https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 00:54:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208342 Mon, 15 Jun 2015 06:02:09 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2208342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably. Kids don't need multiple parties and I'd like the one celebration to be as full as possible. Unless a parent couldn't afford to throw a party I don't see why a grandparent would play host anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208290 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 23:07:59 +0000 HabesBabe 2208290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How many people are coming to the parties? If it's the same people for both, I'm assuming it's just a small family gathering? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208245 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 21:36:04 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2208245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: I was thinking when reading your other post that if it happened to me Id be more pissed at MIL than DH, but my MIL, even though she's very helpful,, can drive me nuts so I didn't want to project that on your situation. I think most people would find this annoying at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208198 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 20:31:48 +0000 babynumber1 2208198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: just curious, but how is your relationship with your MIL. I have a great relationship with mine and I would just call her and tell her my concerns. If she is a chronic PITA, I would be much angrier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208158 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 19:34:11 +0000 woodentulip 2208158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>THis has happened to me, but as a result I simply didn't invite them to the party we planned afterward. I married into a family that is stupid about birthdays and over celebration (IMHO) so I decided to be stupid in return. And we are all so awkwardly non-communicative that I have never been spoken to about it! Win! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208156 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 19:29:25 +0000 cat620 2208156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: Agreed. I would worry that nobody would come to my party if everyone had already attended MIL's party. Seems redundant to celebrate a birthday twice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208146 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 19:15:43 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2208146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: what's your definition of extended family? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208127 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 18:43:07 +0000 lawbee11 2208127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's the duplicate guest list that would bother me. I think it's asking a lot of people to attend multiple parties for the same child. And I'd feel obligated to bring a gift to both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208122 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 18:34:48 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2208122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This poll makes me feel less crazy. It's way too late over here and will sleep on it. I'm no longer angry, but now just feel bad about this whole thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208113 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 18:21:15 +0000 Finfan 2208113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, sounds to me like your MIL is trying to steal your thunder here. I'd be annoyed for sure. I wouldn't want my small child having multiple birthday parties, seems like that's a good way to wind up with a spoiled kid to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208112 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 18:19:05 +0000 Mrs. Coral 2208112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Aandmklover: 100% </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208109 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 18:13:31 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2208109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Miss Ariel: Yeh, my first post was all over the place. Both parties would mean just the extended family. And I had also made it seem like MIL didn't know about our party, but she knows - we told her a few times. However, DH didn't remind her about it when she asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208106 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 18:08:58 +0000 Miss Ariel 2208106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said yes about having a second party. Although your first post made it sound like it would be just ur mil and immediate family over for cake which I wouldn't be as upset about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208095 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 17:55:18 +0000 Aandmklover 2208095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your child your party. Tell MIL thank you but no,<br /> you'll celebrate after the trip as originally planned. She got to throw parties for her kids it's your turn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-11#post-2208094 Sun, 14 Jun 2015 17:53:14 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2208094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Responses on my previous thread has gotten me curious. I've added a poll for anonymity.</p> <p>If you were planning a birthday party for your LO, would it upset you if your MIL decides to throw one before yours? Assume that it would be the exact same people attending both events. In my previous post, I wrote that the person asking to throw it didn't know we were already planning a party - but now that my head is clear, I realized we've told her multiple times (but haven't sent out invites yet). </p>