https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 16:08:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662547 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 18:39:08 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2662547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Environment is important to me, so I wouldn't move unless I was sure I loved the community. </p> <p>I also wonder if "good school" means the same thing in all places. </p> <p>There are places where housing is cheaper, but the real estate value may not go up very much. I think the suburbs of GA is one of them. </p> <p>I wouldn't mind making a move for great schools and better COL, but those 2 things alone are not worth it for me. I'd have to consider a whole bunch of other factors like community, area development, opportunity, diversity, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662463 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 14:08:47 +0000 mrsbookworm 2662463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: We decided to send him to an International school since it's a short relocation. He will be learning Dutch in school though, while the rest of us are learning at home. I think he'll progress the fastest! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662403 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 12:28:40 +0000 PawPrints 2662403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with @Truth Bombs, something is missing from the equation - a lot of things really. There are so many factors that contribute to how enjoyable it will be to live in a certain place. Since you and DH both work remotely, I would definitely go through the exercise of exploring what you both find most valuable in a hometown (access to transit, walk to the grocery store, walk to parks, community feel, access to the arts e.g. theater/ballet/opera/symphony/museums, neighborhoods with kids, great schools, there are a million factors) and then look all over the map. Find your own paradise, no reason to feel attached to the place where you are now if it's too expensive and isn't bringing you any joy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662393 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 12:07:59 +0000 looch 2662393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: @mrsbookworm: Of course! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662387 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 11:57:04 +0000 lamariniere 2662387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: if you move back, I want to arrange a play date! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662374 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 11:35:20 +0000 looch 2662374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbookworm: I know that feeling well...I hope you have a good entry into your new place come January.</p> <p>What did you decide on the schools? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662360 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 10:55:27 +0000 mrsbookworm 2662360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: We're moving mid-January. We're in full on packing mode over here!</p> <p>If you all move to Europe with us, we can do a European Bee meetup😝 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662333 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 09:57:17 +0000 runnerd 2662333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: we live 2 hours from 90% of our families, and I can count one 1 hand how many times my side of the family visits each other a year, whereas DH's parents see 1-2x a month. That's are big hold up - trying to stay within 6 hour drive of them, which takes my real dream of moving to Colorado off the table! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662332 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 09:56:52 +0000 looch 2662332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbookworm: When are you going? I am seriously considering a move back to Europe. If I see a backslide in public education and the squashing of the pre-existing conditions clause on healthcare, I don't know how much longer we can remain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662329 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 09:54:27 +0000 runnerd 2662329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbookworm: 😂😂 every time we talk about this stuff I throw Sweden and Denmark out there - DH would never go Int'l since his parents won't fly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662316 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 09:37:34 +0000 mrsbookworm 2662316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Reading this made me chuckle. When we were talking about moving for DH's job, he asked me to make a list of places I would live. When I have it to him, he said "You realize these are all blue states with high COL?" Yep, I need to be with like-minded people!</p> <p>So instead, we're moving to Belgium. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662292 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 08:46:03 +0000 tinyperson 2662292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well we're in a great school now, but have a high cost of living. My whole family lives in this province, and DHs family lives in a province that I would never want to live in, but does have a lower cost of living. But, we would consider moving closer to my parents who live in a small city with a much lower cost of living and decent schools (and beaches!). I could likely work remotely, so it would be contingent on DH finding a good job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662260 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 00:48:39 +0000 agold 2662260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: Now that is tempting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662257 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 00:34:53 +0000 gingerbebe 2662257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: Well, the trade off is that with the cold winters, DH is happy to spend winter breaks in Hawaii, which we love! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662256 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 00:25:46 +0000 agold 2662256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: as a California girl myself, I don't think I could ever move to a muggy climate! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662251 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 00:00:44 +0000 gingerbebe 2662251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We would totally consider it if DH got another job back in his homestate. We currently live away from both of our families and juggle 2 kids without any help from them. We technically live in the same state as my family, but we live on opposite ends of California. </p> <p>There are definitely trade-offs to moving to DH's old stomping grounds. The pros are that we would have his family around and lots of cousin interaction. My ILs also run a daycare/preschool. Public schools are excellent there or you can buy a beautiful cheap house in a "bad" school district for like half the price and send your kid to one of the many private schools, too. The cons are I would have to quit my job, which I can only do where we currently live. And we'd have muggy summers, which I hate. And we'd lose access to all the amazing fresh local meat, seafood, and produce we get in California. (Its a real bummer). We'd have to change our health plan from our beloved Kaiser HMO to some kind of PPO (its an issue because of some health conditions I have). Luckily, DH's hometown actually has excellent medical facilities. We'd also be 45 minutes to the Great Lakes, we have close friends who live in nearby Midwestern states, we could buy our forever house for the same or a bit more than what we paid for our starter house in California, and there are really good job prospects for my husband in terms of what he eventually wants to do when he's older/retired. We'd have to get the right position for DH, but we're definitely keeping an eye on it and have applied to a few things that we're waiting to hear back from soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662214 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 20:32:21 +0000 agold 2662214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think being able to send your kids to a good school is very important. So I'd move to a better school district if I couldn't afford private school. Personally I'd have a hard time leaving my family, though, so I'd only move if I was near family. We have talked about moving if we have twins next for some reason (umm.. ivf) child care issues and such. But I'm personally staying in a tiny condo because I love my area so much. Rather be here in a condo than somewhere else in a bigger house. Good luck with whatever you do!