https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 00:41:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3/page/2#post-2392113 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 11:04:14 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2392113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wouldn't be offended at all. I might be a little annoyed if it was something big that I could have given to someone else or sold, and the friend just chucked it out. But even then, if I give something away, I really don't care if you use it or not- I understand having a preference for something specific! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3/page/2#post-2392107 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 11:03:03 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2392107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Didn't read the whole thread. Just say you're using one for grandmas house or something like that. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3/page/2#post-2392097 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 11:01:01 +0000 Greentea 2392097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Private list and just share with certain people, but obviously you know what you want to do/ are doing. I was just thinking, it may come in handy- there are times when we thought of getting two changers and using one for the car! Now that we are in a townhouse we probably will get another for upstairs. I get it, I researched forever to find exactly what I thought was best. Love my naturepedic changer!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3/page/2#post-2392056 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 10:37:36 +0000 .twist. 2392056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Wouldn't be offended. My girlfriends gave me a LOT of hand me down stuff. I was grateful for all of it, but used what I needed and handed down the rest to someone else I knew who needed it. My friends didn't want it back so if I didn't need it back so I was free to do with it what I wanted. </p> <p>You're not guaranteed anything from your list. I'd keep the stuff until you see what you get at your shower. You may end up needing some of it. Free stuff is fantastic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3/page/2#post-2392045 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 10:33:09 +0000 californiadreams 2392045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it would not offend me. but if it was a bigger item, i would appreciate if the friend returned or declined so i could sell or give it to someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3/page/2#post-2392003 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 10:13:39 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2392003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: I haven't shared it with either of the friends with free stuff. Neither asked for it, but that doesn't mean they won't stumble across it. The list was created for DH and I- I like the visualization of it and eventually I will create two more registries just so I can use the completion discounts. Since I have received two requests from other people for registry info I shared it because clearly they want to gift the baby and that's cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3/page/2#post-2392000 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 10:11:44 +0000 MoonMoon 2392000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't give gifts with expectations, so I wouldn't be offended. I sent a good friend who was due soon and thought she would breastfeed a HUGE box of all my nursing stuff, different nursing pillows, nursing covers, unused storage bags, etc etc. She realized within 2 weeks that she wouldn't nurse, would use formula. Am I offended? No. I just assume she sent those things on to someone who could use them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3/page/2#post-2391973 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 10:02:39 +0000 catomd00 2391973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I totally understand wanting new stuff especially for a first baby, or in the color or pattern you prefer. I declined everyone's offer of used gear. If they're offended it's not my problem. I graciously thanked them for the generous offer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3/page/2#post-2391972 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 10:02:01 +0000 erinbaderin 2391972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine to say to somebody "I so appreciate your generosity but I really have my heart set on x, so somebody else could probably get more use out of it." My friend offered me her old black Ergo when I was pregnant with my first but I really wanted a prettier pattern. She seemed pretty surprised that I'd spend money on something I could get for free but we're different that way. I don't think she was offended, she just sold it on Kijiji instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391960 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:58:34 +0000 Greentea 2391960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another option is no registry, that way no one could know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391933 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:46:19 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2391933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: @Veggiemama: I tried to be honest without coming off like a jerk. The fact that people are willing to give me stuff feels awesome- I'm so appreciative by the love. At the moment, I just still would rather have the items I spent hours researching and reading reviews and visualizing using with my baby in my home. The baby is still months away, so people know that we don't have things yet and "need" things. I think it's difficult for a mom to hear the gear she picked out isn't universally wanted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391927 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:43:19 +0000 Mrs.Someone 2391927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, definitely a different type of pad. LOVE the keekaroo :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391926 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:43:12 +0000 HazelEyes 2391926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nah, I wouldn't be offended. But I definitely took a lot of free stuff. I'm glad I did, because it gets reaaally expensive reaaally fast and I didn't end up caring about half of what I thought I would. I (and I think a lot of moms) end up caring less about colors or whatever after seeing how briefly your kid uses it so free or consigned are awesome. That being said, I was gifted a boppy and ended up buying a BrestFriend, gifted a stroller and got a different one from my registry and bought a BOB later, etc... