https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 00:31:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889986 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:46:58 +0000 Dandelion 889986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow...that's a long ceremony! Is it possible to come up with a reason to just go to the reception? Sitting that long watching a wedding sounds awful to me, even not pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889973 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:43:28 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 889973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>TBH this doesn't really sound like a real friend to you. You invitedthem to your baby shower as a courtesy because you figured you would get an invite to their wedding. I think life events should be attended by genuine friends. I would say no to the invite if you are going just because you can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889967 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:42:53 +0000 mrsmate 889967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to a good friend's Indian wedding a few years ago and it was one of the funnest weddings I'd ever been to, even though I was about four months pregnant and almost passed out in the heat/ The groom came in on a horse, and during the dinner reception members of their families performed skits and a musical number (with choreography!) about the bride and groom. The food was really good, too. It will probably be served buffet style, so you can control what you're eating pretty well. I suspect they'll serve pretty familiar Indian stuff (chicken curry, basmati rice, saag paneer), healthy for the most part but cooked in ghee (don't know if fat is a concern in GD), so if you decide to go you may want to Google Indian cookery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889914 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:35:57 +0000 Alivoo01 889914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd go despite the unfamiliar menu. I'd just be cautious about what I ate and go with the flow. Or you could eat something prior to the reception and just nibble on the reception food! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889873 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:30:07 +0000 LindsayInNY 889873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to guess Indian because I've been to two weddings :)</p> <p>From my experience, they invite certain people to certain events based on the relationship. So there were people who were only at the reception and not the ceremony, night before, etc. But, the traditional Indian wedding I went to was morning ceremony and lunch, break and dinner/reception. Both meals were entirely Indian food - the lunch was vegetarian. DH and I don't really eat Indian food so we ate in between the two, just in case there wasn't anything we wanted/liked. Two different dress codes are recommended for the two events - the morning ceremony, ironically, is very casual. People got up and walked around, talked, etc. You could bring food with you and it would be fine. The evening reception is a little fancier.</p> <p>It's a little weird to ask for an early RSVP. Especially because Indian weddings are known to be very big. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889853 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:24:30 +0000 ShootingStar 889853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: :-O. Oh dear. lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889848 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:21:59 +0000 illumina 889848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCB: I just saw you said the wedding is Indian and wanted to add that we attended an Indian wedding last summer and we had to sit on the floor for about 2hrs. It was very traditional though and in a kind of mosque... if this is in a hotel it may well be seated, but wanted you to be aware as I don't think I would have been comfortable sat on the floor at 25wks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889839 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:20:29 +0000 Raindrop 889839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCB: Ah sorry, you didn't mentioned the save the date. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889826 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:17:28 +0000 Pirouette 889826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only go if you actually want to go! don't feel obligated just because you are invited.</p> <p>That said, regarding the food restrictions, i find that wedding vendors are very good at handling this. I have serious restrictions and always find the manager as soon as i get there and he goes through every detail of the menu with me, and, if necessary, makes me something completely different to suit my needs. If you are really nervous, you can also call ahead and speak with them. I also always carry snacks because i can't eat at the cocktail hour, or dessert, and it helps to have something on hand in case you get hungry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889806 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:14:14 +0000 ShootingStar 889806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: We received a save the date months ago, so I'm pretty sure we're not B-list. I think they just do things differently. They are east Indian. It says on their website "Due to capacity limitations, we truly apologize that we are not able to invite all guests to all events." Which is obviously not done in most typical American weddings, but I give them a pass in this case.</p> <p>@Adira: I guess I don't really want to go, but I feel guilty! And pregnancy keeps getting harder and harder on me, so I'm worried what another 7 weeks will do to me. But I can't wait until then to decide. