https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 00:22:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13/page/2#post-2605676 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 19:19:38 +0000 mrbee 2605676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Oh wait, my answer just changed after reading the other comments! Are the seat belt settings the same for both kids? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605589 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 16:22:20 +0000 catgirl 2605589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even if you are okay with her letting the other child use it I would still bring it up to her to make sure she knows how to properly adjust the seat for each kid. I would also confirm the other child fits within the requirements of the seat, damage could be done if she is too big for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605584 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 16:18:07 +0000 mauxie 2605584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would annoy me a little but I wouldn't necessarily tell her to stop. DH might hahaha. </p> <p>Is it that she has the other kid's carseat and your child's carseat in the back, but the other kid likes yours? Or does this kid not need a car seat at all? </p> <p>If I were to think as the other parent, I wouldn't want my kid to sit in another kid's carseat just because I would want the settings to be tailored to fit properly. </p> <p>Maybe you can bring it up that way and just casually mention maybe the other child's parents will want her to ride in her designated seat for safety reasons? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605574 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 16:08:52 +0000 kiddosc 2605574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My initial reaction is to be kind of ticked that she didn't ask. But after thinking about it for awhile, I think that I'd be more concerned with her uninstalling/reinstalling the seat on a regular basis. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605503 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 14:37:32 +0000 winniebee 2605503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting! I'm not going to say anything. I wish she had asked, because I think that would have been the courteous thing to do, but as I mentioned I would have said yes anyways so I'm not going to make a big deal of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605463 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 13:24:18 +0000 catomd00 2605463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This wouldn't even register in my brain as something to think twice about or be annoyed by. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605399 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 11:54:10 +0000 nana87 2605399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This wouldn't bother me at all... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605289 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 09:39:19 +0000 BSB 2605289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since you really like her, I would try to look past it. </p> <p>Yeah, I would have liked if she let you know first or soon after doing it. Even a little, "I hope you don't mind..."</p> <p>But seeing a therapist has made me try to be more open about different perspectives. Maybe she thought you wouldn't mind. Maybe she meant to tell you but never got around to it. Could she have mentioned it to your DH and he never said anything to you? I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt since you like her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605280 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 09:30:02 +0000 snowjewelz 2605280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A little bit, more about what if the other kid gets it dirty. And yes would have been the right thing to do to ask first! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605204 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 07:11:49 +0000 looch 2605204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, it would bother me at first, but I would get over it eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605201 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 07:09:33 +0000 SweetiePie 2605201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have liked for her to ask, but since you would have said yes, I'd just grit my teeth and deal with it.<br /> But I might say something like "I just want to make sure that my kid has the proper fit and settings every time she's in it. So while I know uninstalling and reinstalling new seats is overkill, the belts and adjustments SHOULD be made every time".<br /> Also, I would be weird about not wanting another kids food and milk and stuff in my seat. But that's me. I get kinda grossed out easily. But again, since it's one day a week for just the summer (which is almost over) I still might just bite my tongue on that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605174 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 03:56:35 +0000 Bubbles 2605174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The using of it wouldn't bother me, but the not asking very much would - I would find that rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605148 Wed, 17 Aug 2016 00:19:58 +0000 birdofafeather 2605148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: agreed. I was always a driver so I often had other people in my car! So to have seats installed constantly would have been a huge imposition. I'd assume the other kid was using it actually! But I agreed, it would have been nice to get to okay first! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605073 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 20:34:51 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2605073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In this case I would not have a problem because car seats are such a pain to take in and out and not safe when not installed well... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605055 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:58:23 +0000 meredithNYC 2605055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as the car seat remains in good shape, I would be okay with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605053 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:54:35 +0000 tlcbaby 2605053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wouldn't bother me. As long as the seat isn't being uninstalled/reinstalled, it shouldn't hurt anything. And it is her car. