https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 04:08:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh/page/2#post-1408773 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 07:00:30 +0000 workingmom 1408773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would attend. I can understand not allowing people to have a +1. 15 to 30 is a big jump, whether it's at home or in a restaurant. I don't see why the location makes a difference since it's a work function. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh/page/2#post-1408005 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 16:34:07 +0000 pui 1408005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: Maybe they'd just bring their buddy, or their brother or the girl they met yesterday. You'd be surprised. In any case I can totally understand not wanting to open up your own home to strangers. And if it were a restaurant, I'd understand not wanting to pay for strangers to eat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407998 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 16:31:33 +0000 MamaMoose 1407998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly since he's having it at his home with his wife there, I do think it's weird. My boss just hosted a team dinner at his home and all of our spouses were included! If it were on neutral ground I wouldn't think it was weird at all not to include spouses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407995 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 16:31:16 +0000 psw27 1407995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui I guess that is possible, since we don't know if other 11 people (15- boss + 3 married) have significant others they'd like to bring along. I can't imagine scrambling for a date for a company dinner party at my boss' house. I'm assuming in a small office everyone is pretty comfortable with one another so they wouldn't feel inclined to bring a random date. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407981 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 16:25:46 +0000 Freckles 1407981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What work functions are during work hours? </p> <p>I don't think it's rude, and i'd rather go to a work dinner without my husband anyways. Also, i think it's more awkward if only 3 people have a +1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407978 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 16:25:19 +0000 pui 1407978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: Well there could be the issue that if they let those three married people bring their wives/husbands then they kind of have to extend a plus one to the rest of their employees. Then you might get random people <i>in your home</i> who are not even that attached to the employee who brought them.</p> <p>I don't know, when I invite people to dinner parties in my home I know every single person attending with maybe the exception of one or two. I don't think I'd like having 12 random people I've never met before in my house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407966 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 16:22:01 +0000 Modern Daisy 1407966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's perfectly okay for a work function to not include spouses as long as it's during work hours. For a Saturday, I think it was really rude not to invite spouses. They should absolutely understand if you decline because you cannot bring your husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407965 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 16:21:46 +0000 psw27 1407965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would still go, but I do think its weird. </p> <p>My DH has a company x-mas party without spouses (after work, in a huge venue) but then his "group" has a smaller party hosted by a higher up at his home and spouses are invited. I think the fact that it is a small office makes it even stranger that spouses aren't invited - meaning, its not like adding a +1 for everyone would make it a massive gathering at his house, it adds +3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407960 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 16:20:08 +0000 Aimed 1407960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Glitter: I agree it's a bit weird as its at your bosses house but I guess he/she gets to call the shots!<br /> I would go, I always feel that it looks bad professionally not to go to such things.<br /> It's likely they excluded spouses due to space or budget concerns and also because in essence it is a work event where work will inevitably be a huge topic and would bore spouses! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407933 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 16:08:51 +0000 mrsbookworm 1407933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @raspberries. It's one thing to not include spouses when an event is held out at a restaurant or something, but when it's in the boss' home, it just seems rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407715 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 14:40:18 +0000 Kimberlybee 1407715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Glitter: I think it's very inconsiderate to not include spouses if it's outside of working hours and at someone's home. But I would still go and make it a short visit just to be a "team player" and promote friendliness among coworkers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407699 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 14:36:48 +0000 Foodnerd81 1407699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In general, no I don't think work events need to include spouses. Also, I think if they are including spouses, shouldn't that mean people can be boyfriend/girlfriends? </p> <p>However, having it at someone's home on a Saturday does make it more weird. Still, most events DH and I have had for work didn't include spouses, for cost reasons. DH prefers it because he gets bored :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407676 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 14:29:03 +0000 Glitter 1407676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: haha!</p> <p>@.twist.: truth is I already decided not to go and DH and I made other plans for that evening, but I was just wondering how others would view the situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407669 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 14:26:32 +0000 Glitter 1407669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess if the event were during working hours or even after work on a workday I would be fine. But since this is a Saturday evening, at my boss' home, his wife and kids would also be there, I find it a bit inconsiderate to not extend the invitation to spouses who would generally be spending their weekend (non-work time) together.</p> <p>@raspberries: his wife and four kids will be there with us as well.</p> <p>@kiddosc: I could probably ask.... but I feel I might be forcing an invitation out of him. And then there is one other married staff member to consider if I do decide to ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407661 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 14:23:46 +0000 .twist. 1407661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go. Most work functions don't include spouses, although our xmas party does. And although I think it's nice when they are invited, I'd still go if they weren't. </p> <p>@Glitter: Don't feel like you need to come to us to make up your mind! If you really don't want to go, you don't have to. There's no right or wrong answer here. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407657 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 14:22:57 +0000 coopsmama 1407657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably wouldn't go without DH, but I wouldn't make a big stink out of it. We just prefer to attend stuff together. Fortunately, DH's work invites all spouses to all events...even the boring ones I'd rather not go to ;) but I grin and bear it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407633 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 14:17:32 +0000 kiddosc 1407633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted other... I think spouses should have been invited, but I would still go. </p> <p>Can you ask your boss if it's ok to bring your husband? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407626 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 14:14:16 +0000 Greentea 1407626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@raspberries: I agree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407623 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 14:13:07 +0000 Greentea 1407623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Glitter: not just you! Your opinion is valid anyway... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407622 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 14:12:11 +0000 Greentea 1407622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, no. I wouldn't attend without my spouse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407435 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:46:03 +0000 autumnlove 1407435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I would attend! I don't think spouse less events are rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407431 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:45:21 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1407431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, i would attend without my spouse to a work event that just so happens to be dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407413 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:39:35 +0000 raspberries 1407413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the thing that makes this a little more awkward for me is the fact that the dinner is taking place AT the boss's house...? If it was a holiday dinner at a restaurant, I could see it as being just a work gathering, but if the boss is bringing you into his/her home, it feels more personal to me, and thus, a spouse should be invited. I'm assuming the boss isn't making his/her spouse leave the house for the party? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407385 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:32:01 +0000 Torchwood 1407385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I put other because I'd go, but I don't think it's really appropriate in this context. For a work event, that's one thing, but for holiday events spouses should be included. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407370 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:28:24 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1407370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go. DH's company doesn't include spouses for things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407352 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:23:49 +0000 Mamasig 1407352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go. Our Christmas party was after work - just employees. We've also done events after work just employees. It doesn't seem that unusual to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407340 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:21:28 +0000 rattles 1407340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's rude not to include spouses for a dinner party at someone's house, but I'd still go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1407332 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:20:05 +0000 Glitter 1407332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ahhh... I'm outnumbered :sad: Must be just me then. I really don't want to go so perhaps I'm thinking up excuses lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1406591 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 09:24:06 +0000 Alivoo01 1406591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My former team and I went out for happy hour and dinner all the time, and our significant others never came. Invites were only extended when someone was leaving or we were celebrating an occasion that involves the significant other like a wedding or baby shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-attend-without-your-dh#post-1406581 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 09:21:17 +0000 pui 1406581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't invite spouses when we invite our employees out or to our home, although we wouldn't mind if one of them asked to bring someone.</p> <p>I think it makes sense to only invite people who work there to something like this. I realize that a married couple is a unit, but at work you really are still an individual. </p>