https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 01:23:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-869391 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 23:55:11 +0000 Mrs. Pen 869391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkinspice: Note that I have no intention to offend, but I do want to reply to your comment. I think sometimes those expectations for organic/home made etc is more self-induced than anything. No one said anything about that being wrong/bad for your child. Just as you have a conviction that it is fine for your child, I know several families (myself included) who believe organic is the best option and it's healthiest to make food at home. We are not wrong for having those convictions. Nor are we forcing them upon anyone else or professing someone else's view to be bad. I wouldn't want anyone to think that just because *I* I don't want to feed my toddler sugar/grains every day, that I'm judging them. That's not it at all. My child, my rules, while I can control it. </p> <p>I just often feel that that sort of judgment really goes both ways and that's what annoys me. I hate these mommy wars! I really do hope no one has made you feel to be less of a mother because of the food choices you make for your children. Because that is definitely not true. I firmly believe that the foods you choose for your family is a choice only you can make and you have to be 100% okay with it. No guilt. Hope that made sense! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-869322 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 22:33:23 +0000 Freckles 869322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkinspice: No, i understand where you were coming from, and i should have worded my original post better. Hope i don't come off as a crazy mom, and that we're good! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-869288 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 22:10:21 +0000 googly-eyes 869288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: I wonder if maybe they've relaxed because it's the end of the school year and if the center also has pre-k, maybe things are a little crazy. Not that it's an excuse, but it may mean that it's not a regular occurrence... I hope that's the case so your lo hasn't been having those things often. My daughter is 9 months and I can't imagine her having those things in 3 more months...she's still on purees!<br /> Anyway if it were me I'd maybe ask casually about whether any babies choke on it or something like that...feel them out a little. Maybe you could even bring in a healthy snack if you think they are a little overwhelmed right now. You don't want to come off as "that" parent, but you are the parent and you do pay the bill... FWIW, I've worked not with infants but older children and I would have taken comments ok, but I know there are a lot of teachers who do get offended/territorial. I guess you know your child's daycare provider the best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-869278 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 22:03:41 +0000 sarac 869278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkinspice: I'm with you, honestly. I think it can be very easy to go overboard about these things. At some point it just becomes less important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868918 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 19:52:05 +0000 Crisark 868918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: I can most certainly agree with you that if they felt the need to serve those items they should have been clearly listed on the menu. Absolutely no doubt about it. I do again apologize if I upset you in anyway. I was a bit hot headed today in general so my rant was more of that coming through unfairly towards you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868419 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 16:04:59 +0000 Freckles 868419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkinspice: I understand where you're coming from. I realize i didn't word it the best way, and i really just wanted to question why they even had to include marshmallows and chocolate without indicating it on the menu.</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: No, i know what you meant. Compared to severe allergic reactions, this is nothing! I guess i honestly didn't think that bringing it up = making a fuss. My intention wasn't to have it banned, and re-reading my original post, i just didn't word it in the best way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868396 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:55:03 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 868396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: well I hope you didn't think that I was trying to offend with my comment. I just meant that I focus on the big stuff and work around the rest... But that's because we have a big deal life threatening issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868394 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:54:55 +0000 Crisark 868394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Sorry you are offended. That really wasn't my intention.<br /> But, I do think some moms , normally first time moms not saying all but see it more often then not, are a lot more strict and worried about certain things.<br /> I wouldn't give my toddler marshmallows either so that wasn't the problem.<br /> What kinda irked me with the situation is that it seemed to be a big enough deal that you would even think that it would be warranted to mention them to not possibly serve it at all seemed extreme to me.<br /> I don't feed my kids junk (sweets and such) much if at all so I understand that. My unintentional rant was for the more extreme of situations that I've seen/read about.<br /> As I stated in my original post it wasn't really about you...your personal issue just triggered my frustration on the whole situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868393 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:54:15 +0000 2PeasinaPod 868393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: I agree with @Dandelion's suggestion on how to bring it up. I see nothing wrong with you wanting to know what your child eats during the day. If the trail mix contained peanuts or any other sort of nut, it could be deadly to a child with allergies...so they should really list the ingredients out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868390 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:52:51 +0000 Freckles 868390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: My top daycare choices had very long waiting lists (which i was on very early in my pregnancy), and there are very few centres (or dayhomes for that matter) that offer nutritious and varied menus. I really dislike it when the directors say they follow the food guide because there are ways around it. I'll be honest, i'm almost afraid to give a list of what she can't eat because it would probably be most of the menu items. I supplement her meals with a ton of veggies and fruits from home.</p> <p>@Dandelion: Love the wording, thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868382 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:46:41 +0000 Freckles 868382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkinspice: Actually, i do feel as if your rant is directed at my post, and am offended. Never have I criticized anyone for giving their babies formula, store bought food, whatever. I don't care if the marshmallows or chocolate chips are artisan, organic, or homemade. I consider it junk food and the daycare shouldn't even bother having a junk food policy if they are going to serve these foods. Not everything has to be organic or homemade, but i have NO problems limiting thing for my 14 month old. Especially if I think it has zero nutritional value and given unnecessarily. There is nothing wrong with wanting to inculcate healthy eating habits from a young age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868304 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:18:23 +0000 Mrs. Pen 868304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the minority in that I narrowed down daycare choices by the menus they served! I understand they they get government grants for following the food pyramid but IMO I don't agree with the food pyramid as a standard for healthy eating. A toddler does NOT need that many servings of grains/sugar/etc. Even if it's a "protein" when it's loaded with sugar, it is pretty counteractive. </p> <p>I am glad it worked out for me to have a nanny at home but if he were at a daycare I would try to bring in his own food, or else ask that he not be fed sugar and most grains. I know I'm pickier than most and I don't expect everyone to agree with me.