https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 13:39:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-60207 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 08:54:57 +0000 mamabolt 60207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to continue working (and need to since I carry the benefits for my family) but I wish I could do it at home full time. I spend about 90 min a day on my commute right now and just getting that time back would be amazing. I'm actually going to ask my boss to try three days a week at home once the baby arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-60090 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 02:38:44 +0000 looch 60090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a SAHM that worked for 14 years in finance. I always thought I would be a WOHM, but it didn't work out because of the difficulty of finding appropriate child care. </p> <p>At the end of the day, I really think you have to do what is right at the time when the baby comes. It is fine to prepare, I am not saying that you shouldn't, but priorities shift as you get older and expand your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-60084 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 02:27:33 +0000 autumnlove 60084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will be a working mom but I want to be a SAHM. maybe in a few years... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-60081 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 02:20:41 +0000 AmeliaBedelia 60081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love to be at SAHM for the first 3-4 years of my child's life and then go back to work. What will most likely happen? Well, it's more likely that SO will be a SAHD than me being a SAHM. And maybe neither of us will stay at home. Never know. Depending on when we get pregnant, anyway, my preference in real life would be to be a working mom with SO being a SAHD. His job would allow him to be a part-time WAHD so we wouldn't totally lose a second income. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-60056 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 01:33:24 +0000 sandy 60056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and my baby is almost 11 weeks. I never thought I would be a SAHM when I was younger, but when I actually started thinking about having kids, I decided I wanted to stay at home at least for a few years. </p> <p>I was a practicing attorney for 7 years before I got pregnant...it was hard walking away from the paycheck, but I didn't love being an attorney and had no plans to try and make partner at a firm...and I love being at home with my daughter (for now anyway). I do have plans to do contract work down the road. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-59549 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:33:38 +0000 heffalump 59549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and I love it. I do admit that when my LO was about 2 months old I had a freak out and thought seriously about finding a job because I didn't think I could do it anymore. She had reflux and screamed a lot, and I didn't know why. But I'm so glad I stuck it out, I would hate to miss seeing her and spending time with her all day, every day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-59548 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:33:35 +0000 pastemoo 59548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be a SAHM if we were rich. Since we're not--I'd be miserable on the mini budget we'd have (it's doable, but I'd be frustrated). I never want to work at home--I would end up working 24/7.<br /> So.... my option is to go back to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-59509 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:24:35 +0000 MaisyMay 59509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know that I'll need to be a working mom for at least the first kiddo. Hopefully I'll be able to stay at home for a second if we have one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-1489 Wed, 28 Sep 2011 18:51:22 +0000 Mrs. Maple Leaf 1489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ideally I will be able to work from home when the time comes. We are hoping a combination of me working from home with a part time nanny will be able to be worked out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-1384 Wed, 28 Sep 2011 09:58:33 +0000 anewme 1384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went back after 3 months maternity leave as a full time working mom. But I have always said it was a test period, as I fully wanted to be a SAHM. After 3 months, I knew it was just too much to handle and luckily I was able to drop my status at work to PT, so now I only work 2 days a week. I don't think I could totally see myself as a SAHM, it's really a lot of work and I love being able to keep a little part of my life that was pre-baby like my work and my coworkers and adult stimulation. For now, this is working out for us really well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-1365 Tue, 27 Sep 2011 23:15:53 +0000 Becksabee 1365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll be a working mom, but I'd like to eventually be a SAHM or WAHM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-1230 Tue, 27 Sep 2011 08:43:25 +0000 Adira 1230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama-Ek - I'm actually pretty concerned about that! Leaving for 12 weeks and then coming back, I feel like it'll be hard to get back on track and up-to-date. I'm also concerned that if I switch to part-time (which is my plan when we have kids), it'll be even harder to keep up with my career. I guess I won't know for sure until it happens, but that