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391917 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:38:45 +0000 snowjewelz 2391917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, because you registered for what you really want, and while something can be similar in function, there are still differences. But I were getting you the gift I would've asked if you want it first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391914 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:36:53 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2391914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: and it all started with a pushcar/ stroller in fact! That was the first offer. LOL Thankfully, that ended up being broken and unusable because it was definitely not one I had been coveting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391909 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:34:44 +0000 Veggiemama 2391909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Ha! We posted similar thoughts at the same time! I totally agree on the honesty piece, I think that definitely would have helped my situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391908 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:34:40 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2391908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok it sounds like depending on the gear, some things still on the registry/ baby list would be offensive and some thing wouldn't be. Ugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391902 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:33:02 +0000 Cherrybee 2391902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I wouldn't be offended, no. I give all my used items away with the instruction to use what they want and bin/donate the rest. </p> <p>If it was an expensive item, say a pushchair, I might prefer the recipient to be honest with me so I can sell on Ebay, but a change pad - no way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391892 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:29:24 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2391892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At some point you have to be honest with people if you dont think you'll need it or if you have your heart set on something else. </p> <p>Because I do try to resell some of my stuff unless I have a friend that needs it. So yes, I would be a bit miffed if I gave you a nice hand me down high chair and then you registered for a different one (I dont see why anyone would need 2 high chairs). </p> <p>ETA - If you did accept something hand me down and decide you want a different version, I would be honest with the friend and just say, Hey, I realized I wanted some different features on the high chair so we are going to register for one and wont need yours. Do you want yours back or do you want me to just pass it on? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391888 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:28:48 +0000 Veggiemama 2391888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't take anything that you really don't think you will use or need. I gave a bunch of baby stuff (gear and clothes) to a family member and found out later that a lot of it went unused. She bought so much baby stuff herself (like beyond more than would ever be needed) and I think generally wasn't a fan of using second-hand items. Which is totally fine but I was slightly annoyed because I would have rather given it to someone else who would appreciate and used everything! We later gave other things to another friend who was truly in need and I wish I would have had more to give to her.</p> <p>That being said, I don't think I would be offended if someone registered for something similar that I offered to give. As previous posters have pointed out, some things it is helpful to have multiples of (bouncy seats, swaddlers, nursing pillows, bottles) for different areas of your house or to try out different kinds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391886 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:25:46 +0000 mediagirl 2391886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: so I just read your updated post. :) I would not be offended! Your friend probably knows this but...you can always use more of everything! So if you get the one you want, and you have the one from her, super duper. Keep one downstairs and one up. Or keep one on hand in case the other has to dry from being cleaned (poopsplosions). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391883 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:23:50 +0000 Greentea 2391883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can see someone getting offended. I completely understand the question- what if someone gave you a wooden rocker but you register for a rocker more your style. It depends who you are dealing with, but yes, I can see some people getting offended.</p> <p>You have to do what you need for you though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391882 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:23:18 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2391882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: These aren't new items, these are things my friends with 1.5-2 year olds no longer need. You bring up a good point because if someone were to give me a brand new Boppy because they had such good experience with it, I probably wouldn't remove the Dr. Brown's Gia pillow I put on my list after researching the best pillows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391873 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:18:31 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2391873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I can totally see how two changing pads will be useful. The traditional one is encased in wipeable plastic, so I may not even have to get covers for it since it'll just be a spare anyway.</p> <p>@LBee: I tried very politely to decline. By the time babe gets here I may not really care that the high chair is made of plastic and not wood tone to match our tables. I'll just be happy it's here. The pack n play thing is definitely going to my mom's house, but I'm not sure she will know what to do with it. She didn't use them with her kids, which is probably why I didn't pick one out either.</p> <p> @yoursilverlining: ha ha, thanks. I'm trying to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391859 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:12:06 +0000 travellingbee 2391859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be offended at all, but if you really don't want something, say no thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391855 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:09:59 +0000 mediagirl 2391855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: she probably used the one she gave you and liked it and that is why she chose it for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391853 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:08:45 +0000 yoursilverlining 2391853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No; don't overthink this. Buy what you want. I don't think anyone assumes that if they give you something, that means you have to remove any related item you already registered for from your registry. Even items with the same function (like bottles) can work very differently IRL. </p> <p>Just do you - don't stress so much about what others might think. Enjoy this time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391851 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:07:41 +0000 LBee 2391851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I am far from Miss Manners, but I think if you don't want them, don't take them. I'm fairly upfront with people. Unless you have tons of levels or would like a spare, as previous posters have mentioned. </p> <p>Do your parents live near? We have lots of duplicates over there. We honestly have spare space so I would take all those duplicates just to have a pack and play to leave in my trunk for when we go to friend's etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391843 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:02:54 +0000 jlm22 2391843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not even a little bit! Either tell them in case they want to give it to someone else, or just donate it. Because you are right... They just want it out of their house! I can't tell you the number of hand me downs I received from sisters and cousins... Most came with "if you don't want it, donate it"</p> <p>ETA... I agree it's nice to have changing stations on each floor of your house!<br /> We have 2 jumper roo type things... One upstairs that is perfect for when I'm showering and one downstairs. (Both hand me downs) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-this-offend-you-3#post-2391842 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:02:43 +0000 dc yoga bee 2391842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Totally not offended!!!! And we just bought our house, and now that we have multiple levels it's nice having an extra one like @regberadaisy: said! </p>