https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 09:31:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2592542 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 22:47:03 +0000 youboots 2592542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well explained that T is still contagious via saliva. She let T drink out of both of our waterbottles. Then she took her on a walk- I said not to take her around other kids. I found out later she put her on a swing (!!!) face, palm.</p> <p>I think I have a cracked rib from coughing so hard. M is in NY for 5 days. It's not going well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2592540 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 22:40:36 +0000 ALV91711 2592540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hope you are both feeling better. </p> <p>I first said yes, but when I read the details my answer changed to no. Glad she came to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2592494 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 21:17:48 +0000 JennyD 2592494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: same here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591823 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 09:08:13 +0000 snowjewelz 2591823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd ask her to come over instead. My mom did that for me many times... One time she got sick too and I felt SO bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591684 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 00:13:10 +0000 Boogs 2591684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sure. She's great with the kids and she's a nurse, so she could handle it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591536 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 18:36:37 +0000 youboots 2591536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It went well but she watches T fairly often. I hired a babysitter for 3 1/2 days from a family I know here in town and they are doing great. I just took an hour nap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591510 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 17:37:25 +0000 Sapphiresun 2591510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL specifically, no. </p> <p>But my dad is my go to person to pick our daughter up or keep her home while I work if she's too sick to go to daycare. I'm sure he'd be willing if I was too sick to manage her as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591448 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 13:58:48 +0000 catomd00 2591448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but my Inlaws watch DD 3x a week, have all the stuff, she's used to being there, etc. ETA - only if DD was ok good. If she wanted to stay home then I of course would keep her so I could comfort her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591428 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 13:25:58 +0000 lamariniere 2591428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Initially, I said yes. But when you added the details of the current situation, I thought it would be better for her to come over. My main concern was T exposing the other grandkids to HFM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591344 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 09:04:59 +0000 caterw 2591344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not do this even with my own mom (who is our usually caregiver and who I trust as much as I trust myself), much less my MIL who has a habit of not listening to my instructions. If my kids are sick, they need to be in their own bed with their own mommy to comfort them. If someone wants to help out-great, they can come over to my house. Sick kids don't need to be in the car, changing up their routine, or risk being exposed to other germs ( or exposing people to what they have). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591340 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 08:52:18 +0000 youboots 2591340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone for chiming in. She's coming over today. No more fever or body aches just a nasty cough.</p> <p>I realized if it were an older child that did not nap and really understood what was going on I'd be fine with it. But my sweet girl is still a baby at 16 months and I want to be nearby. MIL does well with her. Since T seems ok I don't trust MIL not to take her places 'just real quick' or feed her food she should not be eating. I'm sure it will be fine her being so demanding was really weird to me- especially since they are remodeling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591330 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 08:30:48 +0000 Bao 2591330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL no, but my mom yes. Depends on who! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591329 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 08:25:15 +0000 Alba4 2591329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It might be nice for you to get a break. If you are nervous, can she stay with you and help you at your house?</p> <p>My mil comes weekly and it is so helpful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591328 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 08:23:38 +0000 catlady 2591328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but only because my LO gets easily carsick and my MIL lives an hour away, so it seems terribly unfair to make a sick kiddo sit in the car so long. I'd be happy to have her watch LO at our house though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591325 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 08:16:08 +0000 nana87 2591325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just for the day? Probably.... Although lo is very clingy with me when she's sick so maybe not if she wasn't feeling well. Overnight no, lo hasn't spent the night away from both of us at the same time yet </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591312 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 06:46:11 +0000 Foodnerd81 2591312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: are you feeling any better? I hope<br /> MIL was able To come over and help without overstepping and you got some rest. With other kids in the picture I would want to keep LO separated, for their protection from her germs, and to keep her from picking anything else up. I really hope you got some good rest. It's so hard to get better when you don't get a break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591303 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 06:18:09 +0000 looch 2591303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would. But I've also come to realize I've hit the jackpot in terms of inlaws. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591291 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 04:42:28 +0000 travelgirl1 2591291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would appreciate her coming to my house to help so I could rest, but I wouldn't let her take the children out or to her house. I prefer them with me when they are sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591274 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 01:31:55 +0000 QBbride 2591274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I wouldn't </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591272 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 01:09:20 +0000 PawPrints 2591272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If DD had stayed with her before, and presumably MIL's house were all set up for her to stay there, then hell yes I would jump on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591269 Sun, 24 Jul 2016 00:22:01 +0000 LindsayLou 2591269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I would not. Aside from the fact that I wouldn't trust my mil to follow my specific instructions, I wouldn't want my daughter to have to deal with travel time, being away from home, and not napping well while she was trying to get well herself. And I can totally see why you were irked at her being so insistent about it. You made a judgment call, and it's absolutely your call. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591261 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 23:35:59 +0000 birdofafeather 2591261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'd rather them come to me so I could rest but be available if LO needed me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591257 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 23:02:24 +0000 DesertDreams88 2591257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our dr told us grandparents tend to get HFM pretty badly due to not having any natural immunity. But I'm not sure of your child is still contagious...?</p> <p>I'd rather the care giver come over to the house to help out for 5-6 hours a day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591222 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 21:08:22 +0000 avivoca 2591222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom, yes, absolutely. Not my MIL. It's not that I don't feel comfortable, it's that my FIL is immunocompromised due to black lung and if he gets so much as a cold, he ends up in the hospital. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591221 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 21:07:50 +0000 Truth Bombs 2591221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Given that it's someone I and my LO are comfortable with, then yes. In my case my MIL is not that person. But I can think of people who are. If I trust someone to watch my kid at all, then I have a level of trust where I would feel comfortable with them to handle medicine and sickness, etc. The only hesitation would be if I felt my LO would be more comforted by me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591219 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 21:04:28 +0000 travellingbee 2591219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be fine with that and welcome the help but it's certainly your perogative since it's your kid. It is to help you and if you don't feel it's a help then, saying no thanks is the right option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591210 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 20:40:00 +0000 ocean81 2591210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: I would be the same as you. I'd want her in her own home so she could be comfortable and so I could keep an eye on her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591209 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 20:35:33 +0000 wrkbrk 2591209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: my mil yes. My own mother hell no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591208 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 20:33:15 +0000 Astro Bee 2591208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, for several reasons we haven't felt comfortable having MIL watch LO. I definitely wouldn't leave him with her while sick. My mom, definitely, my SIL or BIL, definitely, or some other relatives, maybe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-you-mil#post-2591207 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 20:32:17 +0000 LAZB 2591207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd have my mom take care of L here, I agree with your logic. Also, definitely don't want to expose other kids, especially babies. </p>