https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 12:28:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908812 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 19:45:59 +0000 lilteacherbee 908812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would. We used to live 5 minutes from them and they never stopped by all the time or unannounced. They let us decide when we wanted to see them and we usually went to their house. </p> <p>Now, MY parents? That would be a no. My mom's entire family lives on one street so she's used to just popping in whenever. That coupled with the fact that she drives me nuts when I'm around her for too long would be a very bad situation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908795 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 19:36:38 +0000 blackbird 908795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hellllllls naw. I like my MIL but its too close for me!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908737 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 19:13:19 +0000 SugarplumsMom 908737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pre-baby, no way. Post baby, I'd actually think about it! They're great with DD and getting a break every so often would be nice. Plus they're really into gardening and their yard is literally manicured. But I know it could have it's downsides too.</p> <p>They live an hour away from us, and I used to think it was just the right distance (we actually only saw houses within a certain proximity from them) but now with DD, sometimes I think it's a little far. But just saying that is jinxing myself for something, so I have to say it's perfect as it is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908726 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 19:07:18 +0000 Sadieloo 908726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't, but that's because we have big boundary issues with my MIL. Not to mention she lives too far from the city (there are def some god things about h living 2.5 hrs Away). that sud, I am slightly scared that she will be on our doorstep with her suitcases the second our son (her first grandchild) is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908646 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 18:12:00 +0000 avivoca 908646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL would respect our boundaries, but my SIL would not. Her kids run all over, she comes in and takes groceries, etc. I could not handle that. My mom wouldn't respect them either. Sometimes I feel like living 45 minutes away is too close. My ideal is a couple of hours away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908602 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 17:35:21 +0000 MrsKoala 908602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH bought a house 2 miles from his parents in the first year of our relationship so we're kind of stuck that close to them for at least the next 5 or 6 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908534 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 16:46:06 +0000 travellingbee 908534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um Nope, definitely not. But I also don't want to live next door to my parents either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908502 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 16:25:35 +0000 runsyellowlites 908502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>NO WAY! </p> <p>On the flipside we're getting a house directly next door to MY mom! lol. Her &amp; DH have a good relationship though &amp; she has healthy boundaries! She currently lives a block over (at the ministry home we have) and she minds her business! I like being close though b/c G goes &amp; stays there often (he just walks over) &amp; I work for her so it makes for easy meetings &amp; touching base! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908497 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 16:21:29 +0000 jhd 908497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I love them, but no. Also they live in a town smaller than ours so I would never want to live there anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908475 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 16:07:34 +0000 Sweet T 908475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. No. No. If/when we move back home, we'll be 4 hours from FIL and an hour or two from MIL. If it weren't for my family living there, we'd probably consider living further away. I don't want to give MIL any chances to just "stop by." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908465 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 16:03:02 +0000 Ra 908465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not even if the house was free. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws/page/2#post-908461 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 15:59:29 +0000 pl0508 908461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>NO :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908440 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 15:50:40 +0000 honeybear 908440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We probably will (but not quite as close as 10 houses down...). It totally depends on the relationship. I would have qualms about living near someone who routinely showed up uninvited, or who had expectations about visits that didn't align well with ours (and weren't likely to change). I've seen living-next-door-to-the-ILs work beautifully, but I imagine it could be a nightmare in some situations! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908417 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 15:40:13 +0000 Torchwood 908417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My father-in-law and his wife? Sure. He works 12+ hours a day, and she doesn't actually like kids that much (she told my 1.5 year old niece to "stop acting like a baby" when she cried because her grandmother left). My mother-in-law and her husband (and her mother-in-law that lives with them), NEVER. She'd be over all the time, or expect us to be over, they smoke ALL the time and smell up any room they're in even if they only smoke outside, and most importantly, she's expected my husband to help her pay bills since he got his first job at THIRTEEN, including just taking money out of his account when he was younger and had to have her name on it to get one. She still asks us for money constantly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908327 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 14:49:20 +0000 littlebug 908327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely not. My ILs have no concept of boundaries. Both of my BILs live close to my ILs, and they are over at their houses constantly...and they don't have kids! They even go over when they're not home! It's insane. Hubs would live to move back to our hometown, but I am not having it. We need at least a 30 minute buffer, if not more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908309 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 14:38:54 +0000 petunia354 908309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope....sorry in laws!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908214 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 14:00:32 +0000 yin 908214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, most definitely not. My in-laws wanted us to live nearby, and I don't like the neighborhood or town they live in. Plus that would mean lack of personal space for our family, and that's just a no no. We live 25 minutes away, and I think that's the perfect distance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908211 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 13:58:27 +0000 Dandelion 908211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah...my DH wants to have land so that we can put an extra house up for them. They haven't been very good with their money, so they're gonna need a place to live if they ever want to stop working. DH wants to make sure we have that for them. In the future, we'd rent it out to DS or any other future kids (or even someone else) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908151 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 13:29:31 +0000 Smurfette 908151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>NO WAY </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908112 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 13:13:59 +0000 su9su9 908112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would! My ILs are not at all annoying and are super helpful. :) I doubt they would stop by 10x a day either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908107 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 13:12:35 +0000 lovehoneybee 908107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely would, but I adore my ILs and they very much respect personal boundaries (and are off globe-trotting a lot anyway). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908099 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 13:09:46 +0000 beachbee 908099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would be great honestly. Depending in your relationship of course and that you set boundaries. We're very close with my IL's and they are very involved with LO. So for us it would be more convenient to have them close and I know they would respect our boundaries and not come over all the time, invite themselves in, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-908037 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 12:45:33 +0000 chopsuey 908037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my in laws, so yes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-907990 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 12:23:37 +0000 lemondrop 907990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it all depends on the personalities involved and the boundaries you set ahead of time. </p> <p>I grew up across the street from my mom's parents, I feel very fortunate to have been able to run tame through their house- on a daily basis. That said, they respected my parent's boundaries and didn't come to our house more than a once a week for dinner. I think they felt like they saw us enough that they didn't need to come over. </p> <p>I would be perfectly happy living down the street from my IL's, but my husband would not... and vice versa. We get along with each other's parents very well, but it is best for both of us to have some separation from our own parents! </p> <p>I think having easy access to child care would be awesome (especially with a growing family), but you need to set boundaries ahead of time- coming over unannounced, how frequent, knocking first, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-907731 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:28:54 +0000 dc yoga bee 907731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: nope! We purposely moved 800mi away :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-907697 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:21:14 +0000 Mrs. Blue 907697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Close like an hour or two away? Yes. Close like 10 houses? Eh....I'm not so convinced that either of our parents needs to live quite that close. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-907680 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:18:07 +0000 boiledpnut 907680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. MIL doesn't respect boundaries even when they are laid out for her. She lives halfway across the country and that is perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-907593 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 09:53:54 +0000 Bao 907593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in laws live about 3/4 to a mile away from us and we never see them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-907581 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 09:50:35 +0000 ShootingStar 907581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL isn't the type to just stop by. She's very much a loner sometimes. But she would be expecting DH to be over every other weekend fixing something or doing something in her house, which would drive me crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-house-near-your-in-laws#post-907579 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 09:48:52 +0000 Boheme 907579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on your in-laws and their understanding of boundaries. My ILs live about 5 minutes away and it sucks. They always use the 'I was in the neighborhood' excuse, and I see them WAY more often than I'm ok with. I want to move far away next time! </p>