https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 20:22:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1298582 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 19:06:34 +0000 Koolbreeze 1298582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes yes yes!!!! (As long as its not my egg)<br /> I would love to be a surrogate one day and I think the only way my SO would go for it would be if it were for family. I think it would be amazing to be able to watch the child grow up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1298567 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 18:55:50 +0000 LittleFox 1298567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: @MrsMcD: Catholic </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1298016 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 13:49:17 +0000 Boheme 1298016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I felt too bonded to DS by the time of his birth, and I had both an awful pregnancy and an awful delivery, compounded by postpartum depression. I couldn't put myself through that mental hell again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1297921 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 13:07:55 +0000 mrs. wagon 1297921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the past my answer would have been HECK NO... I had uncomfortable pregnancies and rough deliveries with bad experiences with pain management. But of course, now that I'm done with kids, I get a twinge whenever I read a birth story...!! I think my answer is no (mostly because I don't have sisters, and I'm not sure who else I would do this for) but of course now that I'm pretty much recovered from all things pregnancy, I'm all "maybe...." ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1297906 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 13:04:46 +0000 bushelandapeck 1297906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would for my sister but probably not for anyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1297881 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 12:58:24 +0000 Foodnerd81 1297881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to think yes but honestly, probably not. I wouldn't do it until we are done having our own kids, at which point I'll prob by at least 35. I would worry about the pregnancy taking me away from my young children, even though my first pregnancy and delivery were pretty easy. Dh said he would be too worried about something happening to me. </p> <p>The actual bonding and giving up part I think I could handle, as long as it wasn't my egg. I feel like if I knew I was just growing the baby for my loved one I would feel differently than I did with my baby. </p> <p>I would consider it if one of my sisters asked but not sure if say yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1297796 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 12:23:02 +0000 Vegmama 1297796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 38 weeks pregnant right now ... While I have absolutely loved being pregnant, I just don't think I could carry someone else's baby. The connection I have with my baby is beyond what words can explain, and I can't imagine having to grow someone else's baby, then hand it over. Sure, it would be emotionally rewarding, but for me, the sting of it would be too much. I have so much respect for those that can do this ... I think they're a truly special kind of person! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1297674 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 11:44:08 +0000 jhd 1297674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't do it but have enormous respect &amp; admiration for those who do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1297666 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 11:41:51 +0000 LuLu Mom 1297666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, and considered it for my sister when they were having issues. I woudl have waited until we were done having our children in case of complications, but I would have been the "cooker" of my niece/nephew had they wanted to go that route. (Luckily after some help they now have 2 beautiful children on their own!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1297547 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 11:19:08 +0000 pl0508 1297547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For my brother and SIL only. But I had a dream pregnancy ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1297437 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 10:39:25 +0000 deactivated_account 1297437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittleFox: do you mind telling what your religion is?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1297030 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 01:48:59 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1297030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I had easy pregnancies, but I still think it's too hard on the body. I developed a gluten allergy after my 2nd pregnancy. I know people who have lost their sense of smell, their sense of touch, and developed other allergies… it's rough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296988 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 23:52:46 +0000 googly-eyes 1296988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH wouldn't be comfortable with it.</p> <p>But I could see it being so special if it were the right person! I think I'll still be young when I'm done having my own so hypothetically I'd have that going in my favor.</p> <p>But I would only do it if DH was 100% ok with it and so I voted no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296982 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 23:46:58 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1296982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! I am kind of amazed at how 50/50 this poll turned out. There are a lot of generous souls on here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296916 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 22:05:31 +0000 jedeve 1296916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittleFox: interesting. What religion is that, if you don't mind my asking?</p> <p>No I wouldn't. Being pregnant was not something my body was that good at. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296912 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 21:59:35 +0000 erinpye 1296912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, dealing with Hyperemesis is not something I will even do again for myself, let alone someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296904 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 21:56:25 +0000 lovehoneybee 1296904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to say yes but to be honest I don't think I could. My pregnancy with E was rough on me, and I don't think it would be fair to him or D for me to potentially go through that again and not have a baby to bring to our family. </p> <p>I MIGHT consider if for my BFF who is in a same-sex relationship, but my parts aren't the parts they need. </p> <p>And maybe if I had a sister or cousin I was really close to I would at least consider it? </p> <p>But since those the former above exception isn't an issue I could help with and the latter is just not the case I say probably not. At least not now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296890 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 21:48:51 +0000 Mrs. Pinata 1296890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since we've been through infertility and I know how awful it is, I would do this for any close friend or relative that wanted a surrogate. But, I also think it would be strange if the only baby I gave birth to wasn't my biological child. I think we would need to 100% be done with trying for biological kids before I did it though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296886 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 21:46:00 +0000 LittleFox 1296886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I most likely would not, mostly because being a surrogate is not allowed in my religion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296810 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 20:30:56 +0000 Ra 1296810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I couldn't. I felt so bonded with B even before I delivered him. I couldn't imagine spending 9 months bonding with a baby just to give him/her up. I know it sounds selfish, but I couldn't mentally handle it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296804 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 20:27:08 +0000 travelgirl1 1296804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For one of my sisters, yes. If I never had the chance to be à mama it would breaky heart, if they were facing that and surrogacy was the only option i would help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296772 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 19:53:19 +0000 NavyRN2012 1296772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I honestly can't think of anyone I would do this for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296766 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 19:48:24 +0000 mrsbookworm 1296766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would for my sister and in fact, she offered to be a surrogate for me when I was having IF problems. She said she would carry the baby or donate her eggs, but she didn't think she could handle both (which I completely understand). It was such a generous offer from both my sister and her husband. Luckily, we didn't need her in the end, but I'll never forget her generosity.</p> <p>@howeverbriefly: Your sister is wonderful! Fingers crossed for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296723 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 19:05:39 +0000 Mamasig 1296723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't. Plus, each pregnancy is different so who knows if it would be easy or hard. Plus, I have to think of the LO I already have. I need to be able to take care of him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296721 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 19:00:17 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1296721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: your sister seriously rocks the world!!!! She is amazing. I'm in awe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296697 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 18:19:16 +0000 AmandaB8 1296697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My pregnancy has been relatively easy, so I would do it for a select few people. I would for my BFF, and my one SIL. And probably for my sister (but she's only 12 so it's not even on the radar obviously :wink:). But it would definitely depend on the person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296681 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 18:04:48 +0000 winniebee 1296681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I could emotionally. But I also wouldn't for my own health and health of the baby since I'm at risk for preterm labor again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296673 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 17:46:22 +0000 pastemoo 1296673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband would never go for it. If somehow the situation come up in a different universe without my same husband, I would for my brother and his lovely wife if they asked but probably no one else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296666 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 17:37:02 +0000 autumnlove 1296666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I wouldn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-carry-a-child-for-a-relative-or-loved-one#post-1296664 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 17:26:09 +0000 however briefly 1296664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: Thank you! She's not going to POAS again until Christmas morning (12DPO) so we're all crossing our fingers that this Christmas will be extra special! </p>