https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 16:30:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540306 Tue, 03 May 2016 21:06:46 +0000 SweetiePie 2540306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LAZB: @ocean81: Ha yes, me too. My MIL just annoys the crap out of me. MIL doing that would annoy me to no end, prob not my mom or sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540294 Tue, 03 May 2016 20:56:57 +0000 Happygal 2540294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alphagam84: it's weird b/c she'll say nothing. Not a word or even a gesture. My family will take my daughter and I'm grateful for the help. But they'll usually talk to her beforehand, clap their hands, do something! And yes, things are sometimes rocky between us, so that plays into it. All that to say, I get it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540145 Tue, 03 May 2016 17:52:54 +0000 Charm54 2540145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wouldn't bother me. I like the break when family is around haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540137 Tue, 03 May 2016 17:27:51 +0000 NavyRN2012 2540137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, this would not bother me. I think it's lovely that she wants to hold your baby, and she's probably just trying to be helpful. I'm always so thrilled when my in-laws are visiting so I can have a break! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540125 Tue, 03 May 2016 17:05:25 +0000 Alba4 2540125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In-laws can be annoying, but honestly I think you should let it go. Your baby is lucky to have so much love! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540121 Tue, 03 May 2016 17:00:43 +0000 Mrsbells 2540121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alphagam84: it wouldnt annoy me, I personally think its nice when moms and mom in laws cant get enough of their grandkids. It would only bother me if LO didnt want to go to her and cried when she took her out of my arms. If not then theres no big deal, I wouldnt expect her to ask every time if she can hold her </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540112 Tue, 03 May 2016 16:48:16 +0000 katsupgirl 2540112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed. I think for me it is a personal space issue + a manners issue + just acknowledge me as a person if I'm holding the baby. I'm not a pack n play, I'm a person so say something before you take anything out of my arms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540111 Tue, 03 May 2016 16:46:18 +0000 MrsB2012 2540111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! My MIL did this to me a few times when my first was born. It drove me crazy, then one time I took the baby right back and said, Please don't take my baby from my arms. Ever. She never has again. She did try again but I turned away so she couldn't take her. I think she got the hint. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540089 Tue, 03 May 2016 16:12:58 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2540089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. I'm close with my MIL so there's not much that she does that bothers me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540084 Tue, 03 May 2016 16:10:56 +0000 youboots 2540084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually it's me taking DD back from MIL without asking. When we visit it's time for them to spend together. But she watches T for a couple hours at a time without us and has for quite awhile so I am really comfortable with her. It would not bother me at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2540001 Tue, 03 May 2016 15:06:47 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2540001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL brought out the mama bear in me for a long time. I totally relate to your frustration!</p> <p>My MIL used to scarf down her food at family meals so she could be the first one done and then immediately grab DD from wherever she was. She would also take her from my arms as soon as I walked in the door to their house. And she would sit on the couch and just stare at DD for hours and would actually swat at people who tried to have a turn with the baby. Recounting these stories now, they don't sound that dramatic but it used to make me IRATE! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539997 Tue, 03 May 2016 15:04:34 +0000 littlebear16 2539997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hated when people did this when DD was a baby. My MIL didn't really do it, but one of my aunts did. She even kept holding her when DD would start crying. Ugh. Just give me my baby back! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539996 Tue, 03 May 2016 15:04:07 +0000 psw27 2539996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well the reaching around behind you thing is super, duper awkward and weird to me. I just think your MIL is forgetting to say, "Oh let me hold the baby while you finish eating" or something similar/normal. I usually don't mind if someone wants to hold my LO (good luck to them, he's 20 months of wildness now) but it seems strange to just yank her away from you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539986 Tue, 03 May 2016 14:54:33 +0000 JenGirl 2539986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I must be the odd one out because I don't think I would be annoyed at this. It would be different if the baby was feeding or you were actively doing something with baby. Or if it was a really new, little baby. But at 6 months, for me, it would seem a little overly formal to ask "Can I hold Emma" each time they wanted to hold her. Especially for a grandmother. Would you feel the same way if it was your mom/sister/best friend? If so, then you just have different expectations of others than I do, which is fine. But if you would react differently if it were your mom/sister then I think it's your general annoyance with your MIL that is bleeding through and making an innocent action super annoying. </p> <p>Honestly, I wish my MIL wanted to hold my son more. Maybe she's worried about this and waiting for me to offer? She's always up doing stuff and I feel like she never just holds him/plays with him. My step-mom, on the other hand, I totally expect to take him from me the minute I walk in the door! She doesn't get to see him a ton and just loves having a gandbaby, so she wants to get all the cuddles she can. Which I think is great! I want them to develop that relationship. But I'm not training for a triathalon and leaving my baby a lot, so maybe I'm not as protective? Plus, if I want to hold him, I know she won't mind if I go take him back. Works well for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539950 Tue, 03 May 2016 14:22:12 +0000 Cherrybee 2539950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL does this all the time with my 3 week old and, yes, it bothers me but I LOVE when she does it with my 2 year old so I don't say anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539944 Tue, 03 May 2016 14:19:05 +0000 Modern Daisy 2539944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i can totally see why it bothers you but it wouldn't bother me. I appreciate fully any little break I can get so anytime someone reached for DS I was willing to hand him on over. Plus I want mil to have a relationship with him. It annoyed me more when people would want to hold him and be waited on during my "break" like oh - my hands aren't free so can you get me a glass of water?" Sorry but that doesn't count as giving me a break! