https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 02 Jul 2026 18:15:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1/page/2#post-1262979 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 15:15:47 +0000 catomd00 1262979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd absolutely do it for a family member or close friend. I'd highly consider it for a stranger. I don't love being pregnant, but it's an amazing gift to be able to give someone. Maybe this will change once I give birth and hold my baby for the first time, but as of right now I don't think the emotional aspect of not being able to keep the baby I housed for 40 weeks would really get to me. I love my baby of course because she is mine, but I'm not super emotionally attached yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1/page/2#post-1259837 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 15:30:59 +0000 SweetMamaM 1259837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have so much respect for those who do, but physically this pregnancy has not been easy for me and I'll probably only have one more pregnancy of my own for that reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1/page/2#post-1259823 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 15:28:43 +0000 Ginabean3 1259823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do it for my sister only. Mentally I'm okay with it but physically I don't know if I would be a good candidate....LO came way early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1/page/2#post-1259812 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 15:25:51 +0000 looch 1259812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband wouldn't be okay with it, so there's that to consider as well (egg donation is not allowed in his home country, so he's kind of got political and social baggage).</p> <p>I could do it physically, but I am no spring chicken, so I have no idea if I'd be a good candidate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1/page/2#post-1259773 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 15:07:48 +0000 MsMini 1259773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you would have asked me before I was pregnant, I would have said yes, but I had a complicated pregnancy, and a stressful delivery (emergency c-section) and I don't think I could ever do it for a baby I wouldn't raise myself.</p> <p>Also, I would be a terrible surrogacy candidate because of my complications, so no one would want me anyways :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1/page/2#post-1259769 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 15:06:12 +0000 BananaPancakes 1259769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have said yes before having my son, but honestly, I wouldn't want to go through another c-section if it wasn't to have my own child. And that's the only option around here. </p> <p>But other than that fact, I wouldn't mind doing it for someone close to me at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1259754 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 15:01:23 +0000 lovehoneybee 1259754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Possibly my BFF or another couple we're very close to, but I'm not sure I could really do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1259738 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 14:54:59 +0000 Vegmama 1259738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So much love &amp; respect to those who could do it ... I don't think I could. I LOVE being pregnant, and I've had a beautiful pregnancy, but it hasn't been without worry. Pregnancy is such a physical &amp; emotional journey, and I'm not sure I could do it for someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257580 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 20:21:55 +0000 Kimberlybee 1257580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted yes for family only. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257529 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 20:00:07 +0000 lemondrop 1257529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would only ever consider it for a sibling. Mentally I would be fine with it, but physically I don't make a great pregnant lady- sick for much of the pregnancy, high blood pressure, carpal tunnel, etc.</p> <p>I work with a lady who recently delivered twins via surrogacy, she glows and does great (and has 5 of her own). Pregnancy just agrees with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257448 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 19:20:11 +0000 Cole 1257448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would consider it for one of my siblings or my husbands siblings but I don't think I could beyond that. Of course, I haven't been pregnant yet though so that might really change. Logistically I would want to wait until I was done having children and my youngest was in school full days. </p> <p>I think it would be weird for me though telling other people that yes I was pregnant but it wasn't mine... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257391 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 18:41:34 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1257391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately, I'm not eligible since I'm having trouble holding on to pregnancies :P But I think this is a fantastic gift for those who are able to do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257379 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 18:35:15 +0000 brownie 1257379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do it for anyone as a gestational carrier (different eggs). I want to do this after we are done having kids. But I want one more before then and I'm running out of time. So I'm getting really concerned I won't be able to do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257371 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 18:27:04 +0000 MsLipGloss 1257371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Just couldn't walk away from the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257365 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 18:24:04 +0000 Dandelion 1257365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be a terrible candidate for surrogacy, anyways, since I've had a preemie and a large stillborn.</p> <p>But I also don't like being pregnant. I just couldn't do it and then give up the baby to someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257298 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 17:53:02 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1257298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have one person in my life that I would be a surrogate for no questions asked as long as DH agreed. Other than that, I'm not really sure I could emotionally handle carrying a child and then giving them up. I think it's a really incredible gift to give someone, but I'm frankly just not sure I'm tough enough, minus that one exception. