/week and needed the night off because they'd already has one that week snd he stays at home seemed kinda judgy to say about someone you're friebds with. I would just try to give them the benefit of the doubt unless this had happened before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118488 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:37:07 +0000 coopsmama 2118488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: You're totally right - especially when it comes to disappointment for kids. It must be a lot harder for kids your own's age! I'm not sure how we'll broach situations like this in the future, but I am reminded even more to keep commitments I make in social situations all the more unless sickness or something prevents that from happening! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118482 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:33:34 +0000 coopsmama 2118482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: You think asking them to let us know next time in advance so we could make plans for our kids is responding badly? Or are you referring to my making this post and ranting to a bunch of strangers on the Internet? I guess I'm not sure why a simple request like that is a poor response since we graciously welcomed them to our home, served them a meal, and entertained them for over 7 hours... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118475 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:30:42 +0000 mrbee 2118475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: I would also be pretty annoyed on my kid's behalf!</p> <p>I try to give everyone a free pass or two on weirdness around play dates and dinner dates. But some people just don't take commitments seriously and flake out over and over. I get annoyed, especially when it involves extra work on my part - or disappointment on the part of my kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118470 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:29:02 +0000 wonderstruck 2118470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd've mildly annoyed but would brush it off pretty quickly and just say so when they needed them to go for the bedtime routine. I think it's totally possible they had a bad day and needed a night off. The whole 'they already had a night off and he stays at home' thing sounds judgy, to be honest - SAHPs are allowed to get tired and need a break too and jump at the chance for a night out even if they already had one that week. I agree they acted badly but I think you're responding badly too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118461 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:21:20 +0000 coopsmama 2118461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit: Glad I'm not alone. :silly: I was just PO'ed because she gave me absolutely no chance to make arrangements so that DH and I could also have an evening off with them and in fact she created more work - we spent the first half of the night trying to entertain DS (on a gorgeous early evening when we could have taken him to park, for a walk around a nearby lake, etc.) while entertaining them. If I had wanted to get together with just them I would have hired a babysitter and met them at a nice restaurant where I wouldn't have had to spend half the day cooking and cleaning, etc. ah well!</p> <p>@mrbee: He's just under two, but he does have pretty good memory/understanding about things like this. If I promise him we're going to see his aunt or grandma and don't follow through, he's always disappointed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118452 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:13:49 +0000 HLK208 2118452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would probably bother me a bit but I would just rant to DH (haha he hears all my rants, poor guy) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118445 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:08:59 +0000 Littlebit 2118445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: Maybe I'm super sensitive too, but I'd be pretty pissed. Especially since you guys talked extensively about menu, bedtime, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118436 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:06:15 +0000 snowjewelz 2118436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: oh then for sure they should have let you know earlier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118435 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:05:06 +0000 mrbee 2118435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like @looch: 's point about your son being disappointed! I hadn't considered that perspective... how old is your son again? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118429 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:00:58 +0000 catomd00 2118429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wouldn't bother me personally but I do think it's rude. They obviously knew more than 20 mins in advance so should have told you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118423 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 12:56:18 +0000 coopsmama 2118423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, well maybe it sounds like I'm just super sensitive? :silly: haha! I just couldn't fathom doing that (unless my child was sick last minute or something!) so I was a bit blown away by the text 20 minutes before their arrival. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118421 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 12:55:34 +0000 Amelieisme 2118421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: I'd be annoyed, but I can certainly be a bit rigid about people changing plans on me! I'd also be sad for my kiddo to no longer have a friend to play with. AND I'd be annoyed they stayed at my house that late, if it was obvious it was causing issues with DS going to sleep. My DH would think it was all no big deal too. Unless the offender was a member of my family :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118420 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 12:55:26 +0000 mediagirl 2118420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would. While I know disappointments in life happen, I'd be sad for my kid who was looking forward to playing with their kid. I hope she was appreciative of what you made, knowing it was allergy friendly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118417 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 12:53:12 +0000 avivoca 2118417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would definitely bother me, especially if I'd gone to a lot of extra trouble to prepare allergy-friendly food, but I would try to get over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118415 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 12:51:30 +0000 travelgirl1 2118415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be irritated about the food but wouldn't mind otherwise. Unless it was a friend DD loves, then I would be disappointed for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118404 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 12:47:27 +0000 rachiecakes 2118404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd feel bad about my DS watching a show while we had company, too.<br /> And that he was pumped that a friend was coming over and now, just kidding, your friend is not coming over, but our friends still are. Here watch a movie instead. :(</p> <p>@coopsmama: my DS wouldn't be good about going to bed with company over either </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118403 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 12:47:20 +0000 coopsmama 2118403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: right?! Me too. We would have been out hitting the town. But nope. They stayed until midnight at our home while we had to keep our kids up late (2 hours past bedtime) because they wouldn't go down without their bedtime routine and DS kept coming out of his room. We hadn't anticipated that issue since they had said they'd have bedtime to deal with, too... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118402 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 12:47:05 +0000 looch 2118402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would, because my son would be soooo disappointed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-2#post-2118398 Mon, 23 Mar 2015 12:45:46 +0000 coopsmama 2118398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: @snowjewelz: They did know about the food because we had talked the day before (extensively) about the menu and what to prepare. </p> <p>I can see what you all mean about a bad day but she had already had a night off from kids that week and her husband is pretty much home full time (seasonal job) so it's not like she doesn't get a break. So I'm puzzled. </p>