https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 11:30:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6/page/2#post-1091984 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 09:40:49 +0000 Silva 1091984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 5 months, and I'm nowhere near ready. I love having this time with just her. Our plan was to wait until she was 2 to start trying again, but somedays I want to wait longer. I'm sure I will get the baby fever again, but right now I just love having this special time to really get to know her.<br /> Obviously I would still love her just as much if I got pregnant...I don't know, there is something about it being "just us" that feels really nice right now.<br /> Plus, I'm totally exhausted...so I don't know how I'd deal with the crazy fatigue of pregnancy and still have the energy to play with her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6/page/2#post-1091907 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 09:10:33 +0000 mrsmate 1091907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friends who were pregnant while taking care of a baby seemed to have a much tougher time than the ones whose older children were toddlers, not just physically but emotionally. I'm glad my LOs will be just about 3yrs apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6/page/2#post-1091777 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 08:29:05 +0000 LuLu Mom 1091777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are planning on TTC when LO is 18 months old making the kids just over 2 years apart if everything goes according to plan (ha) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6/page/2#post-1091764 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 08:24:32 +0000 Dandelion 1091764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: When he was about a year old, I was ready for another...but life had other plans and I got divorced instead...so by the time I got around making more kids he was older. Now that he's older and I'm going through it, I don't know what I was thinking before, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6/page/2#post-1091756 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 08:22:37 +0000 anonysquire 1091756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: Ok now I am rethinking my timeline lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6/page/2#post-1091750 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 08:21:32 +0000 Dandelion 1091750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Yep...guess who gets the clothes out of the dryer? lol. He's so small, he doesn't have to bend down like I do, so it's easier for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6/page/2#post-1091744 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 08:20:21 +0000 anonysquire 1091744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: That makes sense! I might take advantage of that one though, "Hey child, can you get mommy some crackers and ginger ale stat?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6/page/2#post-1091641 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 07:30:58 +0000 Dandelion 1091641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pregnant with a 6 year old and it's pretty nice because he's so understanding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6/page/2#post-1091636 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 07:29:33 +0000 Koolbreeze 1091636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Toddler. My kids are 2.5 years apart and I think its prefect and handling DS1 while pregnant wasn't too hard on me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6/page/2#post-1091633 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 07:28:01 +0000 NavyRN2012 1091633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pregnant with a toddler, hands down. I wouldn't want it so much for the pregnancy, but more for after the baby came. Two babies would be too much for me to handle, though a baby and a toddler isn't a walk in the park. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1091522 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 01:53:01 +0000 sandy 1091522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted toddler. I want LO to be potty trained before I have a another baby. I also want her to be ready for some type of preschool program so she can have her own activities out of the house while I'm caring for the newborn. </p> <p>@lamariniere: this is the same spacing I'm shooting for. I'm planning to start trying for baby #2 after LO turns two...and hopefully they'll be right around 3 years apart </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1091498 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 00:57:55 +0000 lamariniere 1091498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant with baby 2 and I have a 2.5 year old. I'm happy the spacing has worked out so that the kids will be 3 years apart. My toddler is self sufficient enough that I don't have to constantly baby him...and he has been potty trained since this summer. If I had been pregnant when he was just over a year, I feel like it would have been way more stressful and tiring for me. That said, you can never really know what to expect! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1091468 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 23:49:17 +0000 anonysquire 1091468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: see that's what I'm thinking. Besides my older brother and I are 14 months apart and my sister and I are 16 months apart. I love it that way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1091007 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 18:29:53 +0000 googly-eyes 1091007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it ultimately depends to me on sleep but I think I'd rather be pregnant with a baby than a toddler. However that's just the pregnancy part! The newborn part Id rather do with an older kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090893 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 17:12:34 +0000 Lindsay05 1090893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is so hard to choose. Im currently 6 months pregnant with #2 and DD is 15 months. I am finding this to be extremely difficult. Like days where I wake up already exhausted and LO is whining at my feet and I still have to put ina full day! It would be nice to have one that was immobile but not sure if going through the beginning of toddler phase with a newborn isoverly appealing as well. On the other hand, an older toddler may be much more independent butyou lose that close gap between the two. Sooo... I have no idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090892 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 17:12:22 +0000 Ash 1090892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: my sil got pregnant when get lo was 3mos. She says it's not too bad but she plans on having 2 more in the next 2 years. Eek. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090872 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 16:57:46 +0000 Running Elley 1090872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to be the minority here but I'd say newborn to 1 year old! I got pregnant when E was 4 months old and it was MUCH easier to be pregnant while he was immobile, etc. Now he's almost a year and he's running around (has been walking since 9.5 months) and into everything- being pregnant feels harder now than it did in the beginning! He also took more naps when I was in my first tri (3 versus 1-2) which was really nice when I was sick and exhausted at the beginning because I could just nap with him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090848 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 16:43:28 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1090848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>School age. Due to life circumstances.</p> <p>But otherwise with a toddler. At least a one year old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090841 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 16:41:48 +0000 SweetMamaM 1090841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're hoping to start trying again once this one that is currently baking is a year old. Given it took us seven months to get pregnant, it means they'll be between 12 and 19 months apart, hopefully.<br /> My friend got pregnant with her second very soon after delivering her first (her son was born six days before her daughter's first birthday) and I know she found it quite hard. I want a little time to get back in shape first! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090791 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 16:17:18 +0000 Pepper 1090791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Toddler. Only because I'd hope life is a little more routine by that point. I'd say because I'd hopefully be getting more sleep, but I have friends with 3 and 4 year olds that say they get less sleep than when their kids were newborns. Either way, getting pregnant while DS is a baby is out of the question! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090782 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 16:12:10 +0000 HLK208 1090782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If toddler is 2.5 and up, then yes :) that's how old my first was when I was pregnant with #2. The age wasn't hard (except that DS would wake up at 5am and getting up with him while pregnant wasn't easy).</p> <p>Younger than 2 does seem difficult especially when I was super sick and weak for both of my last pregnancies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090768 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 16:04:45 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1090768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our girls are 21 months apart. It was pretty tough, but is really good now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090762 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:58:32 +0000 Cherrybee 1090762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't imagine getting pregnant again right now! 2 months pp and I still don't feel anywhere near healed not to mention that DD demands all my time, energy and emotion. I doubt I will be ready to TTC #2 until DD is at least a year old. </p> <p>That said, I suspect it would be easier to be pregnant with a young baby as they'd be lighter to carry and you won't have to chase them around! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090709 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:34:10 +0000 cascademom 1090709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm thinking pregnant with a toddler. It's looking that way since we haven't started TTC again while LO turned 1 recently. We're working on independent play with him. If we weren't so exciting to us, it would make managing a newborn easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090607 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:02:03 +0000 jhd 1090607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm just now pregnant with #1 but we are hoping to have them quite close in age. I want to stay at home while they're babies but be able to go back to work when they're in school. So we're aiming to have them close together. We'll just see if life decides to cooperate with my plans! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090602 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:00:54 +0000 Foodnerd81 1090602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: haha that's also an interesting question!</p> <p>I say toddler, because I was so so tired in the first trimester, I couldn't deal with the motn wakeups and constantly soothing. But C is being a pill today- right now I'm thinking she doesn't need a sibling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090599 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 14:57:52 +0000 Lozza 1090599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO will be 2.5 when Baby #2 is born, and I think it's a good gap. Less so for during-pregnancy reasons, but because at age 2.5, DS is fairly self-sufficient in a lot of ways, can be left alone (not ALONE alone, but if he's playing downstairs, I could easily run upstairs and spend 15 minutes changing a newborn or something and not worry about him at all), he can follow directions and actually be pretty helpful at times, etc.<br /> I would not have wanted to bring home a newborn when DS was in that stage of being mobile and resistant to being contained, but needing constant observation (and unable to talk or follow directions). So I'd way rather bring home a newborn to a 2.5 year old than, say, a 15 month old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090572 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 14:50:11 +0000 bookwormmama 1090572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others I would rather have an older kid (we are hoping for a 3.5-4.5 year age gap between kids) but since it wasn't an option I voted toddler. I watch a baby (11 months) right now and it is hard. His 4 year old brother is easier...and he will take it easy on me if I tell him my back is hurting, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090561 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 14:47:02 +0000 Shutterbug 1090561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha I totally read this as pregnant with (i.e. - give birth to) a newborn or a toddler. Like, would you rather skip the newborn stage but you have to give birth to a two year old. Totally different question... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-6#post-1090560 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 14:46:59 +0000 lemondrop 1090560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Toddler all the way, the fact that my little guy can walk on his own saves my life!! I can't imagine first tri (or being super pregnant) with a non-walker, plus he was a holy terror as he was learning. He was everywhere, unstable, and attracted to everything dangerous. Now he's under decent voice control, so I can call him in closer rather than chasing him down.</p> <p>I also wanted to be on the closer end of weaning before getting pregnant (12-18 months). I'm glad it worked out that we were weaning when I got pregnant again, nursing was soooooooo uncomfortable really fast, you couldn't have paid me to continue breastfeeding (that's saying a lot, because I loved it after about 6 months.) </p>