https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 18:49:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-539621 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 13:53:50 +0000 Meltini 539621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely not. If anything were to go wrong, I would probably always blame myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-539558 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 13:41:23 +0000 tysonja 539558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no, i don't think so, but i that's because i &lt;3 hospitals, i &lt;3 nurses, and i &lt;3 epidurals. :) I laboured med free (not by choice) until 10 cm last time before the epi and although i suppose i know now that i 'can do it', i don't really fancy doing it again for this baby comin up! :) </p> <p>i do like reading stories about home births, though! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-539507 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 13:27:16 +0000 littlek 539507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't have a home birth for medical reasons. I'm high risk because of my heart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-539486 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 13:22:49 +0000 duckduckkristen 539486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to the first time, but was too scared. Since everything went really well (but I hated being in the hospital) I'm looking into it for this LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-533264 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 07:04:32 +0000 Cherrybee 533264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd love a homebirth but DH has put his foot down and we're going to hospital. Maybe next time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-533260 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 06:57:00 +0000 KissMeCait 533260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. Anything can happen and I'd much rather be in the appropriate place just in case it does. The concept of home birth seems nice and all but it's totally not for me. I've read too many stories to turn me completely off to the idea.</p> <p>Besides, I'm already fully planning on gettin' the juice. Unfathomable amounts of pain when it can be avoided?? Um, no thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-533201 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 01:48:00 +0000 LittleGBee 533201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're planning on it for this one and I'm so excited! </p> <p>After our hospital experience last time, I felt like I was fighting them at every turn for monitoring, policies, etc. I'm looking forward to being comfortable, laboring how I want, pushing how I want, trusting my body, and the experience of the midwives. </p> <p>We rent, but we're a mile away from both the hospital that we were at for DD, and a mile away from the local children's hospital, so we're in a great location should any complications arise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-533145 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 00:11:09 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 533145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wouldnt do it at home but I'd consider a water birth with midwife in a hospital! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-533140 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 00:00:33 +0000 sera_87 533140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally would - if I could get an epidural.....so that's never going to happen. I hate hospitals. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-533132 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 23:54:08 +0000 FarmWifeGina 533132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, been there, done that with Baby #1. Thanks to staying OUT of the local hospital, my uterus remained intact and I wasn't on the hunt for a VBAC-friendly care provider when we moved to another state that is not well-known for its crunchiness. Had an unmedicated hospital birth with Baby #2 because I didn't feel comfortable birthing at home, 50 miles from a hospital that could help us in the very low chance that something would go wrong. Just planning #3 now, but I've done a lot of research, talked to the local midwives, etc., and I most likely will have another home birth with my 3rd delivery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374590 Fri, 02 Nov 2012 10:11:41 +0000 Mrsbells 374590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would like a natural water birth but I would rather go to a birth center than have the baby at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374583 Fri, 02 Nov 2012 10:08:58 +0000 Alivoo01 374583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: @Arden: Sorry ladies, I definitely mean midwives aren't as knowledgeable as the staff at a hospital! Those ladies deliver hundreds of babies so that clearly says something for them being knowledgeable right? Ha! </p> <p>What I meant was should I change my mind for an epidural or need an emergency c-section, need NICU, etc, I'd be more comfortable knowing those options are RIGHT there. Most homebirth stories are about natural births and haven't heard about what happens in the case of a c-section or the baby becomes distressed during labor or post-birth. Lack of knowledge/research on my end mostly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374449 Fri, 02 Nov 2012 09:02:25 +0000 ladyfingers 374449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I know that midwives are medical professionals, and all that stuff. But I feel more comfortable in a hospital. I don't know why. I also want an epidural. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374265 Fri, 02 Nov 2012 06:44:45 +0000 loveisstrange 374265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would absolutely have one, even after having a somewhat complicated delivery with C. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374180 Fri, 02 Nov 2012 03:38:17 +0000 sorrycharlie 374180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: my entire (natural) labor was on the gurney in triage! I hated the triage nurse because she didn't believe me that I was in so much pain. She assumed FTM, I didn't know what I was talking about. Turns out I was in transition!! Hellish.</p> <p>That said...epidural made my life. Hospital birth all the way for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374162 Fri, 02 Nov 2012 02:03:43 +0000 pinkcupcake 374162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nah, I need drugs :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374161 Fri, 02 Nov 2012 02:02:43 +0000 Honeybee 374161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nah it's not my style. Anyway my pregnancies have been complicated enough that home birth probably wouldn't have been an option for me anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374121 Fri, 02 Nov 2012 00:23:37 +0000 Ree723 374121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Thank you. I'm not entirely sure why she didn't - this was several years ago now, but I just remember that she was performing CPR until the paramedics arrived. I'm sure things have changed in recent years and more precautions are taken now to prevent situations like that from happening. I know it was a one in a million chance that this happened, but it has unfortunately forever shaped my view on the subject. Regardless, I think it's great that other people research the option and pursue it where appropriate! </p> <p>Thanks for your kind words. