https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 11:52:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669676 Fri, 23 Dec 2016 01:34:00 +0000 MrsB2012 2669676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a compromise, they're willing o quarantine him to a bedroom? The poor guy!<br /> No, I would absolutely not go and not let my kids go. The only compromise I would consider, would be saying my husband could go without a fight.<br /> So sorry you have to deal with this at Xmas ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669670 Fri, 23 Dec 2016 00:20:35 +0000 theotherstark 2669670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: ugh, that is so frustrating!! I'm sorry, and I'm sorry they're putting you in this situation :bummed: so crummy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669658 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 23:49:19 +0000 azjax 2669658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stay home with the kids! I would avoid a family gathering if I knew someone was showing up contagious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669655 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 23:38:20 +0000 Kimberlybee 2669655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like the nephew absolutely will be there so I would skip and stay home with the kids. Your DH should go solo if he insists on going. We were miserable as a family after catching a cold during Thanksgiving. (the whole family ended up sick after one another) getting mono sounds way worse and not worth the risk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669654 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 23:32:32 +0000 LemonJack 2669654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: I totally get where you're coming from and would be fuming at the parents. DH and I had to skip out on a family Christmas one year because we were sick and it was a major bummer, but we knew we'd both feel terrible if we got others sick. How people don't care about that is beyond me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669638 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 22:30:23 +0000 ALV91711 2669638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, just skip. I think it is better to have your family stay healthy and do your own thing. </p> <p>I had mono at around 18 and it was miserable. I can't believe the parents are making him go. He is not going to have a good time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669635 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 22:28:04 +0000 SweetCaroline 2669635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I totally agree with you...if your kid had stomach flu, you just wouldn't go. Neither should they.</p> <p>This is so sucky. You have to be the bad guy because they aren't doing the right thing. Your kids are #1 though, so who cares. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669630 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 22:25:12 +0000 Astro Bee 2669630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No kids on DH's side of the family yet (we are spending Christmas there this year), but we would definitely skip it if there was someone with mono or another contagious disease. We have altered plans before when DS was sick with just a bad cold (so he could have the comfort of his own bed and house), so I don't know why anyone would want to put their child through that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669604 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 21:02:24 +0000 erinbaderin 2669604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go. My friend went on a business trip and came home with mono, so it's definitely not exposed only through direct saliva exchange. It will be disappointing to miss it and it would likely be fine but it's one night vs potentially months of sick kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669599 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 20:48:35 +0000 Madison43 2669599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonJack: I had left a message for my doctor and was called back by the nurse who was relaying the message from the doc. I think everyone is universally appalled that my ILs are making the kid go. </p> <p>And yeah, everything I read online said that the risk was small and the reaction in kids is usually not as severe as in teens. But because I had it so, so bad, my brain just won't accept it. :silly: Even if it is a minor thing, it's still pretty shitty - like, if my kid had a stomach bug or strep, I wouldn't bring her to spare everyone else the potential illness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669587 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 20:23:35 +0000 LemonJack 2669587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know you said you called your pediatrician's office, and am wondering if you spoke to the actual doctor. My first thought was that I absolutely wouldn't go, but from the (little) reading I did it sounds like not only is the risk tiny, but it's also an illness that tends to be super mild in small children. </p> <p>That being said, I'm sure I would still be nervous, and would do more research, but knowing that made me go from "no way!" to "maybe".</p> <p>But really, why is this poor kid being dragged along in the first place? That seems so unfair to him!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669574 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 19:55:38 +0000 littlejoy 2669574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"...you can also be exposed through a cough or sneeze, or by sharing a glass or food utensils with someone who has mono." </p> <p>No way! I am generally pretty annoyed with most parents who don't follow 24 hr. fever free advice before exposing other kids to their LO's illnesses ... this situation is no different. Inconvenient for that family, but potentially dangerous for yours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669572 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 19:50:08 +0000 Bao 2669572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I had this for 2 months before. No way would I bring my kid around that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669571 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 19:40:39 +0000 Madison43 2669571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@theotherstark: yeah.... I could really go on a tear here. His whole family thinks I'm insane for even considering not going because his doctor supposedly said it's fine. I called my pediatrician and the nurse couldn't even believe it was an actual situation. I'm so irritated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669569 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 19:31:07 +0000 Mrs. Oreo 2669569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oooooh...I would either stay home or have the kid stay home. