https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 23:47:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1343635 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 18:56:07 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1343635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ZombieBullfrogHoller: I think it's funny how this thread kind of went opposite of your thread, but it's good for you to see both sides! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1343511 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 18:09:37 +0000 ZombieBullfrogHoller 1343511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beaker: haha, That was my thread! I think, especially with the girls being older + it only being for a few hours, I would. Hope to hear how it goes! Good luck :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1340194 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 19:47:06 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1340194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I totally just read everybody's responses out to DH. He was also wondering if we'll need to/should have breakfast foods for her daughters. Good point that it's not a permanent thing if it doesn't work out. The girls have been doing this since the younger one was born so they are also very used to infants, and I would plan to take off the first week DS2 is home to make sure all is going smoothly. </p> <p>We'll see how the next two candidates are. Thanks everyone :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1340154 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 19:32:10 +0000 Zbug 1340154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you are just going to have to go with your gut on this one. As you said, it doesn't seem like you have a lot of options due to the part time nature of the job. It's only for a few hours a day, so I could see it working out fine - especially if you feel like she's a better fit than the next two you interview. You can also just see how it goes. It's not forever. If it doesn't work out, you can figure out a different plan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339933 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 17:18:25 +0000 blackbird 1339933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely not. </p> <p>Such a strange arrangement on her behalf, IMO </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339768 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 15:34:49 +0000 Maysprout 1339768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so. It's more people and germs around your baby who's a bit more susceptible than others. And 10 year olds can be a bit silly themselves. When we were introducing our newborn to some of the neighbors I did a bunch of scolding of kids around that age. One came up and started blowing in her face, another just kept yelling to try to wake her up. I usually like these kids and they're great with my toddler but I would not want them over everyday with my newborn. </p> <p>Also if they only do school on evenings and weekends what are they going to be doing at your house for 3-1/2 hours every day. Are they just going to sit in front of a tv or computers? Seems like a long time for them to really play with a toddler everyday. I donno I kinda feel bad for the girls going to work with their mom every day and then having to do school lessons afterwards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339766 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 15:30:53 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1339766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Initially I thought no, but 3.5 hours is not a lot and it definitely could help allow her to focus on ds2 if they play with ds1... </p> <p>It's really hard to know how a nanny will really work until you've tried. Trust your gut, but also reevaluate after a month or so... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339655 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 14:13:02 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1339655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My siblings were homeschooled and at that age they were doing their work on their own. I think they might get bored at your house though. I do think it is a bit strange she didn't mention it beforehand and brought them to the interview. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339653 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 14:12:04 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1339653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I just dug deeper into her care.com profile and she said that her daughters always come with her on her jobs, although again it was not mentioned in our correspondence. I am not worried about her kids behaving badly, or sucking too much attention away from the boys, but the child labor angle is a good point. </p> <p>Re: homeschooling, she says that the girls work independently on their school stuff (a program she purchases) on their computers (according to her profile, just on evenings and weekends). I would certainly not be comfortable with my own children being taught this way, however, I'm not sure how applicable that is to how she cares for my boys now. I really just need someone to keep them both safe and happy for 3.5 hours every morning... At some point I'm planning to put DS1 in preschool a few hours a week so he can get more age appropriate activities and socialization, but right now we can't swing that. </p> <p>The other nanny I interviewed was a total bust (wanted to put DS2's health issues on her nursing resume basically) and I will be interviewing two more this week. Her profile said she charges 10-15/hour, she quoted me 15-18. Some of the applicants I got were asking for 35/hour for DS2(!!). 12-13/hour is the average for my area. This is also a part time position which I think is not appealing to everyone.</p> <p>Argh. Well I guess I'll see how the next two are and reevaluate what I think of her situation. Thanks for bringing up all those good points everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339639 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 14:02:09 +0000 matador84 1339639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I wouldn't...even if she seemed like a fantastic candidate. I pay childcare for someone to watch my child 100% of the time. She can't possibly be 100% devoted to your child if she has two other children with her. Plus, it isn't their responsibility to watch children, even if they are great at helping out. If her kids are sick, is she still going to bring them with her? Or would she stay at home and you'd be out of childcare, etc? I think it would have a lot of potential issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339635 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 13:59:00 +0000 Bao 1339635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I would, personally. It seems like it would end up being a convenience for her, but an inconvenience for you. I would consider letting someone bring their LO if they were the same age as mine so they are able to play with the same things, and have a similar schedule. However, if you feel like this would work for you and your family, it doesn't hurt to try it out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339607 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 13:35:59 +0000 mrs. bird 1339607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope, wouldn't work for me. to be great at homeschooling, the parent needs to be very involved &amp; providing lots of stimulating activities. leaving them alone with workbooks or in front of a computer screen would mean we have very different ideas about learning, and providing all of those stimulating activities would mean the caregiver was occupied doing so or my kiddo was spending too much time in a car going to places for their older kids. none of those options are ones i'm comfortable with. </p> <p>sure, there are great parents to infants who homeschool, but if i were hiring a nanny, i would want them doing things that were on my kiddo's level, with their own LO of a similar age or just my kiddo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339599 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 13:30:02 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1339599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it also depends on the type of homeschooling. Is she buying a program her girls just have to complete. Or is she actually drafting and giving the lesson. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339594 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 13:26:52 +0000 yellowbird 1339594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It seems strange to me. I don't see how she can focus on her kids education and your Los at the same time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339592 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 13:25:29 +0000 owlteach 1339592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it could be ok. I don't have any kids yet, so take my advice as it is. I totally get why you would be frustrated that she wasn't honest and upfront about the situation. However, I can also see why she may withold that info until you met her and her girls. With your newest LO really needing a lot of extra care, I can see the benefit for the older 2. Especially because it is just for the mornings, a full day there may test their ability to be helpful and not needy.</p> <p>I would call her recent references, because you can only find out so much from an interview. There are a lot of potential pros and cons, so I really think this whole thing comes down to your gut feeling about her and her daughters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339581 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 13:18:07 +0000 jetsa 1339581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Greentea: but do think she should be charging a lesser rate. She's working for you and you would be accomadating her needs as well as your own. Also I'd her a very straight forward conversation on what she expects as well as what you expect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339576 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 13:14:30 +0000 regberadaisy 1339576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stine_ciro: agree. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth that she wasn't upfront about it.<br /> And it really depends on the kids but I can see the 13 year old being a handful. And just because one 10 year old is helpful doesn't mean another will be. My niece is 10 and is super helpful with her little brother who's 20 months.. But my nephew is also 10 and he wouldn't be the type to be helpful.</p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: good point about "child labor" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339568 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 13:10:56 +0000 Greentea 1339568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beaker: I actually disagree with pps. 10 and 13? I lived alone since I was 14 and at 13 watched several kids on my own. Those older kids can and will help. I would use my intuition though. A little weird she was not clear but perhaps that is just miscommunication. It happens as we adjust to communication styles. ...what do YOU think beaker? Hard to say without meeting them. But I think the older kids could be a plus. Kids those age don't need as much attention and discipline. ..</p> <p>Eta: it is only 3.5 hours... for those that are not comfortable with the older girls... are you okay with a nanny bringing a younger child/ baby? That to me would require much more care... but all in all as I said I think it all depends on her and her girls. A 10 and 13 year old are fine doing their own thing for a few hours in a morning... I WAS a sitter at that age... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339546 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 12:54:25 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1339546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's just too many strangers in my house IMO. From what I know about homeschooling is that the parent needs to be invokved. I wouldn't feel comfortable with having two estra caregivers that may be considered child labor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339528 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 12:43:52 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1339528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the fact that she wasn't clear up front that she wanted them with her is the bigger red flag. It could signal that she has trouble communicating things or is hesitant to ask permission for things. (While I am usually a proponent of the easier to ask forgiveness way of things, I'm not when it comes to taking care of children.). I would want to make sure that I talked through the expectations with her prior to hiring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339514 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 12:33:29 +0000 Mae 1339514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well the blaring con is that her attention is divided between your babies and her own. Whether her kids can work independently or not, she will have less attention to give than if she came to work without her own kids. </p> <p>That being said, if you like her better than the other people you've interviewed then it would probably be worth it to hire her still. But I'd absolutely expect her to charge less considering. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-hire-a-nanny-her-homeschooled-13-amp-10-year-olds#post-1339489 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 12:17:35 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1339489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm interviewing nannies for mornings when I need to go back to work (probably in the next few weeks, even if DS2 isn't home from the hospital yet, boo), and we just met one who (apparently) is a package deal with her homeschooled 13 &amp; 10 year old daughters. I realized this when all three of them showed up at my house for the interview. Besides it being a bit off putting that she wasn't clear about it, how would you feel about this?</p> <p>She has a ton of experience from newborns on up, and although she hasn't worked with g tubes yet (like DS2 has) she's willing to learn, has CPR certs, etc. DS1 had fun playing with her daughters as we talked, and they are both very sweet and well behaved. I know there was a thread the other day about someone wondering if they could nanny with their infant along for the ride... I'm inclined to think that since the children are older, they should need less of her attention, and may be able to help play with DS1 if she's busy with DS2. She said they can do their schoolwork independently. My MIL would come to take over in the afternoon until I got home from work. Just wondering if anyone had some blaring cons to this situation? </p>