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257276 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 17:45:20 +0000 HabesBabe 1257276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: I feel the same way you do!</p> <p>I wouldn't-- even if it was my best friend or family (I'm an only child, so I don't have a sisterly bond with anyone). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257273 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 17:41:48 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1257273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. A surrogacy would not be beneficial for my marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257233 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 17:27:19 +0000 loveisstrange 1257233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I would do it under certain circumstances. It would have to be a family member or VERY close friend. It would have to be after Im done having my own kids, and it would have to be a strict gestational carrier situation. I couldnt give away a child genetically related to me. </p> <p>That being said, I don't think DH would ever be okay with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257199 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 17:18:36 +0000 PurplePeony 1257199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate being pregnant and am kind of on the fence about putting myself through this again if we decide we want a second child of our own, so I really can't picture doing it for someone else. But I don't have sisters and my BFFs already have kids/are currently pregnant, so I doubt it would ever be something I'd have to think about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257190 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 17:17:06 +0000 Foodnerd81 1257190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: you articulated my reasons better than I did! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257116 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:52:02 +0000 swurlygurl 1257116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do it in a heartbeat! I said for friends and family though, because I wouldn't want to deal with a crazy stranger who had ridiculous expectations. I would NEED to know that the Mom trusted me. I've actually thought that I would like to be a surrogate after I'm done having babies. Also, it would have to be 0% biologically my baby. I don't even know if surrogates actually use their own eggs, but definitely wouldn't be an option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257105 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:49:37 +0000 Running Elley 1257105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Considering just me I would probably do it. I don't reallyyyy enjoy pregnancy but (after first tri progesterone issues) both of my successful pregnancies have gone well and my labors/births have been easy with comparatively easy recoveries. I would probably have to take some time to adjust emotionally but I think I could do it.</p> <p>However, now that I have children I wouldn't do it but only because of them. Being pregnant with my second was pretty difficult, especially towards the end, because of how it affected what I could/couldn't do with my toddler. It was really hard for me. I felt like it was worth it though to add to our family and give him a sibling. I wouldn't want to put my children (or myself) through that difficulty when, in the end, the new baby wouldn't be coming home with us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257069 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:42:38 +0000 pinkcupcake 1257069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure... maaaaybe for family, I could. Knowing how connected and bonded I felt w/my daughter while I was pregnant w/her, I don't know if I could carry a child for 9 months and then place her into someone else's arms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257039 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:35:32 +0000 mrsjyw 1257039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Call me selfish, but I couldn't do it. Emotionally and physically I couldn't handle any phase of it; even though it would be the most extraordinary gift I could give to a family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1257018 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:30:29 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1257018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heck no. It was hard enough being pregnant with my own child, there's no way I'd carry someone else's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1256987 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:24:16 +0000 BSB 1256987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I chose other. I'm having a hard time getting pregnant with my first, so I doubt I would be a good candidate.</p> <p>Before IF, yup, I would be a surrogate. For family, friends or a random person. Now, I've never been pregnant so I don't really know if I will enjoy being pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1256928 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:09:58 +0000 Beebug 1256928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted yes, for anyone. </p> <p>I think under certain terms (and a "track record" of having healthy babies of my own (assuming any/all future babies of mine born are healthy) so there is no micro-managing. I sometimes feel bad I can't do a lot, not a lot of time for volunteer work, not a lot of extra money for charitable donations, etc. But something like this is something I could do and see myself being okay with "giving up" the baby, I think I have the right kinda of head for that. I am by no means comparing charitable donations to being a surrogate, but I can't always *do* good things for others, but this is something I have thought about that I could do. I am pretty sure it's not legal in Canada (? not sure) so not even sure it would ever be an option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1256925 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:09:24 +0000 leelee 1256925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a sister however I still couldn't do it. I just don't know if I would be able to carry a baby that I couldn't take home. Not only would it be emotionally scarring it would be rough on my husband. Major props to those who are able to though, what a wonderful gift! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-be-a-surrogate-1#post-1256911 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:05:47 +0000 Koolbreeze 1256911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I would love to be a surrogate. I don't think my SO would be on board unless it was for family though. </p>