https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 22 Jun 2026 13:23:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/3#post-2400544 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 17:21:42 +0000 birdofafeather 2400544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>being in the throughs of it with you, i was thinking about this for a bit. i definitely put on a show and set R up with yogurt this morning to get more sleep with S, but i would be frustrated with myself or with DH if we were doing this every morning. i went to bed too late and guess what, the baby woke up 3 times and R wakes up every morning at the same time, so that's just part of being a parent to our kids. it's the season of life we're in and yeah, i do expect that DH is going to be on board to parent along with me, even when we don't feel like it, because there are many days where i just don't feel like being an adult/parent!</p> <p>that being said, i would have the convo with DH about what we could do together to make it not an every morning thing/what else he could be doing to serve you/L for that hour in the AM and make your day easier even with the use of TV/him getting more sleep too. then once you have that convo, it's a matter of letting go for a while. you guys are in the trenches, so give yourselves a little grace! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/3#post-2400370 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 08:24:27 +0000 pastemoo 2400370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would annoy me not because of screen time but because DH thinks he is helping, and then makes light of when I watch our son, he does this a lot.<br /> Our morning solution is a clock that changes colors. No color-go back to sleep, orange-play but don't wake mommy, green- come get me. It took some adjusting but now he usually will play with trains in his room till it is "real" wake up time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/3#post-2400254 Fri, 25 Dec 2015 20:41:29 +0000 hilsy85 2400254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: this is really the key I think!!! Since DD was born, I think L is just so used to one of us being willing to play with him so he didn't feel resentful, and now he just expects it . </p> <p>@daniellemybelle: if he were a later riser, this would be a non-issue...just our luck that we have an early bird kid :silly: </p> <p>@Glitter: I mean, it's not like it's super educational tv--it's usually Thomas or bob the builder (gag). But not harmful tv either. </p> <p>Thanks for all the responses!! I think I am going to 1) try to let it go a little bit, and 2) try to get up with DS some mornings, which will mean going to bed earlier, but that is good for me. And hopefully will help DH be more rested for the days he does get up with him. He woke up with him today, and there was no screen time at all. DS woke up later than usual, at 7, which kind of tells me that it really is the hour of the day that is hard for DH and not just that he is being lazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/3#post-2400230 Fri, 25 Dec 2015 19:41:14 +0000 Andrea 2400230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't read the responses, but my DH definitely uses more screen time than me overall. Sometimes it bothers me, but if it means he gets the kids in the morning and I don't have to rush out of bed or I can take a leisurely shower ... then I just let it go. I don't let them have a lot of screen time so I know it's not being overdone the rest of the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/3#post-2400222 Fri, 25 Dec 2015 19:17:50 +0000 plantains 2400222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I think if it were me my focus would be on figuring out how to get LO to play independently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/3#post-2399801 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 16:16:32 +0000 HLK208 2399801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't bother me. I have to trust his parenting and what he thinks is best when I'm not around. I'm not super strict on screen time though. There are some days they don't get any, and others (like the weekend) when they have the iPad in the morning and a movie at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/3#post-2399722 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 13:23:39 +0000 MenagerieMama 2399722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay I didn't read evvvvery thing, but I wanted to comment on the sleep. I think even night owls/high sleep needs/etc can change if needed. I am a HIGH sleep needs person, not a morning person AT all. Like growing up and pre-kids if you woke me up before 10am on a weekend you would be risking your life! However, with my profession and now being a parent, I've had to function on very little sleep, wake up in the MOTN and function, and get up far earlier than I ever wanted to start my day (0600) every. day. of the week. Over the past 5+ years I have shifted to going to bed earlier than I ever would have, and being able to feel rested enough when I get up at 0600. I am a rock star at going right back to sleep, which has been a learned skill. Granted, not all of this is true all of the time, and I often still feel exhausted (except LO is finally STTN at almost 15 mo! hurray!) but it works. Neither DH or I are morning people and we both like to stay up late. But someone had to give and that ended up being me due to BF and work. I don't think people should get a "get out of jail free" card just because they are a night owl. You do what you have to do. It's a partnership. If you moved time zones you would adapt. You're now in time zone baby! Make it work! Haha.