https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 22:18:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-194417 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 18:57:28 +0000 Mrs. Pen 194417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did fool around (but didn't DTD) while lo slept in his bed in our room, but only from 6weeks-3 mos, now he's in his room. I wouldn't do it if he was awake even as an infant.</p> <p>It just seems wrong to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-194407 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 18:52:43 +0000 Grace 194407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe asleep, but really, I think I'd feel too awkward. I don't think it would scar them for life. It's not like I remember anything from when I was that young. For all I know, my parents did it in front of me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-194001 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 13:57:21 +0000 sulli301 194001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We wouldn't ever if DD was awake </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-194000 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 13:56:38 +0000 Sweet T 194000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have once but LO was asleep and he was only 4 months old at the time. I would never do it now (9 months) much less at 15! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193992 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 13:50:03 +0000 lemondrop 193992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe if he was asleep, but I agree above- it's hard enough to get in the mood with the dog in the room, so I doubt it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193983 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 13:45:51 +0000 LuLu Mom 193983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I"m with the ladies saying they can't do it with the dogs in the room! If the child is sleeping it's one thing, but wide awake is just strange to me.</p> <p> I think people accusing them of pedophilia and molestation is ridiculous, but come on can't you wait until the little one goes to bed, the urge can't be that strong? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193976 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 13:41:04 +0000 ladyfingers 193976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't imagine doing this, but I'm not going to go so far as to accuse somebody else of pedophilia and molestation. That's just sick.</p> <p>But it's so funny that @Rachel and @highwire brought up their dogs. Our dog also gets so upset, if we can get her off the bed we'll do it but she just lays at the foot of the bed and then the minute we're done, she jumps right back on. This includes any time spent after the deed on um, me. It's like she knows when everything is finished! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193725 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 11:11:34 +0000 Mrsbells 193725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only with an infant (under 12 months old) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193724 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 11:11:32 +0000 HabesBabe 193724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't, only because it would be a mood-killer. We can't even get it on with our dogs in the same room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193700 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 10:49:31 +0000 DillonLion 193700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Obviously this is not the same AT ALL, but my dog always looks so concerned and upset whenever we DTD in front of him...so I can't imagine what kind of damage it might do to a child to see us do that. It just seems like they would be too young to understand that what is going on is okay and healthy, and might instead just be scary for them. We'll probably avoid sex in front of the kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193691 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 10:46:33 +0000 lovehoneybee 193691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rachel: Lol It took me a long time to be okayish with our cats being in the room while we had sex.</p> <p>I feel like we'll probably be more in the range of "maybe when the kid is a newborn and is asleep", especially since Bebe will be in a bassinet in our room for at least the first month or two. But maybe not then, I don't know, we'll see. </p> <p>Thanks for your thoughts! I thought some of the commenters were a little harsh with the poster, but I was really curious if it was just me that thought that....not something I'd be comfortable with, but I didn't think the pitchforks were necessary either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193489 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 09:01:02 +0000 Shutterbug 193489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I won't even do it if the dog is in the room, so LO is out of the question. Ick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193465 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 08:50:15 +0000 Lozza 193465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awake?!? Oh God no. No no no. LO is 14 months old, and when he slept in our room (till he was 3 months old) we did it in the same room all the time, but I think (assume?) he was asleep- at that age, it's not like he could sit up and look over at us, so even if he was awake, he'd have had no idea what was going on. Now LO sleeps in his own room, and we catch sexy time when he's napping or down for the night. Now, he's 14 months, and while I would consider doing it in the middle of the night if we were all traveling and sharing a hotel room or something (and there was a LOT of white noise, and there was no chance he could see what was going on from the crib or playpen), I can't imagine doing in front of his open eyes. I don't actually think HE would be scarred long-term, he'd just be pissed that we weren't interacting with him, and I would be scarred long-term by the idea of him looking at us doing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193425 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 08:25:16 +0000 MamaMoose 193425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah never ever ever. And especially not with a child of that age. Obviously pedophelia is going a little far but I do think having sex in front of a 15 month old who is awake is extremely inappropriate and likely damaging to the child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193404 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 08:14:16 +0000 pelikila 193404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If my son was awake there would be no way. My 16 month old understands plenty even if he wouldn't understand exactly what we were doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193402 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 08:13:46 +0000 lilteacherbee 193402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably couldn't do it and I doubt DH would want to, but I wouldn't judge people who did it if the baby was really young and asleep.</p> <p>I had a coworker once who had worked at a daycare center in the toddler room.. She told me this story about an 18 month old little girl. She would go up to little boys, lay on top of them, grind them, and make "noises." My coworker babysat the little girl once and said her crib was situated at the bottom of her mom's bed. Yikes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193382 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 07:55:52 +0000 littlebug 193382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do it, but good Lord - pedophilia? People can be so mean and judgey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193365 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 07:42:19 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 193365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's not something I'd ever feel comfortable with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193361 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 07:37:24 +0000 mrsjyw 193361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't at that age, but would maybe when they're an infant... but most likely not at all~ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193342 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 07:07:34 +0000 chopsuey 193342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes. We did when she was a baby.. 3-6 weeks old. She wasn't paying attention though.<br /> At 14 months we wouldn't now. She's a little sponge! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193334 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 06:59:33 +0000 heffalump 193334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. I feel like at 11 months she understands a lot, and that's just yucky. Plus, if we're all in the same room my lo is interacting with us. She'd never just sit there quietly </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193311 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 06:15:54 +0000 MsMamaBear 193311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only when she's asleep and it was only with her asleep in the room when she was a newborn because she didn't know much. Now at 9 months, if we cuddle on the floor, she dive bombs us to get in the middle to see what'sgoing on.LOL So no more at this age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193310 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 06:15:47 +0000 Andrea 193310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never, under any circumstances. Um, why? Your kid goes to sleep right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193283 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 02:01:50 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 193283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the room, but not awake. Kinda kills the mood in my opinion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193274 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 00:38:30 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 193274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have fooled around in front of LO when she was awake, but she was only 3 and 4 weeks old when it happened, and we didn't do the "full deed."</p> <p>I am sure the 15 month old had no idea what was going on, but I would feel uncomfortable with it personally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-have-sex-with-your-child-in-the-room#post-193242 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 22:48:16 +0000 lovehoneybee 193242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>...with your LO awake in the room?</p> <p>OK, so I was on another forum, and there was a comment about a woman who had sex with her DH while their 15 month old was in the room, awake, and apparently paying attention. The DH tried to convince the mother that the child didn't understand what was happening. </p> <p>The woman who made the comment is being flamed to all hell: being accused of pedophilia, abuse, and one commented even alluded to her and her DH trying to bring their toddler into a threesome. </p> <p>My kid isn't born yet, and I have little experience with toddlers, so I don't know how much a 15 month old registers and understands. I'm not saying the idea of my toddler watching me and DH have sex doesn't skeeve me out, but the post did make me wonder: </p> <p>Do you/did you/would you have sex while your child is/was/will be in the room and be awake? And if so, until what age do you think it's okay to do so? </p>