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Hellobee Boards Topic: would you be accepting if your child was gay? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 09:46:10 +0000 mlm2934 on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1025199 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 18:49:35 +0000 mlm2934 1025199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Kemma: I have a similar view. And as far as the Christian stance on things, I have a more liberal view of it... Even if you consider homosexuality to be a sin, we are all sinners and the Bible says sin is sin, so why is homosexuality a greater sin then anger, lust, etc. Just a rhetorical question :) I definitely am of the mindset that homosexuality isn't the opposite of ability to be a follower of Christ. Kemma on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1025177 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 18:32:09 +0000 Kemma 1025177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would go to the ends of the earth for my LO to be happy so that means accepting / supporting her regardless of her sexuality. Having said that, I think there would be some kind of "mourning" period for me as I always imagine her meeting a wonderful man and having the typical 2.6 kids and white picket fence so to speak, and it would be an adjustment for me to change that vision of happiness - I hope that made sense! Dandelion on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1025093 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 17:44:12 +0000 Dandelion 1025093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrs. bird: I'm with you...I wouldn't be around anyone who thinks so differently about views to the point that it could affect my family. But, I you won't see me out there protesting against something I think is wrong to people I don't even know. I think in our lives we choose to be around people that have the same general views on things anyways. daniellemybelle on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1025019 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 17:12:04 +0000 daniellemybelle 1025019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Absolutely, but I can't say I wish for it. It would be a harder life, although it is getting easier, and I know it would be particularly hard for many of my family members. I do think there is a difference between "accepting/supportive" and just plain loving your kid. Even if you would struggle with finding out your kid is gay, I don't think anyone of us here would love our child one drop less! At least I hope not! mrs. bird on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1025009 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 17:07:45 +0000 mrs. bird 1025009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @stargal: your answer makes me smile :happy: @Dandelion: i'm sorry if i've said anything inaccurate about conservative christianity and their stance on homosexuality, it is not my intention to give misinformation. i don't know that i'd say i'm trying to create a world where i don't coexist with conservative christians, although perhaps saying that i would choose not to have any family member in my life who couldn't love and accept a homosexual child could be viewed that way. i guess because homosexuality is not a choice, it is just a part of someone, it is a part of who they are, who they were born as, rather than a choice someone makes. someone chooses to discriminate, family members could choose not to hate or discriminate against a gay child, a gay child can't choose not to be gay anymore than they can choose what color hair they're born with, they might be able to try to cover it up, but it doesn't change what they are born with. i'm not sure how i would continue to have a relationship with someone who chooses not to support a gay child's right to fall in love and have a family when they grow up. could you continue to have a relationship with someone who views your child as an abomination? i'm not saying i can't coexist, i'm saying because i have fundamentally opposing views, that i would not choose to have a relationship with them. i would not choose to have a relationship with someone who views my interracial marriage as an abomination either. it doesn't feel good to have people look at you like you are lesser because of who you love. i would fight tooth and nail to protect my child and their right to love freely and be loved they way they deserve to be loved. i won't get in the way of anyone else's marriage, i won't expect anyone to change who they are, i just choose not to have relationships with some. stargal on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1024893 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 16:26:18 +0000 stargal 1024893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrs. bird: I would be there with bells on, showing off my son and his partner and the life they created together!! I would be so proud and would stand up for him lemondrop on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1024244 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 13:36:10 +0000 lemondrop 1024244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I saw this today, it made me feel really good about the world we are living in: <a href="http://gawker.com/stephen-colberts-best-segment-ever-will-make-you-fee-1150255944?utm_campaign=socialflow_gawker_facebook&utm_source=gawker_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow" rel="nofollow">http://gawker.com/stephen-colberts-best-segment-ever-will-make-you-fee-1150255944?utm_campaign=socialflow_gawker_facebook&utm_source=gawker_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow</a> Dandelion on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1024220 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 13:28:18 +0000 Dandelion 1024220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrs. bird: @looch: I was only helping to elaborate on the conservative Christian belief on it...since some people asked. I don't like that they get such a bad rep for believing what they do. In a world we talk about coexisting, I feel like sometimes the super conservatives are not included in that. I was raised in that climate, but I myself would love my child no matter what...support them and stand up for them. I know that my cousin came out to my uncle, who is a conservative Christian. He still loves her and supports her and lets her know that he loves her no matter what. It's ok if your parents have different ideals than you do, as long as no one uses shaming towards the other side. There are churches that would say they would have to disown their children, but I think that most Christians know how to accept people and their lifestyles with grace, without shaming. I would hope to be like that. But, as much as I would support my kid, I know that it would be an always uphill battle for them, and I never want to see me kid have opposition. So, it while would be easier if my kid weren't gay, I could accept it if he were. looch on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1024195 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 13:19:40 +0000 looch 