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889782 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:10:09 +0000 mrskc 889782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I generally enjoy wedding so I would go. You don't sound thrilled about it though. At 25 weeks pregnant, I was still fine doing almost anything. Usually most women feel really great during the second trimester. Sounds like there is a large break from ceremony to reception, so you could get yourself something to eat then. Bring snacks and water and you'll be ok. But if you're not up to it, just send your DH or don't go at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889773 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:08:23 +0000 Adira 889773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCB: Sounds to me like you don't really want to go! Just say that you're pregnant and your back hurts and you don't think you'd be able to manage sitting for 3+ hours, etc. And then if you really care about these people, send a nice wedding gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889754 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:04:57 +0000 Raindrop 889754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To be honest... this sounds like a B-List invite.</p> <p>IE they had to pay for a certain amount of people... and they got too many rejects that they have to start invited their B-listers.</p> <p>I don't know what culture this is... But I'm Chinese... </p> <p>I can see that they have a wedding... then a lunch (for us this might have been the tea cermony which only direct family is invited to) and of course the reception later. We had enough funds to provide an after wedding appertizers/lunch buffet to guest that were not part of the tea cermony but not all couples can do that. ^_^ IE I don't think it's weird to not be invited to a "lunch" thing.</p> <p>I would probably go... because hey you can see your other friends and weddings are usually fun. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889746 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:04:13 +0000 chopsuey 889746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't. I'd just send my DH or send them a nice wedding gift. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889738 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:03:30 +0000 ShootingStar 889738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I'm kind of worried that I won't be able to sit comfortably through a 3+ hour ceremony. I went to a friend's wedding last month that had an hour ceremony and I was pretty done by the end. Though, that was a church with wood pews, and this is at a hotel, so I'm not sure what the seating will be like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889733 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:01:45 +0000 illumina 889733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would pick either the morning ceremony or the evening do and just say you have plans for the other part and can't attend. That way you won't be waiting around or have to eat with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889732 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:01:28 +0000 Adira 889732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCB: What if you just went to the ceremony and skipped the reception? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889727 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 13:59:43 +0000 ShootingStar 889727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm mostly worried about being uncomfortable and getting really tired. I would feel better if it wasn't a Sunday night wedding, but they plan their events based on celestial timing. On top of that, the food situation makes me nervous. I'm not a big fan of the type of food they'll be serving and I worry about how to handle testing/choosing food. </p> <p>But he is a friend, to both DH and I. He's a great guy and I'm very happy for him and like his FI. We will also have other friends there and will have people to hang out with/have fun with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889721 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 13:58:03 +0000 heffalump 889721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably go, and just make sure to bring lots of snacks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889714 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 13:56:19 +0000 regberadaisy 889714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh. Probably not. You don't sound that close nor does it sound like you want to go. Maybe just DH should go? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889711 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 13:55:21 +0000 Adira 889711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's weird that he wants you to RSVP before you have even gotten an invitation... What's with that?</p> <p>Do you WANT to go? I always like going to weddings, especially if friends are going to be there. You could always hang out with your friends between 12:30 and 7:00, right? Presumably they weren't invited to the lunch either. And maybe you could bring some snacks since you have to eat at certain times? Or maybe you could ask what the food options will be like before you RSVP and explain your GD and dietary restrictions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-go-to-this-wedding#post-889694 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 13:51:13 +0000 ShootingStar 889694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I just got an e-mail about a friend's wedding happening in August. I'm having a lot of debate about whether we should go or not. He's asking that we RSVP in the next couple weeks (even though official invites haven't been sent out). FYI, he and his fiancee are a different culture than we are/first gen Americans, so their wedding traditions are different from what most of us are used to</p> <p>So here's the deal:</p> <p>-The wedding is approximately 40 minutes away<br /> -We appear to be invited to the ceremony from 9am-12:30pm, and the reception from 7pm - ? There is a lunch at 12:30 but it doesn't seem we're invited to it.<br /> - It's on a Sunday<br /> - I will be 25 weeks pregnant<br /> -I have GD and need to eat at certain times (which may be hard with this type of reception), plus the cuisine will be food I'm not familiar with/will have a hard time accounting for carbs<br /> -I would probably need to go out and buy a semi-formal maternity dress<br /> -I was surprised to be invited to his wedding because we didn't invite him to ours since we hadn't hung out with him much before it, and that was over a year ago.<br /> -We do have several friends invited, I imagine most will go<br /> -Since we knew we would be invited to the wedding, we invited them to our baby shower</p> <p>So what would you do? </p>