</p> <p>ETA: On weekends I usually spend that gap hour from 6-7am until DH gets up by sitting in the chair half away while LO plays by herself and I occasionally read her a book or tell her she is super awesome for making a great pile of blankets. It's pretty low energy but works without screentime! I would be upset if DH let me sleep in but used the TV to babysit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/3#post-2399715 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 12:56:17 +0000 Trailmix 2399715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85 I don't SAH, if I did they'd probably get more but since I pay for a nanny, I figure she can earn her $$$ and entertain my kids, haha. Also, that's what we aim for but it certainly isn't always a reality! For example, we are traveling right now and my kids have watched Frozen 8 times in the last four days!<br /> I hope you can come to a solution you feel happy with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/3#post-2399700 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 12:32:49 +0000 Glitter 2399700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wouldn't bother me. As long as he's learning something substantial from the hour of screen time, and not getting into trouble, I would consider it time well spent. Plus like PP have said, I'd be super happy that I'm not the one awake/half awake monitoring him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/3#post-2399694 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 12:24:20 +0000 daniellemybelle 2399694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am NOT a morning person and LO has been waking up really early while we've been visiting my family for Christmas. I usually avoid screen time in the morning because I feel like it affects her behavior the rest of the day, but I totally have been laying in bed while she watches a show on the iPad this trip.</p> <p>LO wakes up at 7:30 at the earliest when we are home, but it is often 8 or later. If she woke up early all the time, I don't know how I would handle it. It would be hard! So I sympathize with your husband, but I also totally understand where you are coming from! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399554 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 09:19:49 +0000 su9su9 2399554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed, but would probably just put up with it and just give less screen time during the hours you are in charge if you are really set on a X hours of screen time per day. My husband picks up our son (4 yo) from preschool at 3:45pm and gives him TV when they get home (he works from home so when he gets home, he goes back to work). He picks him up early to avoid traffic. The other option is for ME to pick up my son when I leave work at 4pm, but that will add 30 minutes to my day when I need to get home to cook dinner. So all that to say is that I don't say anything about the screen time because I need his help and he's making my life easier. </p> <p>Both my kids grew up with grandma-care, and they probably got more screen time than the norm here at HB. But what they watched were educational PBS shows. I guess what I am trying to say is that television isn't all bad. My kindergarten girl was assessed at school at the beginning of the year and the teacher told us that she's already at where they want kindergarteners to be at the end of the school year. I am not crediting all that to TV (we read a bunch at home), but I know it certainly helped, watching Super Why, Sesame Street, etc. </p> <p>To get back to your situation...can you at least ask your husband to get your LO dressed and fed without causing an argument? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399531 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 08:32:01 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2399531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my dd tends to get out of bed the second her eyes open and she's usually not too happy first thing in the morning, so I usually stick the tv on, we're both happier for it. So for me it's a little hard to blame your husband. On the other hand I don't call this "extra" sleep, when you're getting up with the newborn I just call this "sleep." We take shifts too and nobody's sleep time is more important than the other (although my shift is longer but that's not important here.! So if it's his time he needs to prepare for it to maybe take some energy. I get that it might go against his natural tendencies but that is life and parenting while they are very little and especially with a newborn in the house. Regarding sleep needs and night owls... I don't mean for this to sound...braggy or preachy? but I have a husband who works a job where hours can change and he sometimes works 18 or so hours straight. He has to sleep during the day sometimes and the night sometimes and half/half sometimes. He's had to work overnight then attend an overtime thing during the day and go back to work overnight again. So in full honesty I have a hard time worrying about someone's one hour of sleep on the couch when they could choose to sleep earlier and try to get on a different schedule. The last thought I have is even if your husband is too tired to play with lo couldn't lo play independently near him? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399517 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 08:15:09 +0000 sera_87 2399517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: yes it would kind of bother me but on the other hand ... Sleeeeeeeep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399418 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 23:58:18 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2399418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I would talk about general screen time suggestions. Maybe not totally block tv but ask that it's limited to 30 minutes or at least an educational show. