https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 11 Nov 2026 13:32:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091612 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 07:18:23 +0000 NavyRN2012 1091612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had the first. Labor/delivery/recovery was a breeze, breastfeeding was not. I beat myself up for a long time about not being able to breastfeed (due to anatomical issues, refusing to latch, weight loss, and nonexistent supply regardless of around the clock pumping). I think I would choose this again over the latter still though because my baby is very healthy and I don't feel we've lost any bonding due to being unable to breastfeed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091558 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 05:42:13 +0000 Bookish 1091558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I picked #2 because that's what happened to me! Even though recovery sucked (a lot!), BF-ing lasts a lot longer and I'm grateful I'm able to do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091516 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 01:25:17 +0000 lamariniere 1091516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a great vaginal delivery, but really struggled with very painful breastfeeding for the first 3 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091491 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 00:36:08 +0000 sandy 1091491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I chose csection and breastfeeding. </p> <p>I had an unplanned csection and my recovery was super easy. Breastfeeding was possibly the most stressful experience of my life but I cherished the whole 14 months I was able to breastfeed. I loved the closeness and I LOVED the convenience...no bottle washing and no buying/mixing formula. I'd rather have one difficult day of delivery and be able to breastfeed...fortunately my csection was not complicated </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091467 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 23:49:11 +0000 birdofafeather 1091467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I chose csection and breastfeeding. I was lucky to have an uncomplicated natural vaginal birth and back on my feet very quickly, but being able to BF my daughter for the last 8 months has been something I cherish even more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091416 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 22:28:01 +0000 sarac 1091416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty sad about having a (complicated) vaginal delivery, but I've been breastfeeding for two years. That was one experience, this has been our way of life for HER entire life. I'd take breastfeeding over my dream delivery ANY day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091406 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 22:16:55 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1091406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would choose c section and breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091335 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 21:22:49 +0000 LittleFox 1091335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would choose the breastfeeding. I like breastfeeding. It's an important part of my relationship with LO, and we both enjoy it. I did have a difficult birth that lead to a c-section, so that more accurately describes the experience, as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091266 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 20:46:33 +0000 daniellemybelle 1091266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't been through either, but if I had to choose, I would choose breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091215 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 20:30:54 +0000 skibobrown 1091215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the first scenario -- uncomplicated delivery but unable to breastfeed. I've done that once, and it worked well for me, so I would do it again. I would hate to need a c-section the next time around after having one standard vaginal delivery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091154 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 20:09:46 +0000 yin 1091154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a vaginal with no complications and unable to breastfeed directly. I decided to EP for my LO, and it was tough especially for a full year. Both my sisters had c-sections and were able to breastfeed for a year. In the end what matters is a healthy baby. I wouldn't mind having a c-section or feeding my baby formula as long as he/she is healthy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091143 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 20:04:53 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1091143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Number two is pretty much how it went for me. I'd do it again.<br /> Breast feeding lasts a lot longer than delivery. </p> <p>A friend of mine had an relatively easy vaginal delivery around the same time as I had my c section and my recovery was by far easier. Ironically, she's formula feeding now. But she was able to BF. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091133 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 19:57:31 +0000 swedishfish 1091133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Vaginal, no breastfeeding hands down. I know too many people who struggled to recover from c-sections. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091085 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 19:31:23 +0000 mediagirl 1091085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. I had both and I know I'm very lucky. I have known some moms who were traumatized by their birth experience and couldn't bond with their babies right away. I wouldn't want that. So, I guess a good birth, no breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091061 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 19:13:34 +0000 Ree723 1091061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>C-section and breastfeeding! I went into labour not really caring how LO was born - as long as baby and I were safe and healthy, I didn't care. I also went into BF'ing with a similar attitude - if it works, great, but I'm not going to stress myself out and go crazy if it doesn't. Luckily, I had an easy, uncomplicated birth and no problems BF'ing.