1024195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Dandelion: ok fair enough, so of a person was a parent to a gay child, what are they supposed to do? jmarionsmith on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1024187 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 13:17:25 +0000 jmarionsmith 1024187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MrsCB: when amendment one was up for vote (which stated that the nc constitution should be amended to say that marriage is between a man and woman) durham and wake counties (where raleigh is) were 2 out 8 that voted against it. (meaning that the majority of voters in these counties DON'T think that amendment should be added) i live in garner, right outside raleigh, and was so proud of my county but sorely disappointed in my state, as the amendment passed. :( hope that helps! <a href="http://www.newraleigh.com/article/wake-county-one-of-only-eight-nc-counties-to-vote-against-amendment-one/" rel="nofollow">http://www.newraleigh.com/article/wake-county-one-of-only-eight-nc-counties-to-vote-against-amendment-one/</a> mrs. bird on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1024186 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 13:16:34 +0000 mrs. bird 1024186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Dandelion: i understand your specific christian faith leads you to those beliefs, but there are plenty of christian churches that disagree with your stance and have no problem with it. so i would disagree that all christians believe it is a sin against nature. Dandelion on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1024147 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 13:07:20 +0000 Dandelion 1024147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @looch: You're right...it's all over nature. I have no explanation for that for other animals. Christians believe it's a sin against nature for humans to do it because of the verses that mention it. We were instructed not to do it, in the same way other religions are. looch on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1024123 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 12:58:37 +0000 looch 1024123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Dandelion: I don't understand how homosexuality can be a sin against nature if there is evidence in the animal world of homosexual behavior, and I am not talking about asexual organisms. I don't have the ability to provide any research supporting what I just write though as I am away from a proper computer. indi on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1023974 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 12:21:54 +0000 indi 1023974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would be entirely accepting. I know DH would, too, but would have a harder time dealing with bullying or future issues facing our child. Thankfully, most of our immediate and closer extended family are either on the same page, or at least understanding, so that helps. That, and the fact that MN is MUCH more liberal than some neighboring states, has made our move much nicer. Like @MrsCB: said, we'll do our best to raise our children talking about things like "meeting the person they love," or "who will be your date to the prom," or "the day you find the one made for you" rather than assuming that our son will marry a girl our our daughter will take a boy to prom, etc. I think that even subtle language like that can make it more difficult for a child to come out to their parents, as it shows what seems to be an subconscious preference. And when I say accepting, I mean it as other posters have put it so well: totally, all-encompassing, makes-no-difference acceptance. lilteacherbee on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/4#post-1023971 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 12:20:57 +0000 lilteacherbee 1023971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MrsCB: Yeah I agree. I live in a rural area by the coast and its pretty much small towns (with the exception of one "city" which is relatively small). Lots of Southern Baptist churches (which I grew up attending) and families who have been here forever (mine is one of them). I've always been more open minded than my family, but when I went to college, I realized just how crazy some of the beliefs here are- I stayed in this area, but met sooo many new people with differing opinions. My sister goes to UNC and she said that area is way better when it comes to this type of stuff. So much more diversity. She is studying to be a teacher as well, and she is conflicted on whether she wants to move home when she's graduated because the triangle area is much more open minded. ShootingStar on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023935 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 12:06:13 +0000 ShootingStar 1023935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MrsTiz: Oh good. I've been meaning to start a thread on what people think of that area, but I never get around to it. I'm kinda scared to move out of my liberal loving northeast, but it's so f-ing expensive here. MrsTiz on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023928 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 12:01:35 +0000 MrsTiz 1023928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MrsCB: No I wouldn't think so, it to me is more "city"..which means people from all over, a lot of young professionals and money so they're probably more open minded. I'm in a southern military part, and lilteacherbee is by the coast, so we're in the more "my family has been here for generations" areas. My area is very anti-gay, anti-interracial and similar ideas. Raleigh isn't like that, I don't think.. MediaGirl is in Raleigh, ask her! :) ShootingStar on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023911 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:56:18 +0000 ShootingStar 1023911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MrsTiz: @lilteacherbee: Do you guys think the Raleigh/Durham area is similarly discriminatory? DH and I are thinking of moving down there in a couple years to work at one of the software companies in Research Triangle. meganmp on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023839 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:35:16 +0000 meganmp 1023839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think love and acceptance are two very different things, and I also think you can definitely have one without the other, unfortunately. To me, love is more primal and a feeling, while acceptance is more of an outward demonstration. My definition of acceptance is treating your child the same way you would treat them otherwise- as a PP mentioned, I'm not going to treat my children differently if one has blue eyes and one has brown, and I'm not going to treat them any differently if one is gay and one is not. I also loved what @Mrs. Jacks: said about fighting for their rights- I would in no way tolerate it if my child were denied something because of their eye color, why wouldn't I fight for their right to be the same as those of a different sexual orientation? mrs. bird