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399360 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 22:35:25 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2399360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband usually gets up with the kids too so I can sleep a bit in the a.m. and he puts the TV on for them as soon as they all get up. It does not bother me at all. It's their routine. They eat and watch cartoons while he drinks his coffee in peace. And we are all better off! </p> <p>I know I for one certainly don't feel like delving into a riveting game of go fish or hauling out a sensory bin when I've hardly wiped the sleep out of my eyes.</p> <p>I don't think the kids who get "30 minutes of screen time every other day" are more well set up for the future than the kids who get 1-2 hours a day. I don't obsess over it at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399354 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 22:30:25 +0000 Kemma 2399354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: this is just my blunt opinion so feel free to disregard but anytime after 0600 is "morning" in our household and part of being a parent is sucking it up and dealing with it! To a certain extent, I think too much TV is lazy parenting, particularly if screen time is one of the things you care about, and yeah, I'd be annoyed if my husband did this every morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399345 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 22:22:15 +0000 hilsy85 2399345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rockies11: definitely gives me something to think about, thanks :)</p> <p>@Trailmix: dd is 9 weeks so we are all still adjusting fur sure! I tip my hat to you// id love to limit tv to 30 min every other day!</p> <p>@raintreebee: well he dropped his nap so even 7 is pushing it some nights... I wish he'd sleep til 8! He's never done that in his life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399337 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 22:15:09 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2399337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes this would bother me but I am in the camp that believes in limited screen time and I see adverse effects on LO's behavior pretty much immediately. Thankfully my DH agrees but that is after I suggested we research the matter and came to the conclusion together. I also like the suggestion of moving bedtime back, but when we did this it took several months for it to stick, so not an immediate solution. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399323 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 22:03:03 +0000 raintreebee 2399323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This probably wouldn't work, but would your son get up later if you moved his bedtime back? That worked for us since neither of us are morning people. LO sleeps until 8 now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399277 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 21:33:21 +0000 LovelyPlum 2399277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought about this some more, and here's my thought: if I were in his shoes, I think I would get mad that you "get" the screen time hour at your disposal, and I wouldn't. If I were in your shoes, I would be mad that he "wasted" the screen time hour without even getting LO dressed or feeding him breakfast. Are you totally opposed to more screen time? Could you compromise and ask if he could at least give LO breakfast and/or get him dressed during that time?</p> <p>I guess that in the grand scheme of things, if I needed to use the screen later, I would, even if he had it in the morning. But I don't think I'm as strict on this as many seem to be, even though we really don't use it that much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399221 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:57:57 +0000 MrsLilybugg 2399221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wouldn't bother me !!! I'm also not a "morning" person and can get him needing the extra sleep before work. You've gotten good advice tho! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399164 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:21:52 +0000 Trailmix 2399164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would totally bother me! But my husband doesn't have the sleep issues that yours does so for our family, it would just be a matter of DH being a lazy parent! We limit screen time significantly (I'd prefer them to have none at all but probably every other day they get 30 mins or so) and I have actually had this argument with my husband when he has done that exact thing, so he knows better now, haha.