https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 13:33:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654517 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 16:22:53 +0000 Chillybear 2654517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed and tell him that we'll send out a moving announcement once we're living in the house and able to have a proper house warming. For now all our mail needs to come to our current address.</p> <p>My coworker has a very "annoying" MIL. When they bought their first house her son sent her a jpeg of the front of the house from the listing (not the actual listing), before they had closed on it. She some how google image searched, found the listing, got the address, drove over to the house, took photos of the outside, and then posted all about it on Facebook and tagged my friend and her husband. She was mortified and so upset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654511 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 16:18:17 +0000 skipra 2654511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unless you specifically asked them to keep a secret, I don't think there is any reason for them to assume it was. Aren't home sales a matter of public record? I would never even think that something like that would be a secret except from like a stalker or something. Sorry, I am usually in the camp that the in laws are the worst but in this case I think they are just excited for you guys. And congrats! First home purchases are so exciting!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654476 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 15:13:12 +0000 coopsmama 2654476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually get annoyed at my IL's for things but this is definitely not something that would irritate me at all. Honestly, it sounds like the reason your upset is simply because you're fixated on everyone being impressed about your home and less that they shared the news. I don't think it would've annoyed you if your house had been something you're ready to show off. With that in mind, I'd simply remind FIL you won't be moving in until February and to let him know they can send their cards to your current home. If anyone asks to see pictures, just say you will share them once you move in. That seems reasonable to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654465 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 15:04:06 +0000 KayKay 2654465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd only be annoyed that FIL was planning to give out address when you're not even living there. I'd make sure that doesn't happen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654385 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 12:33:39 +0000 erinbaderin 2654385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: For another way of looking at the situation, if somebody bought a house planning on doing work to it and told me up front I wouldn't make that my first impression. I would actually love to see the before and afters, and would judge you once it was done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654377 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 12:27:26 +0000 catomd00 2654377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No it wouldn't annoy me and I wouldn't assume it was a secret since it's public record. It doesn't sound like you specifically asked him not to share the info. I would try to focus on your own happiness and satisfaction for your new home rather than spend energy worrying what other people think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654370 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 12:18:52 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2654370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: it's not petty. Your house isn't ready for public view yet...that's all. Hopefully your FIL doesn't have the number to call your friends and your side of the family. You will still be able to impress them with the finished product- the only one they will know. I would not give your FIL your new address...if people are that competitive they will likely Zillow your address and take a peak at the pictures of the interior online. Keep in mind you still control who visits &amp; enters your new home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654364 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 12:16:49 +0000 BadgerMom 2654364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others have said, unless you told your in-laws to keep it a secret, I would not have expected them to. So if that's the case, I would not be annoyed. </p> <p>From my perspective, I think showing people the before and after is more impressive. Making something spectacular out of something awful is way more impressive to me than just seeing a beautiful after with no reference of what it looked like before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654351 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 12:06:37 +0000 Boogs 2654351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sure annoyed, but in the grand scheme of things it could be worse. Part of the annoyance would come from them telling if you asked them not to. I had my FIL tell people we were pregnant (they were told to tell no one) before we wanted to tell extended family and at the time we hadn't told all my family yet (it was still early). I would tell him you aren't sharing the address yet because you prefer to get mail where you're still currently living. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654349 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 12:00:45 +0000 cat620 2654349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this is going to sound petty, but I wanted to impress our friends and family with our first house. My husband and I both waited a while to buy our first house (we're both almost 30), and we had a lot of people asking us constantly when we were going to stop renting and buy. Our response was we were saving up for the down payment, and then people would suggest we buy something cheaper just to get into a house. But we wanted to wait and buy something we could see ourselves in forever. This house needs cosmetic renovations, but overall it's beautiful, and it's in an excellent location and has a large, wooded lot. I want people to have a good first impression of it, so they could understand why we waited to buy a house and see how nice it is. Plus, a lot of our family/friends are competitive in regards to who has the nicest house, drives the nicest car, etc. So yes, I wanted to be proud of what we were showing them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654340 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 11:46:06 +0000 cat620 2654340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: It's not so much about wanting attention for the work we put in, but more about not wanting people to see the house currently and have a negative first impression. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654331 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 11:39:14 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2654331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think buying a house is a secret. Lots of people buy houses to renovate but it's still public knowledge. People can know about it without you sharing photos and details. </p> <p>Honestly it sounds like you were hoping to do a big "Surprise!" And get the attention for the work. That's fine and great (renovations are a lot of work). You can still let people know you've bought a house and do big surprise before and after photos later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654321 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 11:18:15 +0000 Truth Bombs 2654321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I understand your reason for wanting to share the news when everything is done, I still don't think it's fair to have expected to your in laws to keep it a secret unless you asked them to. As others have said, a home purchase isn't like a pregnancy where people typically don't share right away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654319 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 11:17:47 +0000 gotkimchi 2654319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree I would still tell people we bought a house but are renovating. We'll have you over/show pics when it's done </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654314 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 11:14:08 +0000 youboots 2654314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: well if you are not living there giving out the address for Christmas cards is weird. I mean if people ask for photos or to come by you have the right to say no. I totally understand your expectations but I don't think I would be unhappy with others who are excited for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654313 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 11:12:18 +0000 PurplePumps 2654313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I'd be annoyed, and I wouldn't care if people DID see it in this state. I think I'd actually want people to see it like this if they wanted to, cause I'd be super proud to show off the work I did to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654307 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 11:08:31 +0000 erinbaderin 2654307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: I get that, but my answer is the same. If people ask you just give them that answer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654302 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 11:02:07 +0000 cat620 2654302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the replies! I want to clarify why we aren't sharing the news yet. We aren't moving in until February and the house is not in a state currently where we would want to share pictures of it or have people come see it. I felt like if I told everyone about the new house, I would get people asking for pictures or wanting to come by or people wondering what exactly we are doing to the house or why we can't move in yet. I would rather share the news when the house is all fixed up and perfect. It's about giving a good first impression </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654299 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:58:44 +0000 cat620 2654299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: no, we aren't moving in until February, because we are renovating </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654289 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:42:50 +0000 youboots 2654289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: agree. I totally understand where you are coming from, but keeping a new home/moving a secret that you want other people to keep is a little unusual. You are actually living there right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654283 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:30:09 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2654283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unless you shared the news to your ILs that you were not going to tell others for months I don't think he did anything wrong. The way he is going about sharing the news doesn't seem bad since it sounds like he's telling people in one on one conversations.</p> <p>ETA: I would be annoyed if family all of a sudden started calling wanting to talk about the house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654274 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:23:32 +0000 Banana330 2654274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: meh.. minor annoyance... but my guess is they didn't think it was a big deal to share. I would just announce now before they continue to share... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654269 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:18:14 +0000 erinbaderin 2654269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably be annoyed, but I also don't think your FIL did anything wrong. I'm sure he's just excited that his son bought his first house and like the other posters, that's not one of the things I would assume the person wants to share themselves (like a baby or an engagement). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654264 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:13:34 +0000 pwnstar 2654264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even though it's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, I would at least be mildly annoyed. Why are people so intent on sharing other people's news? Also, why do people need your new address for holiday cards if you aren't moving in until February? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654263 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:10:19 +0000 Anagram 2654263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think most people would assume (rightly or wrongly) that buying a house isn't something secret. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654261 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:09:24 +0000 raspberries 2654261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd have definitely been annoyed if they told everyone when I asked them not to, but I also think it's a little unusual to tell people in February that you bought a house and have been fixing it up for the past four months with no indication before that. It just seems like the kind of big news you'd share with people right away, especially family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654259 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:08:18 +0000 bubblegum 2654259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed but did you tell them to keep it a secret? I've found with my in laws if I don't say anything about keeping it hush hush, they spill the beans. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654253 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:04:48 +0000 gotkimchi 2654253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Would I be annoyed? Probably, especially since I had it planned out in my head what was going to happen. but unless you told them not to say anything I don't think house purchasing is something people typically keep quiet like a pregnancy. So my family would have done the same thing and told everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-annoy-you-7#post-2654247 Fri, 18 Nov 2016 10:00:44 +0000 cat620 2654247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I purchased our first home about a week ago. It's a little bit of a fixer-upper, so we are currently renovating it. We are waiting to move in until the beginning of February when everything is fixed up and looking nice. I haven't shared the news on Facebook, and I've only told a few of my closest friends and relatives about the house. My plan was to wait until after the renovations are complete and we are moving in, and then send out a postcard with our new address and officially tell everyone our big news.</p> <p>I just found out my in-laws have been sharing the news with all of the extended family on my husband's side. My father-in-law just sent me a text asking what the new address is, so he can go ahead and give it out before people send Christmas cards. </p> <p>Maybe he was trying to be helpful, but I feel like he should have asked us first if we wanted him sharing the news yet. Especially since I haven't posted anything about it on Facebook or made any public announcements. I was looking forward to telling everyone myself. Would this annoy you if someone shared the news of your first home purchase before you did, or am I overreacting to this? </p>