</p> <p>IMO it's your kid and while they're young, why shouldn't you be able to (mostly) control what they eat? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868281 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:08:30 +0000 Dandelion 868281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: I can't see how that could be offensive. It's nothing personal to them. Maybe you could just word it as a suggestion? Like, "I noticed that there were marshmallows in the trail mix today and never really knew that. Do you have an ingredient list for your snacks? Some parents might want to know about it." And then ask what constitutes as junk food in their policy, and why the marshmallows and chocolate chips aren't on that list. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868277 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:07:54 +0000 Crisark 868277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: @sarac: @zippylef: Agreed.<br /> Idk maybe I'm just under whelmed by these types of things but it seems that there are a lot of unnecessary worries (marshmallows are a choking hazard so I'm not saying that) and parents are way into limiting everything and organic this or homemade that or God forbid you buy store brand....<br /> My kid wears generic disposable diapers and drinks formula and will eat store made baby food just like her older sisters did and she will be just fine....I get really annoyed at some of this now a days...I apologize for my rant because it didn't have much to do with your post really.<br /> /end rant </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868255 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:58:39 +0000 purrpletulips 868255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@freckles: agreed </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868250 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:58:09 +0000 Freckles 868250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: @Dandelion: Oh i meant questioning why they don't list what's in the trail mix (i thought trail mix was nuts and dried fruit), and if they considered marshmallows and chocolate chips as junk food (maybe worded a bit better). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868239 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:51:37 +0000 Dandelion 868239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: You won't offend anyone by pointing out that you had no idea that there were marshmallows in the trail mix and you'd prefer that your LO doesn't eat it. You should question it...it's the parents who care who make the differences. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868228 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:47:31 +0000 purrpletulips 868228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: I don't see why you couldn't. Our daycare had a listing of the snacks they provided each day and if you didn't want your LO to have a provided snack then you just brought a replacement and told the teacher so they would know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868216 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:43:44 +0000 Freckles 868216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: My intention is not to ban it...I'd be fine with my preschooler having treats once in a while. But i just wonder if i can question it without offending the director. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868202 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:37:00 +0000 purrpletulips 868202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you can request that they not serve those items to your child but unless there is a medical reason, I don't think you can get them banned from the classroom; although I do question their serving marshmallows and choc chips with a no junk food policy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868157 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:21:22 +0000 Freckles 868157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Yeah, i bring LO's lunch and snacks every day. Now that she's older, i've loosened up a bit but i am still protective over her eating habits since she's still a baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868089 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:00:49 +0000 regberadaisy 868089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with @MamaMoose: . I have no qualms asking daycare to not serve x, y and z to my child. That being said this is why I bring food in every day! But I still reiterate I just want to make sure she's not getting x, y and z when I see something particularly bad on the menu.</p> <p>@Freckles: Unfortunately, I think that is the way a lot of parents feed their children! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-868073 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:57:21 +0000 Freckles 868073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: @Mrs. Jacks: @zippylef: There is a reason why i was hesitant to bring up something in first place, especially if it's not that big of a deal to other parents. I have no issues telling them what not to give her. I was more annoyed that they only had "trail mix" listed on the menu, without detailing what was included. They offer the trail mix at least once, sometimes twice a week during snack time. I feel like the daycare offers options that are unnecessary, like putting syrup on waffles, or jam on cookies. I was just wondering if there was a diplomatic way of bringing this up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-842029 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:22:49 +0000 LittleFox 842029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: I agree, unless she's allergic or gets a ton of chocolate chips/marshmallows all the time. If it's occasional, I might ask that my child not have it (but probably not) and wouldn't raise a fuss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-842000 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 14:58:29 +0000 loveisstrange 842000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: @sarac: Agree with both of you ladies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-841987 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 14:48:50 +0000 sarac 841987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Yeah, I think it's an awfully small point to make a fuss about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-841767 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 12:05:47 +0000 sorrycharlie 841767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I follow the PPs and say I'd absolutely ask them not to serve it to my LO. I mean, even if I were to give LO 'treats' - there are so much tastier things than marshmallows. and that's my reason as a slight joke, not even going into my thoughts about choking hazard and how it's a little ball of PURE SUGAR?! good lord.</p> <p>where do the chocolate chips come in? are they in the same trail mix? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-841613 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 09:50:15 +0000 autumnlove 841613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would ask them to stop serving it to my LO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-841550 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 09:03:01 +0000 Ra 841550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd ask them to stop serving to my child. I think asking them to stop serving items to all children would be a gross overstep of boundaries though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-ask-daycare-to-stop-serving-certain-food-items-on-their-menu#post-841549 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 09:02:50 +0000 Bao 841549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would ask to stop serving certain things to my kid, for sure. </p>