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605052 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:50:32 +0000 psw27 2605052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would only bother me if the other child needed a big adjustment of the straps - just because I'm uptight about my LO having his straps at the proper safety settings. Oh and if the other kid puked or peed in it. Asking would have been better but I probably wouldn't say or do anything about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605047 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:48:22 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2605047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm stingy, so yes this would bother me. However, the nanny's backseat is taken up by both of your carseats. Where else is the little girl suppose to sit unless the nanny plays musical carseats every week? My desire for the carseats to stay put would outweigh how much I dislike the idea of another LO using my LO's things though. The nanny should have definitely asked since she basically brought something of value to the table for the other family thanks to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605041 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:40:29 +0000 SweetCaroline 2605041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @Foodnerd81: I wouldn't be concerned about so called "wear and tear". However, I would be annoyed that I wasn't asked first and would also ask that muddy feet and food not be put in the car seat...</p> <p>I would much rather another kid sit in the seat rather than continually uninstalling it. I would have a convo with the nanny though, ensuring the car seat is properly adjusted to my child each time she rides in it. I'm crazy enough I would probably check it on occasion too... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605039 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:36:42 +0000 Maysprout 2605039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd rather the car seat stay in the car and it sounds like she leaves them in the car, which is a nice safety thing of her to do. So I don't think I'd be bothered or say anything. I'd much rather that then start switching seats around and it is her car that they're always taking up room in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605037 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:34:06 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2605037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the fact that it stays in her car all the time (taking up space in her vehicle) makes this not bother me at all. it would have been weird if she took the seat from your garage without asking to use for another child...but it just sounds like this was far more convenient than taking your seat out to put another seat in and vice versa. honestly that would be a huge pain, and since having another kid sit in the seat isnt doing any harm I wouldn't have thought anything of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605036 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:33:37 +0000 dc yoga bee 2605036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I guess for me, stained up and dirty falls under wear and tear. Ripped up? I don't know, I haven't experienced that with my seat fortunately. Yet, that is :). The only lo I want spilling things, or potentially peeing in my car seat is the lo I purchased it for. Unless, I knew it'd be a shared seat to begin with, and then I wouldn't splurge on the seat as much. But, just for a summer on Fridays? Probably not a big deal. But, I'm pretty sure someone going into a nanny share for instance would know this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605034 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:31:58 +0000 Madison43 2605034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: ha! I am also petty so I would find this annoying as well. BUT I would rather have another kid use my seat than have it reinstalled every week so I'd let it go but internally roll my eyes about it. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605033 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:30:36 +0000 KayKay 2605033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd actually be more bothered if I was the other child's parent, unless I specifically knew the kids were the same size or that it fit her. </p> <p>I'd rather her not uninstall/reinstall my car seat every week, and it's only for one day/the summer. So while yes, it would've been better for her to ask, I don't think it's that big of a deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605032 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:29:12 +0000 Foodnerd81 2605032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To the whole "wear and tear on the seat" thing- is that really a a thing? i have never heard of a seat getting worn out- kids grow out of them or they expire, which will happen no matter how often or infrequently it is used. Getting dirty is a different question of course, especially if the kid eats in it. </p> <p>But I still agree she should have asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605029 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:25:56 +0000 winniebee 2605029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: Yes, it's our seat. I bought it and it's been in her car for a year! </p> <p>@raspberries: it really just bothers me that she didn't ask. I think it's really presumptuous for her to assume that she can use our car seat for another child. I'm sure if the other kid made a mess of the seat, she would clean it. </p> <p>It's just for this summer that she's watching the other girl on Fridays, so really only a few months of "wear on the seat." I just feel like I would never use someone else's XYZ for another person unless I asked first. The other thing is, I'm sure she is not adjusting it for the other girl, who I know is a different size than my kiddo. Same age, but he's a peanut. I guess that's not my problem though?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605028 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:25:26 +0000 Foodnerd81 2605028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would rather have been asked but would say yes anyway. I'd rather another kid sit in it than have it get taken in and out of the car that much more often. I feel like the risk of a sloppy installation is greater than some extra wear and tear. I would expect her not let the kid make a mess of it though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605026 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:24:11 +0000 sapphire 2605026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wouldn't bother me. I'd rather the seat stay installed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605017 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:13:03 +0000 erinbaderin 2605017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It might bother me, but I'm a little bit petty (NOT saying that you are, just that I kind of am). But I wouldn't say anything, especially since you would have said yes if asked. I might, however, have said something a little passive aggressive about "oh, I didn't realize she was using it..." But I probably would have felt bad about it later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-13#post-2605013 Tue, 16 Aug 2016 19:07:30 +0000 mrbee 2605013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be a little annoyed, but it wouldn't bother me. </p>