</p> <p>Having been through it all now, BF'ing is far more important to me than having my "ideal" birth and that is what I'd choose. I still think the day your child is born is a happy, magical one, regardless of how it all goes down, so being able to BF for a year is far more important than my memory of one day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1091017 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 18:35:42 +0000 HLK208 1091017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tough question! </p> <p>Breastfeeding was/is important to me and I was able to for over a year with both kids. I also had simple, uncomplicated deliveries - they were the best days of my life. I couldn't imagine looking back to when my children were born and feeling upset. I think about the day they were born whenever I have rough days as a mom so if it were traumatic, I might not be able to do that? I'm not sure. I'd pick the uncomplicated delivery. Sometimes, I feel like my time spent breastfeeding hasn't paid off because my children get sick often, DS has allergies and my children prefer DH over me most days - I wouldn't say we bond more because I breastfed/breastfeed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090973 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 18:15:22 +0000 lawbee11 1090973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely choose complicated c-section but be able to breastfeed. Before I gave birth breastfeeding was (and still is) more important to me than the type of delivery I had. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090960 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 18:08:32 +0000 Kemma 1090960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I narrowly avoided a c-section but still had a long traumatic delivery (27 hours of active labour, ventouse delivery, episiotomy) and I had my share of struggles with breastfeeding (ties, thrush, strikes and bad latch) but looking back at eleven months post partum, I still wouldn't choose the other option. </p> <p>Even with a c-section, recovery is only a short period of time versus being able to extended breastfeed into toddlerhood. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090875 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 16:58:59 +0000 banana 1090875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would pick #2 (c-section/breastfeed) hands down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090870 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 16:55:10 +0000 Running Elley 1090870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd pick the good delivery. That was basically what I ended up with (after trying to BF for 3.5 months of hell). I'd love to be able to breastfeed my children but I also want to be able to look back with joy on the day that my children were born. That is more important to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090865 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 16:50:57 +0000 SweetMamaM 1090865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Having friends who have ended up with PTSD over their complicated births, I'd pick easy birth, can't breast feed for me. Would be a pity if these F cups never came to any use though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090682 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:26:10 +0000 luckypenny 1090682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would pick an easy birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090681 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:25:53 +0000 autumnlove 1090681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>C section and breastfeed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090679 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:24:48 +0000 BananaPancakes 1090679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had un-complicated scheduled c-section, and only breastfed for 4 months (and never without it being stressful). I'm pretty much over the fact that I didn't get to breastfeed for as long as I would have liked, nor was it ever very satisfying, but I hated every second of my surgery and never want to do it again. Ever. I'd rather have had a wonderful vaginal birth and not had to go through a c-section and not breastfeed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090672 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:22:20 +0000 blackbird 1090672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#1 was how it went for me! BFing was important to me, but now that E is FF, I could care less. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090669 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:20:52 +0000 pelikila 1090669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would prefer to have a stressful / complicated delivery but be able to breastfeed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090665 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:19:27 +0000 DillonLion 1090665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Vaginal delivery and not be able to breastfeed. Delivery/recovery is over relatively quickly. I've struggled for an entire year to breastfeed and it has been a really cruddy experience for me. If it was just not an option to begin with, that would have been monumentally easier for me and I could have made my peace and moved on quicker.</p> <p>Eta: it has been challenging for LO as well who had reflux and latch problems and hated nursing in general. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090664 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:19:21 +0000 kjpugs 1090664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: good point! It does sound like the tougher option for the mom, but possibly more beneficial. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090663 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:18:46 +0000 kjpugs 1090663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still have a hard time deciding! I've never had major surgery and that terrifies me. As does recovery- since we have dogs, and I do not have family nearby- recovering with a newborn? Scary! breastfeeding is important to me, but then again I was exclusively formula fed and I'm fine. I think my fear of a "bad" delivery is bigger than my fear of not being successful at breastfeeding. But clearly I'd rather just have both :) And no one wants to pay for formula, let's just add THAT on! But a c-section means longer maternity leave. It's win/win and lose/lose at the same time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-7#post-1090662 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 15:18:38 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1090662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before going into all this, I was very concerned about having a safe delivery (vaginal) but wasn't 100% certain I would be able to keep up with breastfeeding. </p> <p>For me, the second option is tough, it means the mom really sacrificing the body for both delivery AND breastfeeding! </p>