https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 05:52:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-723305 Wed, 17 Apr 2013 15:47:41 +0000 Dapple Grey 723305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also think its a red flag just in the sense that you are paying her to have her priority be your child ( and the other children), and also I would be concerned of her sharing photos of your kid or things about them on social media. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-723299 Wed, 17 Apr 2013 15:45:26 +0000 LindsayInNY 723299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if I'd tell her why. If you do, she might not friend any future mom's, preventing others from finding out what you did! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-723285 Wed, 17 Apr 2013 15:42:50 +0000 littlek 723285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I would be vague about why you are not going to be using her service. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719486 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 10:29:35 +0000 pui 719486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was just her and her kids it wouldn't seem that weird... but how is she taking care of 4-5 kids and being THAT active on FB? It's the games that get me... I mean it takes 3 seconds to post a photo or a status update from a phone, but how does she have time to play games!?</p> <p>If you do decide not to go with her and she asked why, make sure you tell her. She probably doesn't realize this is hurting her credibility. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719472 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 10:28:00 +0000 Boheme 719472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm about to email or call her and tell her we won't be needing her any longer. I peeked over at Facebook and she's been on non-stop since 6:00 a.m. I just can't feel comfortable our LO will be getting enough attention from her if she's focused on leveling up on Candy Crush for 4 hours straight. Should I tell her exactly why or just be vague and tell her circumstances changed? I hate hurting people's feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719381 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 10:08:18 +0000 Freckles 719381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would bother me A LOT.</p> <p>I agree, it's different if you're being paid to watch kids. This woman needs to know her priorities! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719371 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 10:05:36 +0000 littlebittyhouse 719371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah - it would bother me a ton. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719324 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:45:54 +0000 Mrs. Bee 719324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it would bother me a lot. it's one thing if you're a sahm and it's your own child. it's another when you're being paid to watch a child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719322 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:45:37 +0000 luckypenny 719322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Red flag for me too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719310 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:41:13 +0000 Boheme 719310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: Agreed! I don't like tv at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719299 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:38:37 +0000 mediagirl 719299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would bother me a LOT. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719293 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:37:40 +0000 littlek 719293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I was paying someone to watch my kid, I would not want them playing on their phone all the time. The other thing I would see, is, does she let them watch tv? Part of the reason I love daycare, besides the structure and curriculum is that there are no TVs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719285 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:35:19 +0000 bunnylove08 719285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When DH watches LO he's on his phone sometimes. like Anagram said it takes seconds to post something. I'm not sure what I would do in your situation though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719266 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:31:06 +0000 Anagram 719266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Almost every SAHM I know from HS posts on Facebook many, many times a day. I don't have Instagram or Twitter, so have no idea what their activity might be like there....</p> <p>I think it might be somewhat normal, since you can post from a smartphone within seconds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719239 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:25:16 +0000 Boheme 719239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It also scares me now that I'm looking for someone else - if she hadn't added us as friends, we never would've known! Its a whole new element that I never thought of when we were first looking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719227 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:22:58 +0000 mamabolt 719227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, that's a red flag to me too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719222 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:22:16 +0000 swurlygurl 719222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would definitely bother me! I wouldn't want to be worried all the time that she was playing a game instead of tending to my crying baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719219 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:21:37 +0000 twinmama 719219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would be a big red flag to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719213 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:20:27 +0000 meredithNYC 719213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would concern me, yes. I'm a SAHM and the only times I really get to be online are when LO is taking a nap. I would definitely wonder how much she is neglecting looking after the children to be able to do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719211 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:19:19 +0000 Modern Daisy 719211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SIL is a SAHM with 5 kids (two that arent' in school yet - one is still a baby) and she is ALWAYS on facebook. She is constantly updating her status, commenting, uploading pictures, you name it. When I spent the weekend with her last summer at the shore I don't think she looked at her kids for more than about 10 seconds at a time because she was staring at her phone all day and night! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719197 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:15:27 +0000 illumina 719197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure how much time babies take up during the day yet so no idea how much free time she might have to do this... but I would definitely question her professionalism. I would have never updated my facebook, twitter, anything public during work time which indicates to my boss/colleagues that I'm not working when I should be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-bother-you-2#post-719181 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 09:12:13 +0000 Boheme 719181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I only need (very) part time child care, which is rare to find around here. We got some great references from friends on a woman who lives nearby, has a couple of kids of her own, and only keeps one or two other children, which would include our LO. We met her, liked her a lot, and were really comfortable with her answers to all our questions. However... She friended us on Facebook and we have noticed she is ALWAYS on there. I mean like, all day long she posts things on her wall, in groups, everywhere. Instagram, games, questions on groups, you name it. I can't help but wonder... who is watching the kids? Would this bother you? It bothers me enough that I'm starting to look at other child care providers. </p>