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662164 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 17:20:21 +0000 nana87 2662164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We might do this soon. Dh works remotely, and I am currently tied to the university campus where I'm doing my doctorate because I'm teaching as well but won't be after this year. We loooove our current daycare, but unless I get one of a couple fellowships that I applied for for next year, it'll be the only thing really tying us to our current city. If we moved to my hometown, where we have family and friends, we could rent an entire house for like half what we currently pay for a 2-bedroom apartment. And daycare would cost way less. And by the time lo1 is in kindergarten, it's a HUGE difference in the quality of public schools. Dh is ready to move asap, lol. It would probably be a temporary move because I'll be going on the academic job market, and you basically have to move wherever you get a job, and that's honestly one of the biggest things holding us back--having to move more times than necessary! But it really might be in our plan if not next year, the year after. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools/page/2#post-2662157 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 16:47:54 +0000 avivoca 2662157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would for sure but I'm never going to get my husband to leave this state soooo.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2662138 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 15:58:18 +0000 mediagirl 2662138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah. We moved for cost of living. Ended up finding an area with good schools. I'd do it again in a heartbeat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2662056 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 13:46:27 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2662056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved countries for a better quality of life. It's expensive but worth it to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2662016 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:37:05 +0000 MrsSCB 2662016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you near family where you currently are? Because we may do the opposite -- move from low cost of living to a very high cost of living area. But it's where I'm from, my parents and my only sibling live there, and now that my LO is here, I'm finding myself more and more wanting to be near family again. Seems like you would be moving TO where your BIL lives, though, so that's a plus (I mean assuming you like him haha)! I really, really am sick of being a plane ride away :-( If I didn't love my job, I'd be even more itching to move. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2662015 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:36:11 +0000 Iced Tea 2662015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Moving to a city in the South from NYC, I was expecting a cultural divide. But it hasn't been very different. If we moved to a rural area, it would be a totally different situation, I know. But here in the city, people seem generally like-minded and it's easy enough to find our tribe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2662013 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:32:28 +0000 runnerd 2662013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hummusgirl: @meredithNYC: in a sea of red, this place would would still be one of a few blue counties (in area) which is the same as our situation now.</p> <p>I heard something after the election along the lines of the biggest thing you could do to change results is to move from your solidly blue state to a red state 😜 </p> <p>There are days I want to flee to blue states, but then I think what if all the liberals left? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2662012 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:31:19 +0000 Iced Tea 2662012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We made a similar move. We moved from NYC to a smaller city in the South that's an hour or two from family. </p> <p>For the most part, I don't regret it. Life is way easier financially, and we are in a very convenient location at a reasonable cost. My daughter will be attending an excellent Montessori preschool at a great cost next year, and her public school options are excellent. </p> <p>For me, the main negatives are these:<br /> We don't see family nearly as much as I expected. They kind of have the attitude that it isn't a priority since we could theoretically see each other any time. </p> <p>The second is health care cost. We moved to a city with great healthcare options, but I did not anticipate the issues with health insurance we've found here. We are both self employed, so we rely on buying our own, and it turns out that our options here are minimal, low quality, and super expensive (double what I paid in NY, despite having the maximum allowable deductible and a pathetically narrow network of care providers). </p> <p>It sounds like you guys would enjoy trying the place out. I'd just recommend that you examine ALL the big expenses, not just housing cost; I never imagined it could be so different in another state. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2662009 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:25:30 +0000 looch 2662009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: Haha, you said it lady.</p> <p>I could find a job at any company, really, I don't think I am that limited, but what I can't deal with is all the driving...40 minutes to go to the grocery store and fewer international airports. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2662007 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:21:54 +0000 Meowkers 2662007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hummusgirl: hahaha...yeah Ohio is not happening for this sun loving girl. It's like 62 degrees here today and I woke up and said "brr it's freezing today." </p> <p>@meredithNYC: My husband is in finance as well so we're in the same boat as you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2661987 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:05:32 +0000 meredithNYC 2661987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hummusgirl: In theory, I totally agree! In practice, however... :silly: </p> <p>I should also note that my husband works in finance and the vast majority of jobs available to him are in this area, so that's a huge factor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2661980 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 11:58:58 +0000 hummusgirl 2661980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: @ShootingStar: @Meowkers: People!! This is how we end up losing the electoral college with all the liberals grouped on the coasts. What we really need is to all move to Ohio or something. ;-)</p> <p>/Rant </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-move-to-another-state-for-cost-of-living-and-great-schools#post-2661973 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 11:52:03 +0000 Meowkers 2661973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably not. There are many other factors that are important to me that would make a move to a place like that very unlikely. </p> <p>I'm in LA so the cost of living is HIGH here but this is where my family is and I would never want to move away from my family. Also good weather, diversity, access to EVERYTHING, and a liberal ideology are very important to me. Finally, I'm a lawyer and the though of having to take the bar in another state makes me curl up in a ball and cry. </p>