https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 11:20:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny/page/2#post-504892 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 09:35:33 +0000 MrsBrewer 504892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would! If he was qualified and had good references! I think I would judge a male and a felmale the exact same personally. When I was younger (8-9) and my brother and sister were 1 my mom would pay a guy college student that lived 3 houses down from us to babysit 3 times a week, and a girl college student that lived across the street 2 days a week.</p> <p>Truthfully, and I know my mom would agree 100%, I think the guy was SO much better! He would actually play and entertain us. Versus the girl who would make sure we had food, and pop a movie in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny/page/2#post-504868 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 09:24:23 +0000 Happygal 504868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This thread reminds that Friends episode with Rachel and Ross. I laughed and laughed at that one. </p> <p>For me, I guess it would depend. Really it's based on more of my thoughts about interactions for me, and not my future children! I've always been more comfortable with women (raised with sisters and a "girl's girl"). I would have to take into consideration whether I would still be working at home. While there is no concern about cheating in our relationship, I feel it's important to protect our marriage. I wouldn't want a big portion of my days to be spent with another man in my home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny/page/2#post-504594 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 23:09:55 +0000 matador84 504594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably! Doubt DH would go for it. If they are qualified and I feel more competent than a female, why the hell not? They have some dudes that do late care at the daycare my son goes too and they are fab! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny/page/2#post-504566 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 22:46:54 +0000 daniellemybelle 504566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm totally shocked to hear how many people are adamantly against it! I would love to have a nanny that was a man, if it were the right person. I actually think it's too bad that more daycares and schools don't have male teachers, because I think it's so important for kids to have nurturing male role models. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny/page/2#post-501894 Sun, 13 Jan 2013 16:15:08 +0000 fatkid 501894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's an issue of gender and competence. Statistically pedophiles are dudes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny/page/2#post-501881 Sun, 13 Jan 2013 16:06:15 +0000 .twist. 501881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I'd hire a nanny (or manny) unless they were personally recommended to me, so at that point, gender doesn't matter. If my best friend told me about a male nanny that was amazing, I would hire him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-501863 Sun, 13 Jan 2013 15:48:40 +0000 Grace 501863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would, if he gave me the same good vibe as anyone else. Mr.Bee is right, this is kinda depressing. Reminds me of a friend if mine who couldn't make it as a male massage therapist because women were uncomfortable with it and men were very uncomfortable with it. It's really not fair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-501411 Sun, 13 Jan 2013 08:07:28 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 501411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: Next time I will reply to the specific poster. A couple people made a distinction regarding orientation, but only one mentioned an issue with changing diapers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-501349 Sun, 13 Jan 2013 03:29:12 +0000 pinkcupcake 501349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, interesting question. I don't know if I'd be comfortable w/a manny... but then again, I think b/c of my trust issues, I wouldn't be comfortable w/anyone!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-501215 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 23:40:19 +0000 Mrs. Pen 501215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: hahaha he is ADORABLE, but it was funny to think you said that ;) it's almost 11 here... I'm beat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-501213 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 23:39:27 +0000 MsMini 501213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: Sawyer is a beautiful baby if I do say so myself ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-501211 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 23:38:23 +0000 Mrs. Pen 501211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: hahaha when I read your comment I though it said, "with a baby who is super busy and physically attractive like mine" hahaha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-501170 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 22:55:18 +0000 prettylizy 501170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MRS. LEMON-LIME: It's strange, but on a subconcious level I feel like a gay man might be more nurturing to my daughter?? I has ZERO to do with fears of her being molested or abused, as that never crossed my mind in thinking about a male caretaker. It also might have something to do with the fact that my first daycare as a kiddo had a gay man and two women, and I loved that guy, he was my favourite according to my mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-501151 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 22:39:40 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 501151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Without a doubt: NO </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500950 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 20:40:43 +0000 yoursilverlining 500950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would. I don't think women are automatically better or more caring caregivers and I definitely wouldn't think a manny was having sexual thoughts about a baby while he was changing her diaper just because he's a man and the baby is female. My husband babysat a lot in college and it's a bummer that 20 years later so many people's first response is still to think men can't care as well for infants or that they all secretly want to molest babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500932 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 20:25:45 +0000 HLK208 500932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I did, I would have nanny cams (well, I would have nanny cams if I hired a female or male). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500913 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 20:19:40 +0000 littlek 500913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't hire a manny but I would consider a male babysitter when LO was older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500910 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 20:18:08 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 500910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't understand what's the difference in terms of safety between a gay or straight manny? If you are worried about a child being molested then any and everyone is a suspect: SO, pastor, grand parent, cousin, day care provider, neighbor, teacher, friend's parents, coach, even your LO's siblings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500889 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 20:07:43 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 500889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I agree! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500876 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 20:00:24 +0000 woodentulip 500876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely. My husband is an amazing care taker of our children, and I am fairly sure that he isn't the only man out there capable of it. Would I be careful of who I hired, regardless of sex? Heck yes. Would I discriminate based on it? Heck no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500855 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 19:52:16 +0000 T.H.O.U. 500855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At the infant stage no. I firmly believe there is a difference in how a woman is programmed to take care of a baby. Not all I bet there are some guys that would make a much better nanny than some women but nope wouldn't do it. </p> <p>Now I would hire a guy for older kids. As long as I could be really clear with my expectations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500847 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 19:48:58 +0000 MsMini 500847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely think that with a baby who super busy and physically active like mine, a man-ny would be a better choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500816 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 19:32:02 +0000 MamaMoose 500816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't hire any nanny that wasn't a personal recommendation from a trusted friend or family member. So given that gender wouldn't matter to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500803 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 19:25:16 +0000 Mrs. Pen 500803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: what about a gay manny?!?! haha :)</p> <p>I would... might. I would have to REALLY like the guy and he would have to have stellar references. I have a son but even if I had a daughter I wouldn't have an issue. idk I just think that you saying another guy changing her diaper irks you kinda suggests you think all mannies would look at your daughter sexually and I really feel that is NOT the norm!!</p> <p>Oh and if he did housework really well that would be a plus!!</p> <p>However - I really don't think DH would go for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500791 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 19:20:29 +0000 Maysprout 500791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely be less trusting and would be more comfortable when my child was better able to communicate. My husband said he'd be uncomfortable with the idea. It's just several stories of abuse around us at the hands of supposedly good citizens in our neighborhood came out right around the time we were expecting LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500728 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 18:45:37 +0000 PrincessBaby 500728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's just an uncomfortable feeling bc I have a daughter maybe? And a guy changing her diapers that's not her Dad, and being totally alone with her when I'm not around...It's hard enough to relinquish control of the most important thing in your life and put your whole world into ONE person's hands... It would be EXTRA hard to overcome the discomfort associated with all the things I just mentioned. It would just be too much. I'm a nervous wreck about it as it is, but I'm not ready to put her in daycare! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500706 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 18:32:31 +0000 ladyfingers 500706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I agree... I'm really confused as to what the issue would be if he's just as qualified/clean background check as a woman. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500692 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 18:21:35 +0000 immabeetoo 500692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I agree! I totally would. My husband nannied through the same agency as me when we were in college and the families loved having a young guy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500683 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 18:14:10 +0000 mrs. bird 500683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would for a toddler! i think a manny might be more likely to be physically active and keep up. but not for a baby, but i wouldn't hire a female nanny for a baby either! i think i'll be a jealous mama, i wouldn't want anyone else spending that much time with my baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-manny#post-500676 Sat, 12 Jan 2013 18:06:47 +0000 sarac 500676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: man, me too. I would hire any qualified and awesome person, gender wouldn't enter into it. </p>