https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 21:21:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2633424 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 21:58:39 +0000 DesertDreams88 2633424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Statistically I've heard that men are more likely to sexually abuse children....? And you can do all the background checks and references you want, but usually abuse is a horrifying unanticipated surprise.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2633303 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 19:04:56 +0000 Finfan 2633303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is a SAHD and does a great job and has to put up with a lot of gendered nonsense from people who assume women can take better care of children than men. Outside of breatfeeding, which a female nanny wouldn't be doing anyway, what the hell is the difference? </p> <p>Hire the most qualified candidate. Check their references and background. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632996 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 13:07:42 +0000 irene 2632996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We hired a nanny when DS was 0-11 months old. While she helped us out I didn't enjoy that experience at all. I figure that I am a much more "specific" kind of mom and I want my child to be raised my way... </p> <p>I do not think we would ever hire a nanny again, and if we ever need a babysitter, I would still prefer female. I can't trust a man. Wasn't there a certain study that there is a bigger chance for male to be a pedophile than female (or did I misread)? I don't trust strangers with my child let along adding that chance in the mix. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632883 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 11:50:23 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2632883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would, but DH would veto. My bro had a male nanny at one point and so did two brothers that lived on my street growing up. Seems normal to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632878 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 11:48:39 +0000 MoonMoon 2632878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugsmama: Ok! This will give me the motivation I need to get through the program, lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632873 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 11:46:21 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2632873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: come on back! I'll get you a job :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632870 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 11:42:05 +0000 MoonMoon 2632870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: our incoming class of 48 has 5 or 6 guys! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632869 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 11:41:03 +0000 MoonMoon 2632869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: that's awesome, it's interesting to see a snapshot of four years ago vs now.</p> <p>@junebugsmama: are you in CA? I grew up in the Bay Area and it would be amazing to get to move back there, especially with the strength of the nursing unions there. Don't know how likely that is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632864 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 11:35:57 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2632864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: ooooh same here! I'm a nurse and in our graduating class of 64, we had seven men. Better than years past, but a ways to go yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632848 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 11:22:31 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2632848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: I would say about half of the nursing students that cycle through a rotation on the unit I work on are men! Especially because I live somewhere where it's known to be one of the highest paid nursing areas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632846 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 11:20:38 +0000 periwinklebee 2632846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: This is super awesome about encouraging men to enter nursing! </p> <p>@Mrs. Pen: That's great to hear that it worked out well for you guys! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632833 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 11:06:34 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2632833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: funny to see my old thread revived! So this was four years ago and what's funny is that only about six months after I posted this thread, we hired a manny!! It was someone we knew, and I loved it. He's my son's best friend to this day and it was a wonderful fit. He lacked some qualities in a nanny I would have liked, like basic cleaning up after their meals/play time. But that was neglible. </p> <p>I think for most people its preference in the same way someone may prefer a female/male nurse. But we had a good experience so I'd do it again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632791 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 10:28:46 +0000 MoonMoon 2632791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: that is really well put. I enjoyed hearing your perspective based on your career. I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum, entering a career that is heavily female, and very interested in finding ways of supporting men who want to enter it (nursing). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632783 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 10:22:18 +0000 caterw 2632783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The ONLY person I would feel comfortable with as a nanny is our sitter who is a man! He is one of DH's buddies and actually used to be a manny before they started working together. I have known him for years and totally trust him. I probably would not hire a male or female nanny that I didn't already know very well (or put my kid in a home daycare) because I would rather my girls be somewhere with cameras, multiple teachers, and strict rules. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632772 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 10:07:28 +0000 ValentineMommy 2632772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I would hire a manny or nanny, unless it was someone I personally knew, and for a long time. I have trust issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632766 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 09:51:24 +0000 catomd00 2632766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: because of course any guy that wants to take care of kids must be a pedophile. Seriously though, I'm with you I dont get the issue. I dated a guy who was a manny and he was great! I know a few SAHD who watch 1-2 other kids and they are also great. It's sad that women don't want to be discriminated against in the workplace but then turn around and would do the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632724 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 09:03:59 +0000 periwinklebee 2632724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: @erinbaderin: Agreed, I would be ok with it. I can definitely understand the reasons why people would be uncomfortable with hiring a male nanny, and I think I've also been conditioned to find it strange and that might also be my first instinct. However, at the same time, as a woman in a predominantly male profession, I have a lot of sympathy for people who struggle to be accepted in a career that they are passionate about because of their gender. There are message boards on the internet with people talking about how women have contributed nothing of worth to my profession, got where they were by sleeping around, just aren't as good as men because they are too focused on their kids, etc and on occasion these attitudes come out IRL as well. As someone who has worked super hard to be good at my job, it sucks that some people discount people like me just because we're not men. And the fact that it is so deeply ingrained also makes me worry that we have a long ways to go in this regard. So I would try not to do the same towards a guy who works in childcare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632666 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 08:16:48 +0000 erinbaderin 2632666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: I'm thinking the same thing! I don't understand why this is even a question. If I was hiring somebody to take care of my kids I would hire the person who I had the best vibe with and who I felt most comfortable with. Nanny, manny, tranny, I don't really care. (I'm not sure if tranny is a word that's ok to use but in this instance it's a contraction for transvestite nanny so I hope it's ok) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632581 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 05:54:32 +0000 MoonMoon 2632581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this is an old thread but it has me seriously scratching my head. What's so silly or objectionable about a man taking care of a child? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-2632566 Thu, 06 Oct 2016 00:47:35 +0000 BSB 2632566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is asleep but I'm looking at au pairs and there are a few mannies. I need to ask him in the morning. They are almost all from Europe. I think DH could like it. He could be another 'bro' in the house. Haha. Though, hopefully they take their jobs seriously and respect my decisions.</p> <p>I've had nannies but I'm thinking there might be less drama with a man. My nannies have been young but almost all of them were great with my kids and no drama. I'm just considering it. Not ruling it out at the moment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-257905 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 09:38:03 +0000 Modern Daisy 257905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably not? I feel bad saying it, but I would prefer a female. I wouldn't mind so much if there were male employees at a daycare, as long as they weren't the majority. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-257850 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 09:07:19 +0000 mrstilly 257850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted for neither also. </p> <p>I prefer that DS spend his days with other kids and don't like the idea of him being one on one with someone I don't know, especially when he can't tell me himself about his day. So we opted for a licensed in-home day care. He's with kids from 1.5 to 5 years old, who fill me in on every detail at pickup, and has learned so much there. </p> <p>If we were going to hire a nanny, I would have no problem with a man. It would just depend on the individual person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-257742 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 07:36:52 +0000 Lozza 257742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted for neither since I really like being in a daycare center, but if I were going to have in-home care, I'd be totally cool with a guy. I happen to have a son, but I can't imagine I'd feel differently with a daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-257726 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 07:13:05 +0000 regberadaisy 257726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not even comfortable with a nanny so definitely no on a manny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-257719 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 06:49:36 +0000 heffalump 257719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I had an older boy I'd be more prone to hire a manny. I watch Beverly Hills Nannies and there's a family with twin girls and a boy, and the poor boy wanted a guy nanny so bad to play with. I can understand that, and if my son was old enough to need a guy around to play sports with, etc, I think it would be a good idea. If my child was an infant, I don't think I'd care either way if it was a boy or girl, as long as they're qualified. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-257677 Mon, 13 Aug 2012 23:33:58 +0000 looch 257677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would hire a man or a woman, it doesn't matter to me as long as they are hardworking and know their way around kids.</p> <p>My boyfriend in college was an early childhood ed major. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-257331 Mon, 13 Aug 2012 16:06:25 +0000 DigAPony 257331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would never be able to afford either, but I wouldn't NOT hire someone because of their gender--I'd hire the best possible candidate regardless. </p> <p>What if someone said they wouldn't hire women for a particular job simply because they're female? An antiquated way of thinking about either gender, I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-257292 Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:43:41 +0000 Mommy Finger 257292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't see an issue with it. I would select the person I trust most with my child regardless of gender. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-257284 Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:38:00 +0000 MsMini 257284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would totally hire a manny! Young guys tend to be awesome with kids, and kids seem to gravitate to them it seems. I think I would actually prefer to have a manny than a female nanny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-ever-hire-a-manny-1#post-257280 Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:33:25 +0000 Honeybee 257280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't have an issue with it. When we hired our nanny, we came across a few men. Most of them only wanted to work with older children, though; we didn't see a single guy who was interested in caring for infants. </p>