https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 03:54:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606696 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 18:37:06 +0000 Boogs 2606696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKRB: Or could your current job do anything to make you want to stay? Would they match the new salary? Allow you to work from home a few days a month? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606687 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 18:27:29 +0000 MrsKRB 2606687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: I guess it would depend on if they hire someone quickly to replace me. If they didn't have a replacement I'm sure she would rehire me. That's a good thought! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606666 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 18:05:29 +0000 Boogs 2606666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you hated your new job, do you know if you would be able to return to your old position? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606515 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 15:18:22 +0000 MrsKoala 2606515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I absolutely would! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606512 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 15:17:41 +0000 MrsKRB 2606512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: we are comfortable now, but the extra bump in pay would mean we would be able to do some much needed home renovations or maybe take a nice vacation. In the long term, it would be helpful when we are ready to ttc for #2. I like the seasons analogy, nothing is permanent! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606415 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 14:29:23 +0000 Kemma 2606415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How much difference to your financial comfort does the extra $8,000 make from week to week? </p> <p>And I'm a firm believer in seasons so maybe this is just the season for you to take the closer job so you can have more time with your new family? Different jobs will come and go but kids are only little for such a short period of time and I really don't think you'll regret spending the extra time with baby while you have it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606393 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 14:20:02 +0000 PurplePumps 2606393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I would as long as all the benefits are similar as well. I think at worse, as long as you don't burn any bridges, if you didn't like the change, you could always try to go back. That's what my friend did... plus she went back to the job she loved.. with an even higher salary since they matched and beat the "new" salary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606339 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 13:56:38 +0000 MrsKRB 2606339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: you're right, on one hand I want to be available as much as I can for my lo, but on the other hand I need to make myself happy too. I couldn't be a SAHM either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606280 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 13:27:17 +0000 psw27 2606280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it were me, I would change jobs. A shorter commute (which saves you money) and more money and a daycare right there would all make life much easier and an easier life would make me happier at home - which matters more to me than work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606259 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 13:12:26 +0000 Mrs D 2606259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree priorities change...but a job is not just a job to all people...so dont feel bad if you want to keep your existing one even if it means sacrificing some of your family time. </p> <p>I see DDs for about 30 mins in the morning and about 1.5 hours at night - do I wish it was more? Sure. But for me - having a job I love is crucial to my mental well being. I cant fathom having to go to work every day to do something that wasnt great...something I didnt love.</p> <p>For me - I am not personally meant to stay home with my girls, its not suited for me. But I do know for certain it would be way harder to leave them each day if it wasnt for something I loved and with people I loved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606250 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 13:09:00 +0000 MrsKRB 2606250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rocker2014: sounds like you had an almost identical situation to me! Thanks for your input, glad your job feels like home now :)</p> <p>@Mrs. Pajamas: you're so right, family is #1. This job would have me pumping only twice instead of three times, so that's a definite plus! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606238 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 13:06:00 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2606238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MRSKRB I would echo what others are saying in the more recent responses: every minute counts when you have a LO at home. I love my job and have a ton of support here but if my commute were longer I would find a new job in a heartbeat to spend more time with my LO and be able to pick her up if she's sick, etc. In the beginning there are so many ped. appts and if you are breastfeeding, you'll want to be home in the AM for sure so you can pump less. Actually that is probably the biggest consideration in my opinion. I leave earlier than my DH and I would often wake my DD to nurse before going to work. Not seeing her and pumping is so not the same. Think about that. Plus personally priorities change a lot when you have LO. A job is great, but it's just a job. Your LO is your whole world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606232 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 13:02:57 +0000 wrkbrk 2606232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKRB: For sure not. I am firmly in the camp of loving your job being priceless because it is SO RARE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606198 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 12:37:23 +0000 Rocker2014 2606198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would - and did - switch. </p> <p>I used to have a job I loved with amazing coworkers, and it was 45 minutes of commuting each way. I accepted a new position during my maternity leave, a similar job but more management responsibilities. My office was less than 5 minutes from my house, and just for that I feel as though I made the right decision. It was very difficult to start a new job post-maternity leave, but I'm not sure it would be that much easier to have gone back to the old job. I feel like everything in my life changed post-LO, and a new job was just one of those things. Being closer to home has improved my life in a million ways, and have a very positive impact on my relationship with LO, and DH.</p> <p>ETA, a year and a half later, the new place feels like "home" too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606097 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 11:06:14 +0000 Bluebonnet 2606097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKRB: Since is a similar job (and potentially easier), I would take it. You will appreciate having a short commute, more time with LO, on site daycare (when there is an opening) and more $$. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606031 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 10:16:47 +0000 yellowbird 2606031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606029 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 10:15:58 +0000 mamabolt 2606029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went back to work with LO1 with a job with a 40 min commute and it was SO HARD. I always hated the commute and it was just multiplied. When she was 11 months I had an opportunity come up that was only 15 min commute and more money (and more flexibility, I can WFH regularly). I took it and it honestly is one of the best things I've ever done, especially now that we have added LO2 this year. Time is always in short supply with LOs, and getting more of it is priceless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606018 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 10:10:22 +0000 catlady 2606018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKRB: In that case, it stinks, but I'd try to get the new job. You may even like having an easier job in your LO's early years. The first year back can be tough. Plus the extra time at home and proximity to daycare is really invaluable. My DH and I have made a ton of sacrifices to live close to work/daycare and we don't regret it at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606016 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 10:09:54 +0000 snowjewelz 2606016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKRB: @MrsKRB: I won't lie and say it doesn't suck. I really loved my last job, mainly it's people. But it actually worked out for me; a year or so after I left, our company got bought out, re-located, and a lot of people left, so if I had stayed, I would prob leave then too. And with kids it's just so essential that I'm 20 min from home! My old boss tried to accommodate me to stay; but I knew that it's not 100% guarantee b/c at the end of the day, he doesn't make the rules so I'm not naïve to think that it won't change.</p> <p>Right now I get home at 6, we eat dinner and I still have like an hour to hang out before bed time. Plus just today, someone got struck on the train tracks so the trains were all nuts... I am very happy to not deal with that stress! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606010 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 10:03:29 +0000 MrsKRB 2606010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bluebonnet: Yea, I pretty much won't see her in the morning, and then maybe 2-3 hours in the afternoon depending on her bedtime. The jobs are comparable, I am a dietitian and I would be going from an acute care hospital to a long term care facility, so basically it will be an easier job. Everyone I met with seems really nice. My job is fairly flexible now, but it would be hard to leave in the middle of the day there to go to the daycare if anything were to happen being that I'm so far away. </p> <p>@NorthStar: Thanks for your advice, you're right every minute counts especially when they get older and have more activities. </p> <p>@catlady: I wish I was able to! I'm a dietitian, so I need to visit patients. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2606001 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:55:59 +0000 catlady 2606001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is a tough call. Could you see if your current job would let you work remotely, at least a few days of the week? That way your total commute time per week could stay fairly low. This is what I plan to ask my job when we move (they have allowed this in the past for key employees, including letting people become fully remote if they need to move out of state). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2605999 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:54:56 +0000 NorthStar 2605999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKRB: As much as it sucks leaving a place that you love, then I would probably try to find a job closer. Being 5 minutes away from your house is invaluable. Like you said, if he is gone far away, you can pick them up, be there for after school activities, etc. Those extra 70 minutes a day are huge. But, I also know that every person has their own thoughts on it. I've just been there. Our daughter's daycare is currently 30 minutes from our work / 20 minutes from home. She will be moving to one about 5 minutes from our home in September. We can't wait. I realize that it's a bit different, but the extra time that we will have together as a family is something we look forward to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2605998 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:53:42 +0000 Bluebonnet 2605998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is tough. What is the flexibility like at your current job and the potential new job?</p> <p>A 40 minute commute each way is going to be much harder when you're back after maternity leave (babies go to bed so early and you're going to want to spend as much time with LO while they are awake). </p> <p>Are the jobs comparable? Or would there be a huge learning curve a the new job? How well do you know your potential boss and coworkes?</p> <p>Long term, a shorter commute, more $ and onsite childcare would be amazing. But its also nice to work with people you like doing a job you know - especially when going through a transition. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2605996 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:52:00 +0000 MrsKRB 2605996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NorthStar: He's in sales so he's on the road a lot (all within the state), so it depends on the day, sometimes he close, sometimes he's an hour away. </p> <p>@snowjewelz: The convenience of everything is what is drawing me to the position as well. Also, thinking way ahead when she (and any other kids) are in school, I will be able to be home when they get home, instead of having to keep them in after school care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2605984 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:45:34 +0000 snowjewelz 2605984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did. I used to live 20 min from work, but I was getting married and we bought a house 1+ hour away. Knowing that we wanted to have kids soon, I didn't want that commute. I found a new job 20 min from my home now for more money, but I went from a huge corporate company to a small private one. I don't hate it, but it's def more just a paycheck to me. But I wouldn't change a thing b/c it's been great for dr appts, if I have to pick DD up from school suddenly, and having time to spend with her in the evenings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2605983 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:45:04 +0000 bakingdoodle 2605983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a tough decision. I've worked for 10 years at the same company. Work is great. My boss is great and I love my coworkers. I have two kids now. The support was great and is still great. I have flexibility where if I start somewhere else, I wouldn't have it. My commute is 40 min long. What works: my DH commute is 10 min. So he takes care of the kids... I wish I was closer to home and made more money but being happy at work is priceless so I am staying where I am. My boss knows my value, he gave me a raise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2605981 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:43:50 +0000 NorthStar 2605981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKRB: Yeah, I would check on the STD policy. I am torn for you about the best decision. It is everything to be in a job that you love and that creates support. There is no doubt about that. It's the commute that kills me as that is a long way to go when dealing with daycare. Does your husband work far from the daycare you have chosen? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2605976 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:39:04 +0000 MrsKRB 2605976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NorthStar: That's a good point, I am receiving STD - I'm not sure if I would have to pay it back, I would have to find that out for sure!</p> <p>@hellobeeboston: I've definitely had jobs in the past that I was miserable in, so money for sure isn't the answer for everything!</p> <p>@Mrs D: That's a good point that I was also thinking about, going back to work is going to be tough on it's own, adding a new job into the mix is going to be really hard. It is my first baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2605973 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:35:11 +0000 looch 2605973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, it depends on what is going on with my spouse. We agreed that it was okay for one of us to have a longer commute, the other had to be more local. Also, is the nature of the role one that it is consistently available (would the same or similar role be available at a later date, or is it highly specialized)? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-leave-a-job-you-love#post-2605961 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:27:09 +0000 Ajsmommy 2605961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd choose a job I love. </p>