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374107 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 23:51:10 +0000 Arden 374107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: The midwife didn't have oxygen with her? That is very unusual. Every midwife I know carries oxygen.<br /> I'm very sorry your family had to go through that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374102 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 23:45:28 +0000 Ree723 374102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: That's the big question - could the hospital have saved him? The midwife did CPR until the ambulance got there but by the time they got him to the hospital, he was pronounced dead. The question my cousin and his wife have struggled with has been would he have survived if he had been in hospital? If they could have intubated him, or given him oxygen, or something along those lines, would he have lived? It's one of those questions that we'll never know the answer to, and in all honesty, there is a very real possibility he may not have survived regardless of where he was born. It's just the not knowing that I think would get me. In regards to the autopsy, that was showing that there was nothing wrong with him physically that would have led to an inevitable death (i.e. a malformation of a vital organ or something like that), had that been the case, maybe it would have made it easier to accept, knowing that there was a fatal deformity, but as that wasn't the case, they're back to just wondering "what if". </p> <p>I don't know, I fully appreciate the concept of a home birth and I certainly give massive props to those who choose to have one, but it's just not for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374088 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 23:25:54 +0000 runsyellowlites 374088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes definitely!!! I hope next time I'm able to keep my head on better &amp; not transfer. :)</p> <p>Homebirths have been found to be just as safe if not safer than hospital births with less operative &amp; invasive deliveries. Many of the "what if" situations most worry about are almost non-existent in a homebirth because of there not being unnecessary interventions, like pitocin which greatly increases risk of pp hemorrhage. (Just one example) </p> <p>Jennifer Kamel has a great write up on "Why Homebirth?" On her site vbacfacts.com. Definitely check it out if you haven't already. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374075 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 23:07:11 +0000 Arden 374075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: I'm so sorry about your cousin's baby.<br /> But I can't understand how being in a hospital would have made any difference. If they couldn't even find a cause in an autopsy, how could they have done anything in the hospital without knowing what was wrong? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374072 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 23:04:27 +0000 Ree723 374072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. For one, there is no way I'd want to give birth without an epidural - those sweet, sweet drugs were amazing! Two, I'd want all the medical professionals/equipment etc right there in case any complications arose. And three, I'd never forgive myself if anything happened. </p> <p>I have a cousin who had a home birth; she'd had a perfectly normal pregnancy, no complications, and all looked fine. She delivered her little boy at home, he took one breath, and then stopped breathing and died. The autopsy couldn't find a cause of death and they will never know whether or not he may have survived had he been born in a hospital. Sure that doesn't happen very often, but to me, it's not a risk I'd ever be willing to take.</p> <p>That being said, midwife care is the norm here, even for hospital births, so I get the best of both worlds! If I have a baby in the States, I will be looking for midwife care, but one who delivers at hospitals. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374066 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 23:02:30 +0000 Mrs Checkers 374066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way! I'm too chicken. I'd pass out at the thought of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374033 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 22:35:29 +0000 Grace 374033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a chance. In theory, I think it's a great idea, but I'd never take the risk. Even though the chance is small there still is a chance of complications and I would never forgive myself if something happened to my child. I would use a midwife in a hospital though. I'd just want a NICU and OR and pediatricians and other doctors nearby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374026 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 22:30:17 +0000 Mrs. Bee 374026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope. drugs sweeeeeet drugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-374001 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 22:18:57 +0000 MrsBrewer 374001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. No way no how! My friend had a home birth and I was there with her. Ehhh, I wasn't into it. I don't get the appeal of "delivering the baby in my bed" .....beds are for sleeping personally...</p> <p>Plus with modern medicine, I want to be in a place where if anything happens I know they have all the equipment, hands, and medicine needed to help the baby and I. To me its a no brainier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-373983 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 22:14:34 +0000 immabeetoo 373983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pass no judgment on those who do, or want to, but it is not for me. Almost all the births in my family have had some type of complication (natural, not as a result of any medical interventions) and I wouldn't be comfortable giving birth outside of a hospital setting. With that being said, my hospital is pretty open to alternative pain management and my OB is very laidback - which makes it even easier to decide that :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-373883 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:41:56 +0000 MsMini 373883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not if you paid me! </p> <p>Given my complicated pregnancy and birth, it never would have been and never in the future would be an option anyways (at least any responsible midwife wouldn't touch me with a 20 foot pole). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-a-homebirth/page/2#post-373880 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:41:05 +0000 PrincessBaby 373880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would never take the risk of having a home birth and something going wrong during delivery....My hospital is 10 minutes away, but 10 minutes could be detrimental to my baby in an emergency situation!</p> <p>I appreciate the idea of a homebirth, but I believe in medicine and doctors and having every precaution for my baby at my fingertips. Or at my vagina- lol. </p>