is one of my worries. I'm sorry to hear that it's affected your career, but I'm guessing it's unavoidable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-1227 Tue, 27 Sep 2011 08:25:35 +0000 Mama Ek 1227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a working mom and I like to work but my commute is the pits! My little boy is in daycare from 7 - 6:15 and I commute 1 hour 20 minutes each way. I wish I had a 9-5 job, 10 minutes from my house. </p> <p>@Adira - i feel my career is the same, it would be hard to leave and come back - I would end up working for the people that are under me now...i can already tell that because of my maternity leave and leaving early it has effected my career - i guess that is an entirely different subject though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-1154 Mon, 26 Sep 2011 19:55:41 +0000 MaisyMay 1154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that I'd like to be a WAHM, maybe have a few months with baby and then go into some sort of daycare? or even nanny for somebody who was okay with me bringing my munchkin. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-1149 Mon, 26 Sep 2011 19:17:28 +0000 mediagirl 1149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@adira - I work for a software company in a very specialized field. It would be almost impossible for me to get back into it in this area if I didn't have my job or another job to go back to at my current company. That's another reason why SAHM would not work for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-1146 Mon, 26 Sep 2011 19:05:15 +0000 alongfarview 1146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly don't know yet, and I feel like most days my answer depends on how much I like my job at the moment (like today, I would LOVE to be a SAHM!). But in all seriousness, I guess what I want most of all is the choice to be flexible when we do have kids so that I can make whatever choice works best for me, my husband and our family. Ultimately, I think I'd love to be a WAHM, but I'm not positive I'll be able to find employment that supports that. Both of us had SAHMs for at least the first few years and if I could do that (and not be miserable) I think I'd like to. But again, I mainly want the choice rather than feeling forced into any specific decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-1106 Mon, 26 Sep 2011 15:00:28 +0000 Adira 1106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope this doesn't get controversial, but I am curious - for those of you that are SAHM or are planning on becoming SAHM, can I ask what you did/are doing before you became/become a SAHM?</p> <p>I guess I'm curious because I'm an engineer and it's the kind of career where once you get out, it's hard to get back in. If I decided to become a SAHM, it's very unlikely that I'd ever be able to go back to engineering, or I'd have to go back to school to do it.</p> <p>I think being a SAHM is wonderful and I'm jealous of all the ladies who are currently (or will be in the future) doing it! My mom was a SAHM until we were in school, and then she volunteered/worked part time until we were a lot older. But I don't think I could ever do it. Partly because we need the extra income from my job. But <i>mostly</i> because I know I'd never be able to come back to my career if I left, and I spent a lot of time, energy, and money to get where I am today, and I feel like it would've been all for naught if I left my career.</p> <p>I'm curious how other people feel about this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-1105 Mon, 26 Sep 2011 14:51:29 +0000 mediagirl 1105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love to be a SAHM but it's just not going to work out for us. We did our financial spreadsheet and right now we can't have one of us stay home. We would be able to if we stopped saving as much as we do now and we stopped sending as much to the house (sent just the mortgage payment) but we don't want to do that. We want to actually be able to retire someday and being a SAHM or having a SAHD won't allow that to happen. </p> <p>I am going to try to WFH at some point after the birth. We plan for me to take 3 months off (1.5 months unpaid) when a baby is born. He will then take 1 month off (unpaid) when I go back to work and hopefully after that I can work out a partial WFH schedule. Then we'll figure out what to do about daycare/nanny/etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-948 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 13:16:58 +0000 LazyLightning 948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would much prefer to be a SAHM, but I do like making extra money for our family. My mom was a SAHM and she was awesome at it. My plan right now is to get a flexible job that allows me to do some work from home, some work at an office. This may be teaching online, consulting, or something similar. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-947 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 13:15:31 +0000 rawrasaur 947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would want to start as a SAHM and then become a WAHM as they got older, but that would require finding a job that would let me work from home so it is hard to plan that situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-940 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 12:11:15 +0000 Sha 940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in a similar boat as Winniebee...my husband is a pediatric resident and I don't see staying home or part-time as options for the next few years. That said, I love my job and I don't think I'm cut out to be a SAHM anyway. I am able to work from home but I usually go into the office because I find it distracting to be home with the kids there (we do a nanny-share), and because I don't have a dedicated home office so I work from my bedroom and by the end of the day I feel like a hermit. In a perfect world I'd love to have the option to dial back on work or go part-time, but I don't think I'd stay home full-time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-936 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 11:46:09 +0000 tequiero21 936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'll be a sahm when my twins are born. but when they're older, i can't imagine staying at home all day. i'd have to either pick up a real hobby (like photography) or go back to work, even if it's only part-time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-935 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 11:35:56 +0000 Wondermommy 935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a working (single) mom with my oldest out of necessity, but now I'm a SAHM with my youngest (thank goodness for my SO and his great job). But, when the little one gets old enough to start school, I'll go back to being a working mom.<br /> So, I guess my preference is being a working mom, seeing as I've had a taste of both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-930 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 11:25:12 +0000 meaganceleste 930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would LOVE to be a SAHM, but that's just not in the cards for us. I have the ability to work from home at my current job (although its really an emergencies only thing), so I'm hoping that once we have a kiddo around, I'll be able to work from home a few days a week or switch to a reduced schedule. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-927 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 11:20:29 +0000 Jenna 927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now, I hope to be a SAHM (and then maybe make a transition into a WAHM, but who knows.) </p> <p>My mom was a SAHM until I was about 4, and once she did go to work it was a place that was child friendly, and many days I went with her. Granted, I was shy and well behaved. She was such a hands-on mom and most of our time at home was spent learning. I ended up fairly advanced for my age... especially compared to the other children in our area. </p> <p>I want to give the best to our children, and considering where we live, I think the best will be me. </p> <p>This may, of course, all change once children actually come along! We'll probably end up playing it all by ear : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-925 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 11:10:32 +0000 twodoghouse 925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I have always planned on me staying home with our (future) kids. Both of our moms were SAHMs so I think that had a big impact on our decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-924 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 11:03:48 +0000 Adira 924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have kids yet, but I'm pretty sure when I do, I'll be a working mom, at least part time. I think I'd love to be a WAHM, but I know I probably wouldn't be as productive at home, and my job probably wouldn't support working at home.</p> <p>Plus, I love my job and I love being able to interact with my coworkers. I'd hate to lose that. Plus I've spent too many years of school to stop working and be a SAHM. It'd be hard to get back into the industry if I quit working and one day wanted to go back to it, so I think I'll probably be a working mom, part time, and eventually back to full time as my kids get older. At least that's the plan! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-923 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 10:51:41 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a working mom. Right now, I can't work from home but would love to have that option in the near future. </p> <p>After the first 2 months of Mavi's birth I wanted to rip my hair out. Not because I had a difficult baby, but because only doing baby stuff and talking baby all the time was too much for me. I needed to get back on my computer and start designing. </p> <p>So ya, I could NEVER be a SAHM and kuddos to those who are. It is beyond hard and not my cup of tea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-920 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 10:43:34 +0000 winniebee 920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know what I would prefer! If this pregnancy sticks, I'll be due at the end of May.</p> <p>I know it will be very difficult for me to work full time or even part time with my current job (attorney at a law firm) but currently my husband is a surgery resident with a few more years left to go. So, I'll be working for the foreseeable future anyways. We plan to see how it goes with me working and eventually down the road I may cut back or be a SAHM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-prefer-to-be-a-sahm-wahm-or-working-mom#post-918 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 10:38:57 +0000 Mrs. Bee 918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I LOVE being a working at home mom because I have so much flexibility. But I just love working at home in general and never want to go into an office again. It's not for everyone though because it can get really lonely!</p> <p>I think being a sahm is one of the hardest jobs in the world, and I'm just not cut out for it. I'm a much happier, and better mom when I'm working. I truly appreciate the time that I have with Charlie and focus on him 100% (or as close to it as I can ;) when I'm with him).</p> <p>What is your ideal work/mom situation? </p>