https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 21:54:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821520 Wed, 09 May 2018 15:31:32 +0000 codeitall 2821520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just had my birthday, almost no one remembered. No one at work even knew it was my birthday. The only reason in my opinion to have a birthday as an adult is to get some slack from close family to do what you want for a day. I chose to have dessert for dinner :silly: </p> <p>But DH's family is really into birthdays. Like absurd week-long celebrations with full expectations of gifts from everyone. And obviously if you forget you must not like them. So I'm grateful that my family is far less needy and I'll be training my kids that way too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821502 Wed, 09 May 2018 14:58:03 +0000 nana87 2821502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My bff forgot my birthday this year. I was a little hurt, not going to lie, but it turned out she had just gotten hit with a ton of bad luck/way more serious issues--not only was she having problems at work in which HR had to get involved, but her bil had just had surgery and she just had found out her mother needed surgery. Oh, plus the guy she'd been dating turned out to be a tool. As soon as I learned about all that, I didn't care about my bday at all and really stepped up my trying to be there for her! (We don't live in the same state which is why I didn't know about all that stuff in real time.) Life is busy, birthdays are not the biggest thing, and friends can give each other the benefit of doubt about these things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821442 Wed, 09 May 2018 12:47:51 +0000 snowbunny 2821442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all! My friends and extended family forget my birthday from year to year. I forget theirs sometimes, too! The way I see it: better late than never :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821438 Wed, 09 May 2018 12:34:42 +0000 WinterBee 2821438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: If it was my best friend that I’m married to AKA my husband, then yes. Anyone else then no... unless I was in my teens/early 20’s.<br /> As an adult in my 30’s, absolutely not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821409 Wed, 09 May 2018 11:46:55 +0000 Mrsbells 2821409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't expect my friends to remember my birthday at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821363 Wed, 09 May 2018 10:10:21 +0000 PinkElephant 2821363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only if you mean “forgot “in the sense that we had something planned to celebrate and they didn’t show. That would hurt my feelings a little bit. But forgetting to wish me through text or phone call come over even if they saw me in person that day? No, not really. I’ve never been a person who cares a whole lot about my birthday, and know that I share it with my oldest daughter I’m OK with the day being more about her than about me. My husband on the other hand, is somebody who I can see you being hurt… He’s really into his birthday. But in general I feel that Since most of my friends and I have kids now, our focus tends to be on the kids birthdays and remembering my friends kids birthdays more so than remembering the adult birthdays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821360 Wed, 09 May 2018 09:47:40 +0000 psw27 2821360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nah. I don't really care about my birthday anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821335 Wed, 09 May 2018 08:52:28 +0000 snowjewelz 2821335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mean, I only remember because I put it on the calendar. If Google Calendar disappeared, I can't remember anyone's birthdays outside of my family! </p> <p>But either way, thinking of my current bff, even though she doesn't have kids, I wouldn't really care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821322 Wed, 09 May 2018 08:00:52 +0000 Truth Bombs 2821322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not even a little bit. The only people I expect to remember my birthday are my husband, parents and brother. A happy birthday from anyone else is a bonus! We are all so busy these days, and adult birthdays just aren’t a big deal. Heck, all I did was be born, I didn’t accomplish anything :silly: . If anyone should get acknowledged on my birthday it’s my mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821315 Wed, 09 May 2018 07:38:05 +0000 LBee 2821315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. </p> <p>I don't have my birthday on Facebook so I don't expect people to remember. I said the wrong birthday for my daughter yesterday at the doctor, though, so I may not be the best person to ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821313 Wed, 09 May 2018 07:20:54 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2821313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I don’t expect anyone to remember or care enough to wish me a HBD except my parents, brother and DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821312 Wed, 09 May 2018 07:17:14 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2821312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I barely think of my own birthday, so definitely not! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821288 Tue, 08 May 2018 21:48:41 +0000 Sams Mom 2821288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It really depends on which friend it is 🤣. One of my best friends usually remembers after she's been on Facebook, another one is 10 days younger than me and is ultra Type A (sends cards out for every holiday, remembers everything), and another sets reminders in his phone every year in advance and still manages to forget my birthday until a day or two later...</p> <p>So if the first or last one does, I know they'd tell me as soon as they remember, if it was the second one I don't think I would be mad so much as shocked that she would forget anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821279 Tue, 08 May 2018 21:12:11 +0000 LCTBQE 2821279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821278 Tue, 08 May 2018 21:11:45 +0000 LCTBQE 2821278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I would not care in the least. Stuff like that isn’t what makes a friendship, IMO, and as pp’s have said, I’m so preoccupied with the minutiae of work/life that I barely remember my own. I once called my very best friend on the 14th to wish her a happy birthday—her birthday is the 4th. She thought it was funny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821273 Tue, 08 May 2018 21:07:35 +0000 crazydoglady 2821273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Turns out my friend wasn't mad...just my guilty conscience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821264 Tue, 08 May 2018 20:45:46 +0000 agold 2821264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Life gets busy. I forget my own birthday, pretty much. So I wouldn’t care if anyone forgot mine. Some friends are so high maintenance! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821250 Tue, 08 May 2018 20:15:58 +0000 irene 2821250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to (when I was in my 20s-early 30s), but I changed my way of thinking and no, not anymore. Nowadays I make it a goal to not let anyone remember or know when my birthday is. What's the point and why set yourself up for disappointment? </p> <p>I hope your BF gets over it soon.... just call and apologize and suggest you'll take her out to something she enjoys doing later, make her feel special :heart: If you feel she is really going to be mad, send her flowers :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821249 Tue, 08 May 2018 20:13:38 +0000 lamariniere 2821249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend knows roughly when my birthday is, but never remembers the exact day. So he'll start wishing me happy birthday at random times to make sure that he gets it. It's a running joke between us now. But in general, I do not expect people to remember my birthday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821246 Tue, 08 May 2018 20:02:54 +0000 Madison43 2821246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: same. I can’t remember anything anymore and don’t expect anyone else to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821242 Tue, 08 May 2018 19:58:48 +0000 FaithFertility 2821242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend and I have busy jobs 2 kids each so life can get CRAZY, I wouldn't be upset at all! I Think ....lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821218 Tue, 08 May 2018 18:43:18 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2821218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend forgets my birthday all the time. It stings, I am not going to lie. But as I get older I realize that these things bother me less. It is important to me to remember her birthday, but I understand that for other people, this kind of stuff isn't as important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821217 Tue, 08 May 2018 18:38:06 +0000 erinbaderin 2821217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’d be annoyed, yes. Between smartphones and Facebook I don’t think there’s any excuse for not sending a text or email. That being said, I’d get over it fast, especially if they called to apologize once they realized. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821214 Tue, 08 May 2018 18:24:54 +0000 Foodnerd81 2821214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I can’t even keep track of what day it is so I don’t expect anyone else to be on top of that. I once had a good friend call me and we chatted for half an hour and she didn’t realize until the next day that it had been my bday and she forgot to say happy birthday. I really didn’t care and thought it was a little funny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821213 Tue, 08 May 2018 18:20:34 +0000 MamaBear87 2821213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on the situation. And whether they missed the actual day and then called shortly after. People get busy but if they miss it entirely and never say anything I'd be upset </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-upset-with-one-of-your-best-friends-for-forgetting-your-birthday#post-2821212 Tue, 08 May 2018 18:17:53 +0000 crazydoglady 2821212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious...</p> <p>Hint: I was the one who forgot. 🙊 </p>