https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 05:14:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2303839 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 08:35:07 +0000 mrbee 2303839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine too! Her current family might not be eager to provide a reference though... so maybe she could provide some other references instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2303837 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 08:32:38 +0000 BKCaribBaby 2303837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with many others. As someone with a nanny, I don't think it's bad if she did some babysitting on weekend evenings, if she wants to. Actually our first babysitter for LO was a nanny who was looking for evening and weekend night work. Her family actually helped her get the additional work by posting on a neighborhood listserv. I would ask her and see what she says. The worst she can say is no. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2303495 Sun, 27 Sep 2015 18:01:52 +0000 Mae 2303495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302861 Sat, 26 Sep 2015 07:56:54 +0000 winniebee 2302861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine if your intention is not to poach the nanny!</p> <p>I actually met our nanny this way. She nannied a girl who was the age of my older son. Chatted with her a bunch at kids gym. When I was looking for a nanny I texted her asking if she knew of anyone who was looking. Turns out her nanny kid had just started preschool and she had some part time availability. I needed different hours than what she had to offer but she watched my kids periodically while I looked for a nanny. Then she became available full time. So When the first nanny we hired didn't work out I ended up hiring her ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302854 Sat, 26 Sep 2015 07:40:04 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2302854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302821 Sat, 26 Sep 2015 01:24:33 +0000 lamariniere 2302821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: this is how I would approach it too! I think it's perfectly fine since you aren't trying to poach her to work as your nanny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302767 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 21:01:50 +0000 Keybee 2302767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's just fine to ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302765 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 20:53:28 +0000 mrsjazz 2302765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's perfectly fine. It's not like you're trying to steal her away, you just want her to babysit sometimes. People are always writing on my neighborhood listservs looking for extra hours for their nannies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302760 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 20:47:01 +0000 MrsSRS 2302760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was a nanny parents who regularly saw me out at parks or baby classes frequently asked if I also babysat on my free time. Never bothered me a bit unless they were crazy pushy. Just asking if she's ever available and would be willing to share her card or contact info and references is perfectly fine etiquette. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302755 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 20:22:10 +0000 shellio 2302755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its totally fine to just ask. If you knew the family personally I would say you should ask the parents first - as others have said, some families are very possessive of their nannies and sitters but many are more than willing to pass on their info. But since you don't know them, as PPs have said, what she does on her own time is her own business. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302733 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 19:28:20 +0000 daniellemybelle 2302733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: I think that is the best way to word it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302725 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 19:13:01 +0000 FaithFertility 2302725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister is a nanny and gets asked or approached many times with the same she makes some good weekend $ when she excepts 😉 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302702 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 18:46:16 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2302702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is 100% fine. unless she is a live in nanny with a contract that excludes her from caring for other kids (which would be ridiculous imo) there is no reason she couldn't babysit for another family. nannies are not property. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302629 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 16:46:48 +0000 sapphire 2302629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's absolutely fine - it's on her to determine whether it's okay with her employer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302621 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 16:38:52 +0000 Andrea 2302621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine to ask if you just want an occasional sitter outside of her nanny hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302616 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 16:35:43 +0000 Smurfette 2302616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is fine since you are asking her to babysit outside of when she is a nanny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302590 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 16:10:55 +0000 Anya 2302590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she isn't able to babysit outside of her employer she might be able to give you a recommendation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302582 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 16:04:00 +0000 Madison43 2302582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a nanny and I would be totally fine if you approached her in this way. I think it only gets weird if you're asking her to leave her current family and work for you, but it sounds like you'd be asking her for a night here and there, not full time work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302581 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 16:03:07 +0000 Synchronicity 2302581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't see what harm could come from asking! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302567 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 15:51:38 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2302567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that would be totally fine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302565 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 15:50:48 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2302565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine to just ask her "do you ever babysit for other families on evenings?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302563 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 15:48:24 +0000 MRSJX3 2302563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's totally fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302556 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 15:43:48 +0000 hilsy85 2302556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine, if you've chatted, to ask if she ever does babysitting on the side/evenings. Worst she can do is say that she works a lot of hours for her current family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302554 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 15:42:51 +0000 youboots 2302554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine. I was a nanny for a year and on random bank and school holidays like Columbus Day some parents in the neighborhood asked my employers if I could watch their kids too, so I occasionally did. It's a totally different situation (watching 3 unrelated kids at the same time) but the family I worked with was not possessive at all. I'd just throw it out there. She will know if it's outside her contract or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302551 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 15:41:18 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2302551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um I think as long as you're not like "leave this family and work for me" it's totally fine to ask if she does occasional evening babysitting gigs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302549 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 15:39:01 +0000 regberadaisy 2302549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's bad etiquette. I know some parents are pretty possessive of their nannies. They want their children to be the *only* children they watch. Even on their off time! It's bizarre to me.<br /> (What you want to do isn't bizarre to me. Parents being nanny possessive is bizarre to me) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-be-bizarreagainst-etiquette#post-2302545 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 15:37:16 +0000 Mae 2302545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really know the social rules for nannies and whatnot. We've never left LO with a babysitter and I'm pretty uncomfortable with the idea of leaving her with a stranger but I'm trying to get more okay with it because I'd love to have a monthly date with DH. </p> <p>So there is a park we go to a few times/week and 3 or 4 times now I've run into the same nanny watching two girls, the younger of which is about my LO's age. She's very friendly and we chat about stuff to do with the littles and I really like how she handles the girls. I was thinking if I continue seeing her there maybe at some point I should ask if she might be interested in babysitting? But I didn't know if it was weird to just like... poach some random person in the park. Obviously I would ask for references and stuff still before we finalized things but I like that I've seen her a good bit of time "without supervision" (of her employers) and she just seems great with the kids. </p>