on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023817 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:25:54 +0000 mrs. bird 1023817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MrsTiz: i think in that case i would make the choice for them not to be part of my life- if they can't love and accept the members of my family for who they are, then they need not concern themselves with my family. MrsTiz on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023796 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:19:26 +0000 MrsTiz 1023796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrs. bird: it is! Hopefully we never have to chose. They'd still talk to him probably, but his BF would never be allowed to come to any family functions or things like that. mrs. bird on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023793 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:17:31 +0000 mrs. bird 1023793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MrsCB: last night DH & i watched 'small town gay bar' on netflix. i cried. it's heartbreaking to me that in parts of the country people have nowhere to go where they can be free to be themselves and show affection to the person they love. @MrsTiz: that must be so hard, to have people you love hold such beliefs. i think it would almost come down to choosing your child or your families. lilteacherbee on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023724 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 10:52:39 +0000 lilteacherbee 1023724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ This thread and the majority of responses make me hopeful for the kind of world my LO will grow up in. This is a heavily discussed topic in our house for several reasons. Our area is not friendly to homosexuals (NC passed Ammendment One last year). Also, DH's best friend is gay. He is a 3rd grade teacher and while he is out to his family and friends, he's terrified someone at the school will find out because he would be treated differently. His parents definitely had an adjustment period because I believe it was a shock to them. He had dated one of my best friends (a girl) for over a year in college. He broke up with her and a few months later, told his parents he was gay. I think his mom had a little bit of a breakdown, but now, 4 years later, his boyfriend of 3 years is part of the family. MrsTiz on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023722 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 10:51:49 +0000 MrsTiz 1023722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wouldn't mind, but unfortunately I live in a very anti-gay area, and come from a very anti-gay family, as does DH. So while DH and I wouldn't stop loving him/not accept him..I know he'd have a rough, rough road if he wanted a relationship with his extended families. It's not a life I would want for him, but again..I would love him either way. ShootingStar on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023711 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 10:46:19 +0000 ShootingStar 1023711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrs. bird: I agree, I think MA has a very interesting culture in regards to these things. It's very Catholic, and yet very liberal and accepting of gays. I'm not sure we'll stay here forever, and I hope that as time goes by more and more areas become more progressive in this regard. Gay marriage is constantly being compared to interracial marriage, and I hope that analogy becomes true. mrs. bird on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023697 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 10:42:32 +0000 mrs. bird 1023697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Jacks: I love that you would fight for her rights! @MrsCB: I think it's easier here than other places- here the marriage would be legal, we're all pretty used to the idea & we see same sex couples in public without ridicule. Other parts of the country I imagine it might be harder for people to find support. I have no doubt baby B will be loved and supported no matter what :) @LuLu Mom: Who doesn't want grandkids?! Seriously, I wanna be a grandma! Having children should be a choice, but I soooo hope my children choose to have a family, if they don't, that's okay too, but I'll be quietly disappointed. wahine08 on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023595 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 10:03:36 +0000 wahine08 1023595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrs. bird: I agree. I wondered the same things. I know a lot of people who have gay friends, family members, etc. and say they want whatever makes those people happy and accept them... but then don't support their rights. @Mrs. Jacks: I agree with your statement too! I would accept my children if they were gay and this would fall in line with my definition of acceptance. LuLu Mom on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023594 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 10:03:18 +0000 LuLu Mom 1023594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrs. bird: I would do all mentioned above, I would treat LO's relationship like that of one of different sex, I would give her the money we saved for her wedding & be in the front row crying happy tears that my LO found her soulmate, whether that be a man or woman. I will say that I will hope to approve of her partner, no different than if I approved of a man. I want her to find someone loving, kind, and supportive no matter the gender. As for grandkids, I of course want grandchildren, so I hope that if she were gay that she would still want to become a mother, and I would proudly show off that child! ShootingStar on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023589 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 10:02:22 +0000 ShootingStar 1023589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrs. bird: When I say accept, I mean fully. In that we won't treat DS any differently if he were gay or straight. We would accept his partner (assuming he's good enough for DS, haha!) and love for him to get married and have kids in whatever way they choose, if that's what they want out of life. But then it's easy for me, since my best friend's gay and I've had a lot of exposure. I SO want my BFF to find the right person and settle down and be a dad, because he'd be amazing at it. Mrs. Jacks on "would you be accepting if your child was gay?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-accepting-if-your-child-was-gay/page/3#post-1023583 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 10:00:54 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1023583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrs. bird: For me, accept means all the rights and privileges incumbent on any other partner my child might bring home. It means celebrating who my girls are, supporting their decisions, nurturing, listening and guiding them in their journey... Exactly the same as if they were attracted to men. It would mean loving their partner as a daughter, fighting for the legal right for them to marry and adopt in my state, etc. That's my definition of "accepting" :)