https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 12:42:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83935 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 13:01:37 +0000 ecogirl 83935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It does seem awfully rude. Does the host know you are married? Perhaps your husband doesn't get along with the host? I would go anyway but get a car service maybe if you think there could be a reasonable explanation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83867 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 11:28:18 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 83867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's rude, especially if other couples are invited. I probably wouldn't go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83847 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 11:16:34 +0000 Ardently 83847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's pretty rude. Maybe if it was a wedding and they had to pay per head and didn't even know your spouse, but even then. I would never do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83846 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 11:15:51 +0000 shinystraps 83846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah... that's strange. I don't know that I would be offended, per se, but I would probably not go. Seems odd that other spouses are invited, but your husband isn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83839 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 11:10:00 +0000 Lozza 83839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@twodoghouse: Exactly- why on earth, if you are having a "general" (i.e. not employees-only or ladies-only) event, would you not PLAN for seriously partnered people to come together, and reduce the number of COUPLES you invite, if you don't have space?<br /> There are plenty of times when I WISH a friend wouldn't bring his/her partner, but Lord knows I'd never tell them that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83829 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:52:37 +0000 Mrsbells 83829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone... I think I will just tell her that i cant make it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83828 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:49:41 +0000 daniellemybelle 83828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, if I were you, my first thought would be, "What do they have against DH?" If they are inviting other married couples, it is very very weird to me to not invite ALL the spouses of guests, and I would wonder if they just didn't want my DH to attend. From the sound of it, it's not at her home, so I can understand limited space, but if you can't invite a couple, then don't invite one of them at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83824 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:41:02 +0000 twodoghouse 83824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is so confusing to me - I just can't imagine how space would be so tight that you can't invite someone's spouse. Maybe it's rude, but I think if I were the hosts and didn't have room for both people, I wouldn't invite either one. I guess I'm just flabbergasted that someone thought this was ok?!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83802 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:25:09 +0000 SugarplumsMom 83802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude! If it were me, I wouldn't understand why anyone would think it's acceptable to not invite my husband to a party with other couples there -- while I'm pregnant! So she can somehow make room for other couples, but not for my husband. Is it just a family thing (as in the only couple attending are close family members)? If so, that kind of excuses it but only a little. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83799 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:22:24 +0000 pelikila 83799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be offended but I probably would change my RSVP to a no. If they asked why I would be honest that because my SO wasn't invited and I was uncomfortable driving myself and going out at night that I wouldn't be able to attend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83793 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:20:07 +0000 chopsuey 83793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. I'd tell her I can't make it unless Dh can cOme too since he's my ride. But since she already said Dh can't come, I'd just decline the invite :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83792 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:18:22 +0000 mrbee 83792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow so many strong opinions!</p> <p>I would not go if I was depending on my SO for my ride. I wouldn't be offended, but I wouldn't invite that couple over again either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83787 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:10:23 +0000 Adira 83787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be VERY offended. This is completely unacceptable! It's one thing if it's a girls-only event (or a guys-only event), but since it's a mix event, it's incredibly rude to invite one part of the couple and tell them their spouse is not invited! Do NOT go to this! I would NEVER go to an event that my spouse was specifically barred from (unless as I mentioned before, it was ladies-only). That's soooooooooo rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83786 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:05:45 +0000 Meridian 83786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is really bizarre! I think I would be rather miffed, as would my husband! Especially if we had invited them over (as a couple!) to our home before... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83783 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:02:43 +0000 Rubies 83783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be slightly offended but not enough to be angry - I might feel a bit annoyed, though. If I knew other people who were going, then I'd be okay going alone. If I didn't know a single soul there, then I'd decline. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83774 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 09:52:52 +0000 yoursilverlining 83774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>“I think its totally unacceptable to invite a married person to an event and then tell them their spouse is not invited.”</p> <p>I totally agree with you. Spouses are a package deal, unless its something specific like a work function without partners, or a girls/guys night. If it’s just a general party or dinner where other spouses are invited, then ALL spouses should be invited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83772 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 09:47:18 +0000 Andrea 83772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I would be offended but if you don't feel comfortable going then decline the invite. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83771 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 09:46:08 +0000 LuLu Mom 83771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted depends on the situation, if its a ladies get together or something only females are being invited too I completey understand, as if it's a work function where only employees are being invited. If its a dinner party or party that other couples are being invited too then I would be offended &amp; most likely not attend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83770 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 09:45:50 +0000 heffalump 83770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's weird. I think it's ok to be invited without a spouse if it's a girl thing. If you don't want to you, you could always call and say that you didn't realize that you already had something that day and appologize. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-offended#post-83769 Wed, 29 Feb 2012 09:42:45 +0000 Mrsbells 83769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If someone invited you to an event/party/dinner and then told you that you cant bring your spouse due to space restrictions? I dont want to give too many details so as not to be found out but I find myself in a similar situation and I really didnt know what to say. At this stage in my pregnancy my husband drives me most places. And I dont like to go to new places on my own especially at night. I really dont want to go without my husband. So I just feel like not going at all. but when I got the phone invitation I said yes before realizing that my husband was not invited. Would you be offended? I think its totally unacceptable to invite a married person to an event and then tell them their spouse is not invited.</p> <p>ETA: Its an event where other couples are attending so its not just a ladies thing. And I have invited this person AND her spouse to my events </p>