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539900 Tue, 03 May 2016 13:41:47 +0000 LuLu Mom 2539900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh, people in my family and DH's family do this all the time. the eating one I enjoy, like finally "yes i would love to finish my plate without it potentially ending up in my lap!" Usually they say "come to xyz" but honestly MIL will just hold her arms out and i hand her over, she doesn't get to see her as much as I do and she lives for these moments. I don't let it get to me. I want my girls to have a relationship with both grandparents like i had with mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539862 Tue, 03 May 2016 13:22:00 +0000 Jess1483 2539862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in laws do it and I hate it. If my kid leans toward them, fine. Otherwise, you need to ask </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539827 Tue, 03 May 2016 13:09:27 +0000 Mama Bird 2539827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be weirded out and annoyed. How do you just take a baby out of someone's arms without saying a word to them? Manners please? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539820 Tue, 03 May 2016 13:00:17 +0000 Raindrop 2539820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think she was just trying to be helpful... like you are still eating.. and I'm done... I can take the baby away so you can eat in peace. Though I guess I would like "Oh I'm done, can I take the baby from you since you are still eating?" type of thing instead of quietly taking her. I think in this case I would just brush it off as her being helpful and nice.</p> <p>The personal space thing I might be a little more annoyed with because I just don't like people in my personal space.</p> <p>Other than that... maybe you are already annoyed with you MIL so these things might seem even more annoying because of it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539781 Tue, 03 May 2016 12:43:12 +0000 catomd00 2539781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wouldn't bother me unless baby was upset. Personally I was always happy to have a break! I love my Inlaws though. It might annoy me more if It was my mom who I'm not a big fan of lol. But, if it bothers you, just talk to her nicely about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539772 Tue, 03 May 2016 12:39:36 +0000 alphagam84 2539772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: well I think I took care of it when I snapped at her! :) I think he'll speak to her again though to hammer the point home, he's good at that stuff. And she took Emma from my SIL when she was holding her that night too! It's like she thinks she is the one in control of who gets to see Emma when we're over there. And she ignores everyone else and is just obsessed with Emma. She completely ignored her step grandson who was over there which was not cool and I know it hurt his feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539712 Tue, 03 May 2016 12:00:26 +0000 Autumnmama79 2539712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alphagam84: makes sense. Will DH talk to her so it can be avoided in the future? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539710 Tue, 03 May 2016 11:57:59 +0000 Adira 2539710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DEFINITELY annoying! And RUDE. No one should be taking your child out of your arms without asking you first AND making sure your LO is okay with it! Yours is still young enough to go with the flow, but as she gets older, she's going to be more resistant to being separated from you or your husband and this behavior is NOT going to be cool.</p> <p>I got into a huge tiff with my SMIL because of this. Xander was in full-fledged stranger danger mode and he only sees SMIL a few times a year. She comes over, plucks him from my lap, and just starts walking away. He was so obviously distressed by it and was whining and reaching for me and she just kept walking, so I took him back and was pretty firm (and probably rude) about how what she did was NOT okay with me. We ended up not really speaking for about a year, but now we're back on good terms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539708 Tue, 03 May 2016 11:51:46 +0000 ocean81 2539708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to say what @LAZB be said. If my MIL did this, I would be SO annoyed. My mom or sister? Not even a little bit, haha :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539705 Tue, 03 May 2016 11:50:58 +0000 LAZB 2539705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would annoy me if my MIL did this, but not my mom haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539704 Tue, 03 May 2016 11:48:00 +0000 alphagam84 2539704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: I work full time and I'm training for a huge triathlon so I don't see her nearly as much as I'd like. And I don't mind sharing her, it's the not asking first part I have issues with! And it would annoy me if my mom or sister did that but I know they never would do something like that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539703 Tue, 03 May 2016 11:46:48 +0000 alphagam84 2539703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: lol I said the same thing when I was telling my sister that you wouldn't just take a book from someone's hands without asking! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539701 Tue, 03 May 2016 11:44:08 +0000 Autumnmama79 2539701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm. Normally MIL stuff bothers me too but I actually think that at 6 months I'd be happy for someone to take DD off my hands for a few minutes! But that's bc I was home with DD for a year and it was just me all day long, maybe it's diff if you're away from her all day at work. Which is the case for you? </p> <p>Would it bother you if your mom/sister did the same thing? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-5#post-2539698 Tue, 03 May 2016 11:40:28 +0000 wrkbrk 2539698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alphagam84: Oh god yes. That would be a no go for me. Luckily my MIL is very overly formal and asks permission for any and everything haha. </p>