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669567 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 19:25:51 +0000 theotherstark 2669567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I were you, I would put some pressure on my husband to convince his sibling to keep their kid at home. That is ridiculous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669552 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 18:54:13 +0000 mrbee 2669552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the PP, I wouldn't go either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669547 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 18:40:13 +0000 wheres_c 2669547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way!<br /> I have lifelong health issues because of mono and chronic Epstein Barr virus.<br /> I caught it from my college roommate and I assure you that no saliva was exchanged directly.<br /> He should stay home. If he doesn't, you and the kids should! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669527 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 18:09:44 +0000 yellowbird 2669527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not go if they insisted nephew was there. Nope! No way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669525 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 17:58:27 +0000 Meowkers 2669525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely skip it. I can easily forsee the nephew not washing his hands properly and spreading it that way. </p> <p>On a side note, his parents need to re-prioritize. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669524 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 17:55:06 +0000 newlypregnantlady 2669524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go. I'm really considering skipping my husband's extended family gathering because his family is notorious for bringing sick kids to holiday dinners and not telling anyone they're sick. There have been many years one kid has gotten the entire family (like 40 people) sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669510 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 17:12:55 +0000 MrsA 2669510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. And I feel badly for the cousin having to go. Bummer all around! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669509 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 17:12:54 +0000 youboots 2669509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: no. Absolutely not this is so unreasonable. Oh my kid has HFM let's just keep in a bedroom at a family event. Just no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669506 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 17:07:56 +0000 Madison43 2669506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: @youboots: as a compromise, my husband says my ILS are willing to quarantine him to a bedroom if it makes me more comfortable. Putting my issues aside, i feel like I am in the twilight zone that they and my BIL and SIL think this may be a good solution. He should be home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669498 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 16:59:00 +0000 youboots 2669498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had it for months and it's caused me lifelong health issues (says my mom) apparently I was really healthy as a kid up until then. I would absolutely not go. I can't imagine he would want to come- let the poor kid stay in bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669495 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 16:51:17 +0000 Mama Bird 2669495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well first of all, dragging him to the dinner sounds like torture. I know you're not in a position to do anything about it but I hope his parents decide to keep him at home.</p> <p>If this was my family I'd probably skip the dinner. Yes, mono is spread by saliva, but what about poor hand washing or dish washing? Toddlers aren't exactly discerning about licking other people's spoons or trying their food if they can get away with it. And your nephew is likely in a more contagious stage since he's just started treatment.</p> <p>Mono is pretty scary. I've heard some really bad stories. And one of my nephews had it for months and even relapsed after he got better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669491 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 16:45:19 +0000 Cherrybee 2669491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally, I would avoid. It's not an airborne virus so the chances of getting it are pretty low..... But not worth the risk to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669490 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 16:42:18 +0000 birdofafeather 2669490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nephew needs to stay home! If he doesn't, I would skip. Lame. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669484 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 16:37:52 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2669484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's a tough one since it sounds like your husband wants to go. I would skip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-let-your-kids-mingle-with-a-cousin-who-had-mono#post-2669481 Thu, 22 Dec 2016 16:26:50 +0000 Madison43 2669481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 18 yr old nephew was just diagnosed with mono. Christmas Eve dinner is a big deal for my inlaws and we've been told he'll still be there (despite being so sick right now he can barely move - that's a story for another day). Anyway, I know that mono is transferred through saliva and so unless he starts sharing my kiddo's - aged 3 and 1 - sippy cups or licking them, the chances of him giving it to them are near zero. But, I've had mono and knowing how awful it can be (I missed 4 months of high school), I can't imagine exposing my babies to it. </p> <p>What would you guys do? Still go to Xmas eve dinner or skip it, knowing it's the most important holiday event of the year to my husband?</p> <p>ETA - i don't know how this ended up under vaccines? It was supppsed to be LO health. Oops. </p>