https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 00:51:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower/page/2#post-1096193 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 03:43:20 +0000 Grace 1096193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd go if I was going to give a gift anyways. If they aren't close enough, then probably not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower/page/2#post-1096192 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 03:29:16 +0000 Penny Lane 1096192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>honestly, I don't see how that is any more "gift grabby" than a shower that someone else "hosts"for you. I mean, either way you're setting up your own registry, right? </p> <p>I didn't have a big shower (like, 12 people), they're just not really a big thing here. I didn't even have a registry!</p> <p>so, yes, I would definitely still go and take a gift! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower/page/2#post-1096188 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 02:56:24 +0000 erwoo 1096188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go and give them the benefit of the doubt if you feel they are people who aren't into the material things or that kind of people. My sister hosted my baby shower at our house since she lives across the country and I registered for just about everything you can imagine only b/c having to return or exchange things while in my late third trimester was not fun. The worst is getting something you don't need and without a gift receipt which we did receive but not a lot of, thankfully. I just felt like I was wasting their money on items like that. I probably gave those gifts away to other pregnant friends who wanted it. I know that sounds bad, but I would rather someone use it than for me to just let it sit there and forget about. Also, since all baby places have a completion programs they could also be hoping to take advantage of that as well. </p> <p>Now if someone already had a baby and is expecting another baby of the same gender and throwing a sprinkle.... that's a different story, I think! :) My friend offered to throw me one and I kindly declined b/c I didn't want her to spend the money, especially since I was having another boy born in the same season as my oldest. I told her that I would be happy if all the girls got together for a last time brunch before baby #2 arrived. That was so much more fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1096182 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 02:15:55 +0000 lamariniere 1096182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go. A dear friend of mine offered to host my shower, but she was also in a bad spot financially and I felt really bad for her spending the money. The shower was held at my apartment, and she contributed a lot of the food. I'm not really sure what the proper etiquette is. One guest, who is no longer a friend, made a very snide comment as she left, something like "thanks for hosting your own shower". And it definitely wasn't a gift grab, I think 12 people were invited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095541 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 17:33:55 +0000 Running Elley 1095541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I agree. That's exactly what I'd do.</p> <p>I would probably still go or at least send a gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095536 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 17:31:10 +0000 chopsuey 1095536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When's the shower? You're so close to your due date.. I'd just get them a gift and pass on the shower! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095535 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 17:30:53 +0000 shopaholic 1095535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe no one offered to host them a shower? I think it's kind of sad when people have to throw their own shower because no one else did? It will still cost them quite a bit to throw their own shower, and I feel like every baby deserves to have a special day in honor of them. I'd go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095527 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 17:18:18 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1095527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would still go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095521 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 17:12:41 +0000 Pink Champagne 1095521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mean, wouldn't you get them a gift anyway, to welcome the baby? It makes no sense to get your panties in a bunch over them hosting a party for their new baby on the way. Maybe no one in their family offered but they still wanted to throw a party. Who cares? Free food, free drinks, and a baby to celebrate! Yay! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095516 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 17:08:40 +0000 mrsjazz 1095516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd go. I never pay attention to who hosts and honestly, I don't care. I go to baby showers to celebrate the couple and new arrival. I mean, unless there's a note not to bring gifts, aren't all showers technically gift-grabby? If I'm going to a shower, I'm bringing a gift. If someone threw me a shower and I received no gifts, I'd honestly be surprised! Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095489 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 16:51:00 +0000 hellocupcake 1095489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's become common for people to host their own, not something I would do; but, I would go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095470 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 16:41:29 +0000 Vegmama 1095470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd totally go! My first thought: maybe they are trying something new ... By having a co-ed shower, they are already switching up the norm. Then, they probably were just excited to register for things. Maybe it'll be a blast! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095446 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 16:23:57 +0000 looch 1095446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How is this different from hosting a birthday party for your kid later on, especially if you don't say no gifts? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095441 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 16:19:53 +0000 Lindsay05 1095441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably still go. Maybe they are just really Type A and wanted the shower in a particular way? Its something I would do if I didnt have people who offered to throw me one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095435 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 16:16:36 +0000 MapleMoose 1095435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I attended a co-ed baby shower that the parents-to-be hosted themselves. I didn't really care who hosted. To me, a baby/bridal shower is to shower the guest(s) of honor with gifts. I just expect it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095406 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 16:05:00 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1095406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: The parent to be sets up the registry. Even when a host distributes the registry info to guests the parent to be had a (big) hand in inviting the parent is still soliciting gifts. I don't see a difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095401 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 16:03:18 +0000 artsyfartsy 1095401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckypenny: Agree </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095394 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 16:00:38 +0000 mamimami 1095394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Self-hosting is common here in Mexico, although it always gives me pause! Are they from a different culture where maybe that's more OK? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095382 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 15:57:23 +0000 MamaMoose 1095382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with you, I would be put off. I think if no one offered to host a shower for me but I still wanted to celebrate the baby I would host a sip and see and be VERY clear that gifts are not expected. I certainly would NEVER host my own party and distribute registry information. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095366 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 15:50:40 +0000 luckypenny 1095366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww man. Now all I can think is that they didnt have anyone offer to host for her and that makes me sad :( I'd go. I never look at who's hosting anyway. Everyone deserves to get some new things for a first baby! I don't think it's gift grabby </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095364 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 15:50:19 +0000 Rubies 1095364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wahine08: Well, I suppose it isn't in general but it isn't 40 couples...It's 40 people. I don't know what's considered big or small anymore! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095286 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 15:22:05 +0000 wahine08 1095286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: is 40 people is a lot for co-ed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095283 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 15:21:23 +0000 sunny 1095283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would still go! I think it's ok to host your own shower if nobody else offers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095270 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 15:17:15 +0000 Foodnerd81 1095270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would annoy me a little but I would go and bring a regular shower gift if I liked the couple. If I don't like them that much I would skip </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095230 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 15:04:04 +0000 Freckles 1095230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I was fine until i got the reminder. I think it's because she was registry stalking and saw that no one bought anything off the registry yet. Yeesh!</p> <p>@Rubies: 40 seems okay considering it's co-ed. If you think about it, they're probably spending more money because it's co-ed as opposed to just inviting the girls. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095219 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 15:01:38 +0000 runsyellowlites 1095219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: We invited ALOT (DH has a huge family) and then had may 1/4 of the invitees show up... I think generally the rule is 1/2 show up? I can't remember. I do know that having a shower &amp; then almost noone showing up sucks though so I caution on the side of large guestlist. *shrugs shoulders* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095208 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 14:58:24 +0000 78h2o 1095208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: The number of people wouldn't bother me that much, but the registry reminder is kinda yucky. I'm fine with putting the registry info. on the invitation to a shower, because the purpose is to "shower" the new mom/parents with gifts, but that is a little obnoxious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095205 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 14:56:57 +0000 Rubies 1095205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: I also look to see how many people are invited - 40! That seems a lot to me! If it were small and quaint then whatever, right? Oh well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095201 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 14:56:13 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1095201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: registry follow up reminder is obnoxious. Buy yout own kid stuff whydon'tcha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1095200 Wed, 18 Sep 2013 14:55:08 +0000 mrbee 1095200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Self-hosting wouldn't bother me, mostly because I don't know the etiquette for this stuff very well! </p>