https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 00:03:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12846 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 17:00:24 +0000 Rescuemom10 12846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get where you are coming from and understand exactly what you are saying. Even though DH and I dont have children of our own yet, I totally understand the situation of the "ex" messing with the parenting plan and visitations. I have an 8 year old SD who I have known and been in her life since she was 3. I know you are not saying you should not get them if they are sick and what not, that what you sar saying is more frustration towards the mother and the lack of mannors or hgeine they have been taught. That is something you CAN NOT teach them in a day. Its not that easy and I GET that, because I have so been there. Telling the kids not to touch or kiss etc.. the baby if they are sick is not something that is easilly going to "stick" after the first time you tell them. Hygeine and mannors and behavior stuff like that is not easy to just change in one day, and everytime you get them again its like starting all over and they are back to their old ways with what they can get away with at their other home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12768 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 16:18:13 +0000 Mrsbells 12768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should just restrict how much they touch the baby whilst they are sick and make a clear rule about washing hands and covering their mouths when they are in your home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12732 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 15:50:44 +0000 StbHisMrs 12732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tried my hardest to keep them covering their coughs and washing their hands. If I reminded them they'd do it, otherwise they didn't care.<br /> Poor girl is pitiful today, she was coughing so badly she almost choked :( Her Dr. said to watch her temp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12665 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 15:08:41 +0000 tequiero21 12665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i agree with the posts above - tell them before they can touch the babies, to be able to clean themselves up and make sure to put a mask on or something so they don't spread germs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12662 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 15:03:55 +0000 BabyLove 12662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I'd be upset too. It'd have a hard time trying to be patient letting the kids be near their sibling while trying to keep the spread of germs to a minimum. It's definitely not the kids fault. It sounds like their mom either didn't care much about the possible consequence or just didn't think it through. I hope you're all feeling ok! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12075 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 00:30:38 +0000 Red 12075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be frustrated as well especially since your baby is only 4 weeks old. Blended family dynamics are always tricky but if I were you, I would be more frustrated with your husband for not recognizing how fragile your baby is at that age and for not enforcing stricter health precautions with his older children. Hope your LO gets better soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12058 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 23:06:31 +0000 Mrs. D 12058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand your frustration.<br /> I don't understand though why you didn't stress to the girls as soon as they got to the house that weekend the importance of proper hygiene. Insisted they wash their hands before touching the baby, and not kissing the baby at all because they were sick. If you put it in a way they would understand they should have been willing. Clearly they love your baby, otherwise they wouldn;t have kissed so much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12054 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 22:59:17 +0000 cyndistar3 12054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be frustrated too... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12049 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 22:55:00 +0000 StbHisMrs 12049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually take them when they're sick, I don't complain. What I'm mad about is that we have a 4 week old, 3 week old at the time in the house. She's now sick. It's a frustrating situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12024 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 21:51:58 +0000 junebugmama 12024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not trying to be snarky, but you are saying that you would then switch weekends as well if the children were sick?</p> <p>I'm in a different situation. DH has primary custody of his son. When it's Mom's turn she gets him regardless if he's sick or not. Both parents should share in the care of their children well or sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12023 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 21:44:30 +0000 StbHisMrs 12023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Junebugmama -<br /> I have a 9 year old son of my own. No I don't send him away. I taught him good personal hygiene, IE: cough into your elbow, wash your hands, don't kiss or blow in the babies face if you're sick. And when he was visiting his Dad I would keep him home and take care of him when he was sick. It's the considerate thing to do, IMO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-12014 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 21:35:33 +0000 junebugmama 12014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to ask a question?</p> <p>These 3 children are siblings. So if these were your biological children and they were a little sick, would you have sent them to stay with someone else because you wouldn't want them around their brother/sister?</p> <p>It's ridiculous that she's messing with the agreement and if it's been through the court process she's in contempt, but when you chose to marry a man with children, you signed up for having sick children in your house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-11983 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 20:51:02 +0000 MaisyMay 11983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I'd be pretty miffed at her. I agree with MsMini - see about updating the custody agreement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-11982 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 20:50:58 +0000 Penny Lane 11982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That seems really inconsiderate. I would definitely not be impressed if that happened to me now, with no kids of my own, let alone with a 4 month old! Wow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-11977 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 20:42:14 +0000 momentspassslow 11977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be irritated. My niece and nephew were sick last week and we all tried very hard to keep them as far as possible from my LO (which was hard because we both had to spend the night at my parents because we didn't have any power due to bad weather) ... but anyway, yes, that is annoying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-11925 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 19:30:20 +0000 MsMini 11925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be irritated with that as well. Maybe it is time to re-negotiate the custody agreement to eliminate last minute swaps unless there is an emergency (and the definition of emergency defined in the agreement). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-irritate-you-sick-children#post-11905 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 18:50:05 +0000 StbHisMrs 11905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have 2 step-daughters, we see them every other weekend. Dh's ex is a very controlling woman and IMO selfish. She switches weekends with us when it suits her best, this past one she decided to take because she had something "special" for them to do and gave them to us last weekend. Well my dh had drill this past weekend and was gone from 6am until 10pm, the point of them coming is to spend time with him. That is my first point.<br /> My second is she sent them over with terrible coughs, low grade fevers, sore throats and runny noses. That would normally me pretty unhappy, what made me livid is the fact that we have a 4 week old baby. I was so mad, they kept touching her, coughing on her, kissing her, messing with her blankets...They were never taught to wash their hands or cover their mouths either, I enforce that. Ugh. Dh didn't see it as a big deal, he does now that he's in bed with the chills, sore throat, and a cough. Lovely. </p>