<br /> In your case, it sounds like there needs to be some shuffling of responsibilities. I totally agree that your DH is not 'doing you a favor' by getting up with your son but just doing his fair share of parenting! How old is your daughter? Maybe you could talk to him and put a finite time line on the tv in the morning, bc I know a new baby is hard on everyone so now might not be the best time to freak out about screen time but if you know there's an end to this in sight, it might make it more palatable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399131 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:03:42 +0000 Rockies11 2399131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @sarac - having higher sleep needs/a night owl type schedule is a real thing. My husband absolutely cannot stay awake when he gets up early, whether it's him falling asleep with the kids with the TV or crashing as soon as I get up. A few days of him having relatively early mornings, and he has a terrible migraine and sleeps a whole day. </p> <p>I don't think co-parenting should require working against someone's sleep needs. It makes a lot more sense to me to shift responsibilities so he can do stuff at night or let it go that that's how he parents in the morning if he's working against his own clock to make sure you're getting extra shut-eye. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399130 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:02:43 +0000 NovBaby1112 2399130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I guess the way I would try to look at it is- is it affecting DSs behavior? Or have you not noticed a change? If it is affecting his mood, he's tantruming more, etc than I would be more likely to say something, but if it isn't affecting his mood than I would think more sleep might be worth it, if that makes sense </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399126 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:01:34 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2399126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: or have him do dishes or whatever nighttime chores? DH never ever offers to let me sleep in, so I finally just gave him some of my nighttime stuff so I could relax/sleep earlier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399124 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 19:56:47 +0000 hilsy85 2399124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Tiger: ds goes to bed at 7 (I don't think j could go to bed before yhat! :silly: ) and I ebf dd so I'd have to pump which is even more annoying for me...and her wake ups usually don't start tol 2. But if she starts having an 11/12/1 am wake up I think I would definitely ask dh to take over those! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399120 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 19:54:39 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2399120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: have you considered asking him to stay up with the kids at night or take the first night waking or something so you can sleep and he is more in his nighttime element? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399119 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 19:53:36 +0000 hilsy85 2399119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: ha I am also a control freak--is having control worth giving up an extra hour of sleep tho?? I don't know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399117 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 19:52:38 +0000 hilsy85 2399117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tanjowen: no he doesn't--to be fair I've never asked him to, so that is definitely something I could bring up. That would make my live raiser. But I'm guessing that would kind of defeat the purpose for him of being able to go into the living room and fall back asleep on the couch. But maybe not<br /> @catomd00: oh I do t think it's bad for Lo long term--but it's more than id like, and I guess I don't see it as necessary--we usually save tv for when Lo is really tired or cranky or we need to get stuff done. But you are right, it's not a huge deal--which is why I even asked if I am totally off base in being annoyed at all lol.</p> <p>@raintreebee: oh he has had oodles of help for his sleep issues...I think they are much better now but still a sensitive subject. I hope you feel better.<br /> @mrsjyw: lol yes if our kids were unicorn kids like yours things would be easier :silly: </p> <p>@Purpledaisy: yeah I thinkni prob am over reacting a bit...occasional tv right away is ok it's just when it's every day it gets me. So every other day or on days when he's truly exhausted is be ok with. </p> <p>@sarac: he definitely has different sleep needs/schedule and that's hard for me to understand bc I am vey different. I try to sympathize but barring a medical reason (which he does have to some extent) I do think that it's important to get on a schedule that fits your family's needs. Our ds is an early riser and always has been--it's not realistic or fair to just continue having a night owl schedule when that then cuts into family time and makes things more difficult for me, IMO.</p> <p>@cam: I agree--he needs a new sleep schedule! Unfortunately I don't see that changing right away, and it's been long standing point of contention. It's tough to be a night owl in a family of early birds! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-3/page/2#post-2399107 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 19:42:14 +0000 NovBaby1112 2399107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's tough...on one hand I am jealous bc my DH doesn't offer to get up early so I can sleep in, but on the other hand I know that my control freak self would be pissed if DH did get up and turn the TV on instead of just playing with LO. My DH is also anight owl though and I am a morning person, so I generally do not mind getting up with DD but it sure would be nice if he offered!! There are just certain things that I have a hard time relinquishing control of, and TV in the mornings is one of them. I would just be honest with him and ask him nicely if he could just try not to use the TV and maybe just lay on the couch and have also read him books while he rests? </p>